Marauderrt10 Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 Hi everyone. My names Chris and I'm 25 years old. The last year has been very very rocky between me and my girlfriend. She cheated on me with her ex boyfriend shortly after we had our first child (she's one now) she cheated on me with him in December of last year and said some pretty mean and hateful things to him over text messages. So I took her ass to court to get custody of our child because she became alcoholic and somewhat psycho at some point . Dumb mistake on my part she wanted to call it off and work things out with me, so we both agreed on a mutual understanding. Shortly after that I noticed she was being very secretive of her phone. So when she went to bed I looked at it and say she was talking to other guys and went so far as to go over one dudes house to watch movies with him. I confronted him and shortly after he moved away. I gave her another chance just because we have a beautiful daughter and I don't want to to thru that crap again. Dumb on my part I guess. Everything after that point has been OK I guess till last Thursday, when she told me she is leaving me for a woman (she's bisexual) and that her and I don't really have anything in common and she's not sure what she wants. So she left and we've been talking on an off, and at some point she says she misses me and that she just needs space (her father is VERY controlling of her, her whole life) right now. So I haven't really been bothering her much besides the fact that I tell her I miss her, I love her, and that Our daughter and I will be here if you come back. We have been together for 3 years and the first year was phenomenal, we had great sex the best ever actually (both of us said that) and right after she had the baby everything changed. Is she just suffering from post pardum depression and needs someone to fill the void? I work 40hr a week pay all the bills and buy her whatever she wants (she has expensive taste gucci bags, Chanel, Dior) all the expensive brands. She is now 21 but had the baby when she was 20. She still blames me for taking her to court and for making her a mother at the age of 20. I am just having a very hard time with all this. I don't know if she's just doing this to make me super jealous. I do admit I probably could have been there more for her emotionally like she says I haven't been. But there are only so many hours in the day for me to do things when I'm not working. I just need some advice if I'm doing the right thing by giving her another chance after all this? Or should I just try for custody of our child again and just kick her to the curb?
Elle1975 Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 People want full custody of their child when revenge clearly seems to be the only motivation; I would separate indeed, but I would go for shared custody, because I don't see how it is beneficial to grow up without a father or a mother. Unless she is unfit? I personally see a lot of drama in your relationship, and I would like to say you both have to grow up and stop the "taking her ass to court" and sleeping around.
Author Marauderrt10 Posted August 21, 2014 Author Posted August 21, 2014 People want full custody of their child when revenge clearly seems to be the only motivation; I would separate indeed, but I would go for shared custody, because I don't see how it is beneficial to grow up without a father or a mother. Unless she is unfit? I personally see a lot of drama in your relationship, and I would like to say you both have to grow up and stop the "taking her ass to court" and sleeping around. She is definitely classified as an unfit mother. For most of the baby's life she has been over my mothers house. When I'm off work the baby is at home and when I work the baby is at my mothers so both of us can have a break. She really has not interest in being in the baby's life and she even admitted it a few days ago. I do realize there are certain things I need to work on especially the whole thing with the court system. The reason why I wanted custody of our child is she always seems very jealous of the attention the baby gets over her. She even went as far as to turn off all of the baby's toys before I left for work because they were apparently "annoying" her. The baby started crying and I obviously lost it on her. I just don't get if all this is post pardom or she just doesn't want to be a mother?
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