UnicornGirl Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 I feel I've found the perfect guy, and it was totally by chance, at a random gathering at school ... that was two weeks ago and now we've seen each other twice a week for two hours, for lunch, for talking in his room ... I don't know if he's interested though and I'm extremely cautious since his heart was broken by his girlfriend of one year repeatedly (she cheated on him, broke up/got back together several times), and he just ended it for good with her in January. He's been enthusiastic about getting together, but does that mean he's interested in me in a romantic sense? We spend a lot of one on one time together. He mentioned casually in a conversation that I was a "very pretty girl" .... this is all so ridiculous but I'm losing my mind wondering about the situation. Should I ignore him for a while to keep his interest? Or just keep being available to spend time with him? Is a guy who's two months out of a difficult relationship usually open to something new? Other background is I'm five months out of a breakup with a lot of the same hell he went through. We've kind of bonded over that. Other background is we're both from the same city and I'm wondering if I should try to hang out with him at home during an upcoming vacation? When I suggested it to him he said we can also hang out with this other girl who's from our city. We all live on the other coast from our school so I'm glad to find someone so nearby. I'm so afraid to ruin things, but it's agonizing pining after him in this way. He had to cancel getting together this weekend and that whole thing happened where someone you like isn't available, therefore your feelings intensify incredibly ... help! What do I do? Any advice appreciated ...
_Saffy_ Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 argh sounds like we are in a similar situation. theres a guy that i really like, we have bonded really well, but im kinda afraid to push things because he hasnt long got out of a relationship and still talks about her a lot, and im pretty much in the same situation. i'm not sure that this guy is interested in me in a romantic sense either, or whether we just bonded because of similar circumstances. i guess we have to do the same thing, and just hold out for a more definite sign
ReluctantRomeo Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Following my unceremonious dumping on New Year's, I've bonded to varying degrees with several girls in the same situation. Especially of course, the luscious Saffy I think you have to bear in mind that both of you are on a rebound, so there's no telling where this will lead - maybe it's real attraction, maybe just 2 lonely hearts bonding. But I have an inspirational story: this very situation has in the past led to someone who became my most serious girlfriend and then one of my best friends. As for the short term, don't pressure him with relational commitment and don't think this way yourself. But if you're feeling down and need a chat or a guy to take you out on a non-date (which may or may not turn out to be a date), you have every right to phone him on this basis. In his shoes I'd be pleased to hear from you. That's what friends are for!
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