Impulsive break up, psychologically paranoid and anxious ex bf

[esther91]

Sudden and weird breakup, please help me to understand.

 

 

I don't understand him. After I confessed a personal lie, my ex bf became very paranoid. Before that he was head over heels for me, always missed and loved me, both emotionally and sexually attracted to me. As for him, I am the girl who is closest one to his ideal girl imagined ever. He used to be sad whenever I am sad and tried to make me happy always. He had not girlfriend for 6 years. I am the first one after 6 year and third gf in his life. He is late 20s. Before the confession I also said that some white lies can be acceptable if they don't have bad intentions. He always become paranoid about these lies. I said that they are not intended for cheating, only to make me seem better. He accepted it.He has a paranoid personality and always want to be in control.

 

After 2 or 3 weeks, I confessed and become paranoid and believed that I will always lie. To me, these were not big deal. No cheating. He may have thought the possibility that I cheat.

5-6 days after confession, he impulsively broke up with me. he didn't work properly since he said that he was upset and grieving, having anxiety due to lies. After the excessive stress he went to his home to sleep because of his anxious and paranoid psychology. A few days before breakup, there weren't any indication to break up, he used to miss and spend time with me, and want to have sex. He had more feelings for me than I am for him.

 

I think this break up is impulsive and he is psychologically devastated. He said he knows he will definitely regret the break up. How can end someone's feeling all at once? Is there any chance about him coming back? He is very stubborn guy. How can I get him back? What does he feel about me possibly?

 

He also offered friendship and I didn't accept it after a while after break up. Then he said OK. I hope you can find more powerful guy.