Ex Girlfriend Wanted To Meet For Coffee. What Do You Think?

[Dangraystyle]

Hello Loveshackians.

 

My ex girlfriend randomly text me today to meet up for coffee 3 months after split, but before we begin, i'll quickly go over my story, I believe its a good one.

 

We were together 9 months like a whirlwind. I was 23, her 25. It started off fantastically until the cracks gradually began to show at the end. We are both on different paths.

 

Anyway she broke up with me. At least 1 of us had the balls to finally rip the band aid off. She text me a week later and we had an emotional weekend that led to sex and back together.

 

The next day she was frustrated and shouted at me because I didn't have much time for her anymore due to training yoga every day. So I ended it as it was clearly all wrong.

 

We saw each other in the gym a few times over the next month and in particular the last time we talked for an hour and the banter and conversation was awesome. We are clearly very compatible on many levels. We hugged and I tell her "I do miss you, you know" she said she misses me too and rests her head in my neck like she used to. We let go and parted.

 

One night I go out with my family and felt a deep surge of sadness that my ex was not here anymore. The next day I see her at the gym, she looked great, I told her I didnt feel well and she lookd really dissapointed as I left and basically gave her the cold shoulder. This was the beginning of a bad turn for us. More cold shoulders and name calling from both sides over the next week, then I see she is flirting with other guys on twitter.

 

This is the point where I do something HORRENDOUS. I send the guy she has been flirting with and wants to meet up with at her work a message saying truly horrible things that I am ashamed of. I regret it almost instantly but the damage was done. She heard, stormed round my house and it was a mess.

 

Apologies were given to her, which she finally accepted, but after that I left it alone. I shut down all social media, joined a different gym and went through the pain and knowledge that I did something so terrible to somebody who once meant so much.

 

A month later(last week) I sent a message saying how sorry I am, how I wish we could be friends and how proud of her I am.(She is competing in a fitness model show on stage and she made such a great transformation and I truly am proud of her, as she struggled with her weight). I am at a point in my life where I no longer want committed relationships any more and am fully committed to my path in life. Having relationships in general with people is a wonderful thing and I did miss our chemistry and connection as people. I truly didn't want anything from her at this point. However her response was robotic and weak. So I decided to let it go forever.

 

Today she messaged me to meet for a coffee.

 

We spent almost 2 hours together and it was quite wonderful. Relaxing, comfortable, great banter. It wasn't explosive but that connection is still completely there and well and truly alive. It feels so right in her presence. She kept buying more coffees in 3 different coffee shops so she obviously felt the same.

 

It's quite clear that relationship status is never going to work for us. I even tell her how i'll never be in a committed relationship again because I value a good relationship to much to let it be ruined and because essentially I am so busy with achieving my goals.

 

Some points to make:

 

1. She hugged me a few times.

2. She wore the perfume she wore on date nights.

3. Wants to do this again some time.

4. Added lipstick to her lips halfway in.

 

She also:

 

1. Mentioned a horrific date she had during the breakup where she rejected the guy and he walked up to her at the gym and shouted at her in her face.

2. Talked about a girlfriend for me in the future.

 

I very much care for her as a person and I would say the feeling is mutual. There is some sexual feelings there for me though. At one point I looked into her eyes and something sexual stirred within me. However despite all that I would say we are just friends and I really hope that will be the case.

Edited August 20, 2014 by Dangraystyle
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