Sckott Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Not only that, but to have all these expectations and expect her to be attracted to you? It all misses the point entirely. There's a chemistry betwen two people who are interested in each other. Go ahead and make that mental checklist, check it twice! That will not win you true love. It will get you a nice guy, but that will take potentially years and by the time the 2nd date comes and goes, he's no longer attractive to you... You have to find someone you enjoy being with, learn about each other, and find the good times. Sometimes even while you don't know it, you create love. Checklists and expectations? I agree; I'd move on as a guy.
iceisles Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 She said she made that list because guys always jetted after a few dates. I wonder if they hit the exits because they sensed they were be analyzed from every angle.
alphamale Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Originally posted by iceisles Girls who have specific "criteria" scare me away. For example, I spoke to this one girl who insisted that a guy must be somewhat attractive, financially secure, polite, have a good sense of humor, trusting of their partner, etc. While most of these are reasonable requests, I don't think someone should verbalize all of their expectations straight up. Most women (and men) can tell you what they THINK they are looking for, ICEISLES. But the funny this is that this woman above probably ended up banging some dude who was not that great looking, unemployed, rude, too serious and totally untrustworthy. Most people say the politically correct things when verbalizing what they are looking for in someone else.
NiCoLe20 Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 along with the same lines of being clingy, i think calling too much will make a guy run. if you seem obssessed and seem like you have no other things to do, he will probably drop you. also- i think if you act like his mom he will run away too lol. if your always yelling, demanding things, shutting him up, and just being mean in general, he will find someone better.
laRubiaBonita Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Being named Lorena Bobitt Or any knife-weilding-weenie-whacker~!
iceisles Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 The first thing she says when you drop your shorts is, "How many times were you circumcised?"
EC Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Most women (and men) can tell you what they THINK they are looking for, ICEISLES. But the funny this is that this woman above probably ended up banging some dude who was not that great looking, unemployed, rude, too serious and totally untrustworthy. Most people say the politically correct things when verbalizing what they are looking for in someone else. Completely agree. I remember when I was single I "stated" that I was looking for all those things, and that I wanted all those things but man I didn't know jack and ended up with the complete opposite and then realized that the opposite was what I needed.
iceisles Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Originally posted by EtErNaLlYCoNfUsEd Completely agree. I remember when I was single I "stated" that I was looking for all those things, and that I wanted all those things but man I didn't know jack and ended up with the complete opposite and then realized that the opposite was what I needed. This may be suited for another thread entirely, but why do you think opposites attract? Wouldn't you think you would get along better with someone with whom you had a lot more in common with?
EC Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 This may be suited for another thread entirely, but why do you think opposites attract? Wouldn't you think you would get along better with someone with whom you had a lot more in common with? Because how can you learn and grow from a person who is just like you. You need someone that can balance you out. Your soul mate. The ying and yang.
Bronzepen Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Originally posted by iceisles This may be suited for another thread entirely, but why do you think opposites attract? Wouldn't you think you would get along better with someone with whom you had a lot more in common with? Maybe for some but for most it's boring and predictable. Most people want a challenge, a spark, new interests, etc... They want the other person to introduce them to something new. As for the original question of this thread. A man will run for the hills if a woman says "Come to daddy, aha ha ha" in a Herman Munster voice.
iceisles Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 A guy also doesn't want to hear, "Can we drop by Wal-Mart so I can pick up some cream for this rash I've got?"
EC Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 LOL my bf buys me tampons. I think its the cutest thing...ok now so back to what we were talking about....
iceisles Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Originally posted by EtErNaLlYCoNfUsEd LOL my bf buys me tampons. I think its the cutest thing...ok now so back to what we were talking about.... Actually, I think that could scare a guy away. My friend Andrew once got into a big fight with his g/f because he wouldn't buy tampons for her. In all fairness, she was shy about buying condoms, so I guess it was even.
EC Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 lol it didnt scare him away I made so that he felt special that he got to buy me tampons. Hes really macho so he "proves" how macho he is by not letting "buying tampons" phase him. lol Its really cute actually. Shy to buy condoms! ? No way I buy them in all different flavors lol
iceisles Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Originally posted by EtErNaLlYCoNfUsEd Its really cute actually. Shy to buy condoms! ? No way I buy them in all different flavors lol I know I shouldn't be, but I've always been a little uncomfortable buying them. When I check out, I always look for a register with a really old guy who can't see that well.
whichwayisup Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Because how can you learn and grow from a person who is just like you. You need someone that can balance you out. Your soul mate. The ying and yang. Nicely put EC. My husband drives me NUTS...That is NO joke. Sometimes I look at him and think, OH MY F**K'n god...This is the rest of my life...Shoot me now! But within afew mins, that feeling passes and I'm OK again! He's more serious, I'm silly. He brings out the more serious side in me, I bring out the fun in him. Good balance most of the time. Yes, it would be cooler if he was 'into' the same music as me (his music SUCKS) and if he learned to actually SHUT UP once in a while when watching hockey (though not this year! ) and stop arguing with me so much just to make a point because he feels so passionately about it. Agreeing all the time isn't good, disagreeing isn't either. Again, balance - Ying and Yang...To and Fro!
EC Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Nicely put EC. My husband drives me NUTS...That is NO joke. Sometimes I look at him and think, OH MY F**K'n god...This is the rest of my life...Shoot me now! But within afew mins, that feeling passes and I'm OK again! He's more serious, I'm silly. He brings out the more serious side in me, I bring out the fun in him. Good balance most of the time. Yes, it would be cooler if he was 'into' the same music as me (his music SUCKS) and if he learned to actually SHUT UP once in a while when watching hockey (though not this year! ) and stop arguing with me so much just to make a point because he feels so passionately about it. Agreeing all the time isn't good, disagreeing isn't either. Again, balance - Ying and Yang...To and Fro! True Thank you! And all those things that drive you nuts,, you miss when they are not around. I hate those things but those are the things that made me fall in love.
moimeme Posted March 2, 2005 Posted March 2, 2005 There's a chemistry betwen two people who are interested in each other. Go ahead and make that mental checklist, check it twice! That will not win you true love. It will get you a nice guy, but that will take potentially years and by the time the 2nd date comes and goes, he's no longer attractive to you... You have to find someone you enjoy being with, learn about each other, and find the good times. Sometimes even while you don't know it, you create love. Checklists and expectations? I agree; I'd move on as a guy. Everybody's got checklists. Most of the checklists are 'things to absolutely avoid next time' lists, compiled through hard experience. Other checklists are 'things I absolutely must have this time' - things like honesty, for instance. And if you don't think men and women both have checklists, you're fooling yourself.
d'Arthez Posted March 2, 2005 Posted March 2, 2005 I agree with moimeme. It can appear harsh if someone speaks of his checklist though. Everybody has standards. Some people use higher standards than others, and some use more extensive standards. Things to avoid, and things that are necessary. Bonus points and penalties. In fact committed love is one of the strangest forms of love, as it has these restrictive checklists. Who would consider to put up a checklist for his love for humanity? Or for the maternal love a mother has for her baby?
Lil Momma Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 I met a guy and we have only been talking for three weeks. I use terms of endearment like handsome and sweetie. Would that scare him away?
Daeron Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 i am an expert at keeping men interested you have to first of all make them start guessing, do you really like them or not, you know like dont go out of your way to talk to them but then give them a sexy smile be bold tho, or stare at them but look down demurely when they look at you do ALL of these things, be mysterious, NEVER tell them you like them, get them so hot they chase you and then act surprised, play a little hard to get when it starts happening just go with it, dont ever make any demands, be yourself but dont ever tell them what your feelings are, dont be cold though, be nice you can say small clues about how you feel but dont lay it on thick, always keep them guessin most of all, have fun with it! Wow, you must have had the same teacher as the girl I've been dating for the past few of weeks. I seem to be getting mixed signals from her and I can't tell if it's on purpose or by accident. I'm definitely interested in her and she knows it. The chase has been fun so far but a guy can only take so much, lol.
pureinheart Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 if a man wants to be with u, nothing will stop him.. if he doesnt wanna be with u, nothing will convince him.. This quote is the reality of a Man/Woman relationship.... I sold myself out in the past....trying to be what I thought someone else wanted me to be....I lost my own identity and became their identity....so many different relationships, different senerios...soooo much rejection. Now in the end or should I say the beginning, who have I got.....me....so, in the meantime I will be good and kind to me and be me. I will wait for the right one, the one that will move heaven and earth to get to me, and I will do the same for them.....
pureinheart Posted December 14, 2006 Posted December 14, 2006 I met a guy and we have only been talking for three weeks. I use terms of endearment like handsome and sweetie. Would that scare him away? Be YOU!!!!!!!!!! If he doesn't like your caring nature....then you like your caring nature!
IpAncA Posted December 15, 2006 Posted December 15, 2006 so, do men really like bitches? i heard there's a book about it.... any thoughts??? Ahh...yes there is and I read a lot of it at the bookstore the other day. I couldn't put it down. It's called "Why Men Love Bitches" by: Sherry Argov. Very interesting book. O I forgot to add: What would scare a guy away? A girl that has a really high baby voice that complains all the time about everything. Especially about past bfs.
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