WrinkledForehead Posted August 20, 2014 Posted August 20, 2014 Apparently I'm a super cranky a****** in my sleep. :/ I'll preface the story by saying that I likely don't sleep enough. My schedule simply doesn't permit it. In addition, i work late into the night for half of the week so my sleeping patterns are also screwy. Some nights I'm in bed by 11 but other nights I don't even get home until 1am, so I can't sleep until 3ish. I guess I've started being really mean to my partner and snapping at him in my sleep. If he tries to cuddle me, or even just climb over me into the bed, I start snarling and saying awful things. I've said things along the lines of, "stop f****** shaking the f****** bed," and "get off of me! You weigh a million pounds!" Well, I woke up alone this morning. I don't have the full story yet but after spending a fabulous evening loving and being intimate with each other, I guess I said some things horrible enough for my partner to leave and go home. :/ I'm sure we'll talk in a few hours about it when he wakes up. I'm not conscious of saying anything and I have absolutely no recollection of saying anything, let alone being angry. This is the second night it's been bad enough for him to not sleep in the same bed. Grrrr. Does anyone else experience this same thing? He knows I'm sleeping but I guess in his sleepy state, the things I say are vile enough to hurt him.
BikerAccnt Posted August 20, 2014 Posted August 20, 2014 I know I can get cranky while sleeping if the other person is having a bad night. My GF said that the other night I yelled at her saying "What the F**k are you doing??!?" She had hurt her shoulder working out that day and was having problems getting comfortable. I don't even remember saying it. Of course, I'm not used to sleeping with anyone so that alone will take some getting used to. Sleeping together is a learned behavior. People's sleep behavior is as different as their waking behavior. Sometimes, sleep is more important than sleeping together. Many married, and co-habituating couples, sleep separately simply because they can't actually get any sleep, together. So no, you're not alone.
whichwayisup Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 maybe you two need to sleep in separate rooms. Have intimacy and cuddle, then go sleep in a guest room if you have one. 1
Eggplant Posted August 24, 2014 Posted August 24, 2014 Honestly, I think it's too much to ask a person to be "on duty" in a relationship even when they've gone to bed and they're asleep.
MissBee Posted August 25, 2014 Posted August 25, 2014 Omg... I just told my bf this morning that if we ever live together we need a King sized bed because first off he sprawls out on half the bed, and since most times I get into the bed after him or we go to bed together then I get up and go do other things, when I come back to bed and he's fast asleep it's hard to get him to move over and he's aggressive in his sleep. The past couple of nights he has bitten and elbowed me when I've tried to gently push him over! He doesn't say rude stuff he'll just mumble or say no and will try to push and shrug me off or take my hands off him or that one time he bit me and last night elbowed me. I know he's asleep and not doing it on purpose and when I tell him he can't believe it and apologizes, but it's annoying to go through it. I was tempted to sleep on the couch the other night because I didn't want to battle with him for space and have him elbow me or push me. I know he isn't conscious so I don't hold it against him but I can understand how someone would rather sleep elsewhere if that's happening as I was soooo frustrated and annoyed and the couch looked like a better option. A King bed will fix it for me though as if I don't need to bother him to get into bed we're fine and when we sleep on hotel king beds we have no issues. He does sometimes push me when I try to cuddle but only rarely and in his sleep he automatically reaches for me and spoons me like a reflex.
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