meisa Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 I have been dating a girl for about a month (she is 28). Things are going very well, she is a great girl and we have a lot of fun every time we get together. The issue is that yesterday she casually told me she also likes girls. Apparently she had always fantasized about girls and about four months ago she had sex for the first time with a lesbian woman. I’ve never had a relationship with a bi girl and this thing bothers me a bit..What sort of shocked me is that she started showing me pics of this woman and we were making comments on how hot she is..she also told me this lesbian woman wanted a relationship (not casual sex), and how she basically played her to get sex. Is this normal? I’m used to have this kind of conversations with my guy friends, not my girlfriend..It’s hard for me to take her seriously now. Anybody can relate?
Candy_Pants Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 Nope. Can't relate. What's really bothering you? The fact that she's bi? Or how casually she talked about the woman and used her for sex?
Mrin Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 I can relate. At first it is all cool. And the prospect of a three way is sort of interesting. If you just keep it casual it can be a fun thing. But as i got deeper into a relationship it became not so cool. You view girls nights out or girls camping trips differently. On top of that, she's sort of digging something you can never give right? IMHO it can totally work if you can become really secure with her or just not give a damn. In your particular case the fact that she played the gay woman to get sex is really concerning. The fact that disclosed that to you is even more so. Very amoral and sort of shows how she thinks of you. 1
Woop1337 Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 Right when she unloaded that story unto you. You should've told her a similar story about one of your exes. What she did is disrespectful and unloving. If you told me that you're contemplating about breaking with her. I would tell you go ahead.
Assasda Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 I think OP gave his girlfriend the Halo, and thought that she never thinks about anything like that lol @ "this kind of conversations with my guy friends, not my girlfriend..It’s hard for me to take her seriously now." Your girlfriend is your friend. You should be happy that she's so open with you about her feelings. Take the Fantasy halo that youve placed over your girlfriend's head and respect her as an equal, with human thoughts and emotions
Supernatural Posted August 20, 2014 Posted August 20, 2014 I would make it a casual relationship. Have fun. Explore this vast earth; with two women. *hears echo and zones out* Two women. Two women. Two women. tow woman. two woemn. wto owman. wot maown. *SNAPS BACK TO REALITY. Wipes Drool.* A certain image of two women feeding you grapes comes to mind.. Grocery List Grapes
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