freetolove Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 I'm going through a breakup. My boyfriend and I have decided that we don't have a future together. I'm completely brokenhearted. I wasted almost a year with him, that majority of the time was me trying to make things work. I know that is my fault but my heart still hurts because I was so in love with him. I miss him so much and wish he could be mine.
me85 Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 I'm sorry you're hurting. A year is a while but at least you didn't "waste" any more time than that. You date someone to see if it'll lead to marriage eventually. If you are not compatible, it's best to go your separate ways. Sounds like the BU was mutual (which is rare) so that's a positive. You may not think so right now but you will in time. Focus on making yourself happy. Life is a journey of self discovery. This is just one more thing we all go through at some point. Keep coming here to vent and try your best to avoid contacting your ex. And you shouldn't look at his social media anymore. In fact, you should delete him from yours. I promise you don't want to see what he's up to.
Author freetolove Posted August 19, 2014 Author Posted August 19, 2014 It's really hard, I have no idea why I feel so strongly about him. It hurts so much. He tells me he doesn't want to give me hope. I feel so heart broken.
me85 Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 (edited) I know you do. I think he sounds pretty ok. It might seem a bit cold on his part but it's actually really good that he doesn't want to string you along. He's really doing you a kindness by telling you he doesn't want to give you hope (basically, where there is none...in his opinion.) As hard as it is to accept the way he feels, you have to at least respect it. Not many exes are this straight forward and generous. I know how impossible it feels to get over a hump like that but you will in time. Edited August 19, 2014 by me85
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