Terrorblade Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 I posted my problem here a while back, and this will be long. But then, I shifted to a new city so I don't really have a lot of people to discuss this with. So. I met this girl on a social networking website. We got talking (it went on for 2-ish weeks) and then since she lives around an hour from where I live, I went to see her. We talked a lot, went for a movie, and then she invited me to her place. I had a brief idea of what was about to happen (Been in relationships, had sex but never hooked up before). We started making out when were in her friend's balcony (her flatmate's mom had come over), then I went to her flat to drop her, and we ended up having sex. After I spent the night at her friend's place, I left to get back to my place in the morning. She was really nice to me, and I had dinner and breakfast at her place only. In the morning, when I was going back home, she kept texting me how much she missed me and how she could not stop thinking about me (last night, she had already asked me to meet up next weekend). We went texting for a day or two, and that is when she said that things were going "too fast and too romantic" and we should slow down a bit (the previous night she had told me that how she thought relationships were a waste of time, as she had been with guys before and been really "dumb" in love, and they all turned out to be a bunch of *******s.) So, after saying that, our texting becomes 0 to a couple of texts a day. I just told her that it was weird, to go from talking a lot to not talking at all, to which she told me that we had just met, and things were going too fast. For the next 3 weeks, things got busy (I was out of town for work, and she went back home to her parents) so we did not talk a lot. The night she came back from home, she texted me that she was back, and that we should plan to meet up soon. The next day, she told me that her flatmate's boyfriend was coming over, so I should come over too. She insisted that we should spend more time together to get to know each other, and that she really wanted to see me. Since this sounded a little fishy, I asked her if she was really sure about it - to which she told me that she was indecisive in general, and that she had been wanting to know me more for quite a while. So, well, the emotional fool that I am, I went to see her. We went out, talked a lot, had dinner and drank a little. When we were about to have sex again, she said that it "wasn't right", adding that I was there just to have sex with her. I stopped, but then we ended up having sex eventually. She kept telling me how much she liked me, and then asked me if I would like to see her on the weekend. She seemed earnest, and so I agreed. In the morning, she did seem very sad to let me go, and gave me (possibly) one of the most affectionate hugs before I left. We texted lightly over the next few days (not flirtatious), and when the weekend arrived I asked her if she wanted to meet. She said she was planning a friend's birthday party, and that she would inform me what to do the next day. I didn't text her after, but then she never replied. I called her in the evening the next day, and she did not respond to that either. I was obviously quite nettled, so I told her to be straighforward with me about what she wanted. We didn't talk for 3-4 days after that, but today she texted me that she knew she was a weird person, and that there was some stuff happening with her life that is not good.. she apologised for leaving me hanging, said she needed some time alone, adding that I would probably be better off without her and all the drama she carried along. I don't really know what is going on here.. I have dated (attractive) women in the past, and none of them played this push - pull game. I know I should keep my self respect and walk away, but then I just shifted to this new city and I feel kind of lonely, so it is hard to walk away from a person who (seems) so affectionate. Advice?
smackie9 Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 Stop being so desparate. She doesn't want to invest in anything with you. Obviously you expect more, so you better push off and meet someone else.
Zeurich Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 You expect way too much sorry that is all I can say. 1
Zippy2000 Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 Quite hard to give advise since we dont know the girl but since you`ve only been speaking for 2 weeks and your post isnt sure how long after that youve been dating. Its possible she`s had a chnage of mind. People are allowed to chnage their minds and shes possibly luke warm to you. I ve had this happen to me with 2-3 women I ve met on OLD. Its like theyre still looking for something amazing, or waiting for that special something and unfortunately for you. She doesnt think youre the one.
Author Terrorblade Posted August 19, 2014 Author Posted August 19, 2014 @Zippy - We talked for 2 weeks before meeting up. It's been more than a month since we met the first time.
Elle1975 Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 Crazy/Drama is what comes to my mind. Advice? Block her number. 1
Author Terrorblade Posted August 19, 2014 Author Posted August 19, 2014 Crazy/Drama is what comes to my mind. Advice? Block her number. I thought so too.. I haven't been "desperate", she is usually the one who initiates ANY kind of romantic talk and then backs off.
smackie9 Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 I thought so too.. I haven't been "desperate", she is usually the one who initiates ANY kind of romantic talk and then backs off. You are here asking for advice when it's pretty obvious you need to have some self respect and ditch the game playing bi tch.
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