music_and_poetry Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 So I think this is a bit of an interesting development... I got a text from his best friend yesterday. It said: "Heyyyyyyyyyyyy haven't talked to you in a while, how have things been?" The last time I spoke with him was nearly 6 months ago. A little background - My ex and I met through mutual friends. I've actually known his best friend (we'll call him Sam) for several years. Much longer than I've known the ex. Sam and the ex are best friends from high school. Sam brought the ex into our group of friends a few years ago and I met the ex officially and February and we started dating soon after. From what I hear, Sam was supportive. Sam and I have actually known eachother for about 5 years. Back in 2008 we had a thing but we never dated. I was his first kiss, we flirted a lot, made out a few times but it never went anywhere because he was an idiot. I gave up on it a long time ago, and he continued to pursue me as a hook-up which I was not down for so I distanced myself from him. I still saw him at mutual friend gatherings but I haven't made any effort to be Sam's friend in a long time for these reasons. I do know Sam was supposedly supportive of me dating the ex (his best friend) according to other friends of ours. Anyways... I find it interesting that Sam is reaching out especially since I don't really consider him a friend and I haven't invested any effort into him in over a year. This text is pretty out of the blue. I feel like it could mean one of several things. 1. He's going to try to talk me into hooking up with him again (Still not happening) 2. He's trying to fish information out of me for the ex 3. He wants to date me for real 4. He wants to actually be a decent friend (seems very unlikely) So far he's just been asking casual questions about what I've been up to and we've been chatting fairly lightly. Interested to find out why he's texting me NOW and what the intentions behind this are
ThorntonMelon Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 I'd bet....everything in my pocket on #1. 1
mightycpa Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 I'd bet....everything in my pocket on #1. Yeah, given that his friend has already tapped that thing, desire to date is very unlikely.
Author music_and_poetry Posted August 19, 2014 Author Posted August 19, 2014 Yeah, given that his friend has already tapped that thing, desire to date is very unlikely. Lmao well either way dating or hooking up it ain't happening but just to clarify I didn't have sex with either of them. Although the ex and I did just about everything else. 1
Chi townD Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 As a guy, I would say that he thinks enough time as passed and wanted to see if you would be interested in dating him. I wouldn't blast him on it.
Author music_and_poetry Posted August 19, 2014 Author Posted August 19, 2014 As a guy, I would say that he thinks enough time as passed and wanted to see if you would be interested in dating him. I wouldn't blast him on it. Wasn't going to blast him lol. I just think the timing is interesting that's all.
somecamel Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 1. He's going to try to talk me into hooking up with him again (Still not happening) 2. He's trying to fish information out of me for the ex 3. He wants to date me for real 4. He wants to actually be a decent friend (seems very unlikely) 5. It's your ex 2
mightycpa Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 Lmao well either way dating or hooking up it ain't happening but just to clarify I didn't have sex with either of them. Please forgive my presumption. Although the ex and I did just about everything else. But still....
Chi townD Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 (edited) Wasn't going to blast him lol. I just think the timing is interesting that's all. Well, is it in bad taste considering that he's a friend of you Ex? yeah.. But, He might have always had a thing for you, but you were with his bud. So, he had to respect what you two had at the time even though it might have hurt him to see it. I mean, yeah he was an idiot and tried to pursue you for a "hook up" and went about things the wrong way before his friend came into the circle and you got with him. But, he had to respect the fact that you just weren't into him and that you had a thing for his friend. So, he stepped aside. But, to be honest, you gave him some very special moments that he can't ever forget. You gave him is first kiss. He remembers that and probably cherishes that moment. Hell, I still remember MY first kiss after all these years, its a special moment no one forgets. When you kissed him, he was probably really immature, thus acting like a bull in a China shop trying to get more. But, I think he acted maturely to step aside so you could be happy. I mean, I could be wrong. But, you girls never see stuff like this happening to guys because we're terrible at expressing our feelings. So, you may have never know that, that's how he was feeling. Now, that your relationship with your Ex is over and he had to stand on the sidelines and watch how he treated you. Maybe he thinks that enough time is passed and he's mature enough to show you the way you should have been treated all along. Maybe he has a chance. So, the reason why I said not to blast him is maybe he wants a chance with you. And if you're just not into him, then let him down gently. BUT! maybe that bull in a China shop is a diamond in the rough and he's grown up a little. You never know. I don't know why. But, just the short description of Sam that you gave has me liking Sam! I like Sam. Sam sounds like a cool guy. Weird huh, I'm totally team Sam. Edited August 19, 2014 by Chi townD 3
Author music_and_poetry Posted August 20, 2014 Author Posted August 20, 2014 Well, is it in bad taste considering that he's a friend of you Ex? yeah.. But, He might have always had a thing for you, but you were with his bud. So, he had to respect what you two had at the time even though it might have hurt him to see it. I mean, yeah he was an idiot and tried to pursue you for a "hook up" and went about things the wrong way before his friend came into the circle and you got with him. But, he had to respect the fact that you just weren't into him and that you had a thing for his friend. So, he stepped aside. But, to be honest, you gave him some very special moments that he can't ever forget. You gave him is first kiss. He remembers that and probably cherishes that moment. Hell, I still remember MY first kiss after all these years, its a special moment no one forgets. When you kissed him, he was probably really immature, thus acting like a bull in a China shop trying to get more. But, I think he acted maturely to step aside so you could be happy. I mean, I could be wrong. But, you girls never see stuff like this happening to guys because we're terrible at expressing our feelings. So, you may have never know that, that's how he was feeling. Now, that your relationship with your Ex is over and he had to stand on the sidelines and watch how he treated you. Maybe he thinks that enough time is passed and he's mature enough to show you the way you should have been treated all along. Maybe he has a chance. So, the reason why I said not to blast him is maybe he wants a chance with you. And if you're just not into him, then let him down gently. BUT! maybe that bull in a China shop is a diamond in the rough and he's grown up a little. You never know. I don't know why. But, just the short description of Sam that you gave has me liking Sam! I like Sam. Sam sounds like a cool guy. Weird huh, I'm totally team Sam. Lol the problem with Sam is he's had shady intentions too many times I stopped trying to take him seriously over a year ago. I didn't know him and the ex were bros until we had already started dating. At that point I didn't really care about what he thought although our usual friends said he was supportive of it. Is it possible he grew up? Yeah maybe but I'd be surprised. I don't know if there are feelings for him anymore. That was a long time ago. So far we've just been chatting casually mostly about our work-out regimines and mutual friends. Nothing about the ex yet. Hmmm...
Author music_and_poetry Posted August 20, 2014 Author Posted August 20, 2014 5. It's your ex From his phone? Seems a little far fetched but anything is possible I guess lol
mightycpa Posted August 20, 2014 Posted August 20, 2014 I would never date a girl who was with a bro. Who says he wants to DATE her?
Crila16 Posted August 20, 2014 Posted August 20, 2014 I'm a woman, and even I can tell you...he's certainly not contacting you for the sake of his best friend. Guys just don't do that. His intentions are strictly selfish. I've experienced it more times than I can count. Do I think the guy is madly in love with you. No. Do I think the guy thinks you're cute and has always thought you were cute. Definitely. Could it grow into something more...maybe. Only problem I have with it, is there's millions of fish in the sea. If he knows you dated his best friend...he needs to not cross that line and go fishing somewhere else. He's not in love with you, so it kinda tells you what kind of person he is. If he's going to screw over and go behind his best friend's back and cause drama...don't think he's not capable of doing something backstabbing to you. He's showing his true character. He doesn't sound like a good and loyal guy. I don't like him. He's sneaky.
erklat Posted August 20, 2014 Posted August 20, 2014 Who says he wants to DATE her? I said to take into account that if she is his friends girlfriend, she is off limits To him. I don't know his intentions. But I would never do so. There Were girls with whom I maybe flirted... Tough luck though.
Author music_and_poetry Posted August 21, 2014 Author Posted August 21, 2014 Update: He's still a slimeball. We were texting back and forth casually the past few days and he invited me over to just chill and watch TV. I said why not so I drove over and we hung out and chatted. Pretty soon he revealed he was dating (or trying to date) some chick and was spilling his guys about some drama. Anyways midway through a documentary we were watching he tried to kiss me and I basically rejected it and then he was trying to cuddle with me. I left early. Later he texted me thanking me because apparently he's so into this other girl that he needed someone to talk to and distract him. So basically he wanted to use me as a distraction. Some friend. Next time he texts me I will not be answering.
Chi townD Posted August 21, 2014 Posted August 21, 2014 Damn....I'm so NOT team Sam now. What a douche rocket! Sorry! I feel like an idiot now.
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