VedderisBetter Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 This girl I've been on a few dates with seems like a decent catch. I thought I ruined it with her the other night when I texted her and said that there are plenty of other girls who are not this complicated and it shouldn't be this hard. Basically, I tried kissing her twice and got rejected. She wants to get to know me better first. She's had bad relationships and doesn't want to make the same mistakes from the past. I apologized and told her I understand that she doesn't want to get hurt and I am willing to be friends with her. She responded with, "apology accepted." How should I take this? Granted, she's a blunt person and when I tried being blunt with her she got mad. I know I shouldn't have said what I said but do you think I still have a chance with her or has she moved on?
in_absentia Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 I would leave the ball in her court now to be honest. If a guy tried getting pissy at me for not accepting his kiss before I was ready I'd want to kiss him even less and can't imagine I'd want to continue the dating. She may forgive you, but the only way you'll know is by giving her breathing space and watching if she comes to you or not. I wouldn't push this any further right now because you might be wasting your time and it doesn't exactly negate the prior pushiness. 1
Ronni_W Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 In this case, I think "apology accepted" might only mean that she thinks you're not a total dickwad-douche. But...she probably intuited your totally depersonalizing, degrading thought that she is only a "decent catch"...and now knows that you are less than that. For her sake, yes, I hope that she's moved on.
aprilisi Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 It means your apology is accepted. It doesn't mean she'll date you again. That's up in the air. If she's a decent catch there's plenty of men out there that will accept her wishes and you can move on to one of the many girls that will do what you want.
mightycpa Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 It means she's still pissed at you, a little. But you know what? You were right in your text. You just shouldn't have shared that with her. She's going to project all of her insecurities on her next boyfriend, and she might be a real pain in the ass to deal with. Plus, rejecting a kiss until she knows you better? She's just not that into you. Move on.
d0nnivain Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 At best it means your apology was accepted & she's ready to move forward. At worst it means she recognizes that you made the effort to atone for being a guy who seems to only be interested in the physical but she's still skeptical. You don't to be just her friend while building a romance. Just learn to appeal to her mind & heart, to the exclusion of her body for now. If you can't do that, stop pursuing her because you two are not compatible.
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