Sweetnothing Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 So I posted about a guy who pulled the disappearing/reappearing act. To sum up quickly, we dated, nothing official, I hinted at wanting a relationship and he bolted. Now he's back. I responded to his texts nicely for a few days and now he wants to meet again and I want to give him another chance. I know it was disrespectful of him to just disappear and it's very possible he just wants sex (we haven't had sex before) but with this in mind is it possible to approach it differently and get him to commit? I know it's a long shot (and yes I realize I sound a little pathetic) but things truly are different now - at least for me. When we dated I was very eager about him and didn't have a whole lot going on. I was a part time student and working part time. I checked my phone constantly for new messages from him and even though I saw my friends plenty I'm sure he picked up on the fact that I had my hopes up veryyyy high. Now I'm a full time student working full time and I've developed a busy routine and I'm casually seeing (no sex) another guy who is also casually dating others. I've already decided to go on a date with him so any advice on how to proceed would be appreciated. I know that if he disappears again it's game over and I won't take him back. I think that we would be really good together and I'm willing to take it slow and I'm keeping my guard up.
Assasda Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 Proceed with having fun with the guy and waiting a while before you get into a relationship. Youre so worried about locking him down, its off putting 1
54JA Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 I think the important thing is for you to focus on the moment and have a good time. Don't worry too much about setting up the next date. Be in the moment and enjoy yourself. 1
Supernatural Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 With the current guy you're seeing, keep having fun and make him the priority. The guy who came back... Proceed with caution, in case he does just want sex. And watch what he does; you can play this cool though. 1
Author Sweetnothing Posted August 19, 2014 Author Posted August 19, 2014 Proceed with having fun with the guy and waiting a while before you get into a relationship. Youre so worried about locking him down, its off putting Guilty as charged. I realized this after I posted. He's been on my mind constantly since he reappeared. I think it's less about him and more about my bruised ego.
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