Dork Vader Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 Then give her a chance.. If you like her let her urrent actions speak louder. people CAN change. You don't want to completely discredit her past. But you also don't want to not give her a chance to show you she is different. Her actions will speak volumes about her. Pay attention to the details. See what type of woman she is NOW. If she's a cheater who can't respect boundaries you'll see it with in 2-3 months. If red flags continue to pop up then move on.
Author Natsu21 Posted August 19, 2014 Author Posted August 19, 2014 Update.... Just broke up with her. She wanted to WAIT a few months before actuall doing it again. I took it as a "we need a break line" quickly broke up with her.... And now I'm upset. Great. I had such high hopes for this one.
GemmaUK Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 She cheats a lot. You shout a lot (words in capitals all over your posts). I wouldn't date either of you. Leave her. Calm down.
Georgia2014 Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 Hypothetical Question. Suppose I started dating someone, and during one of our dates she reveals to me her past. Now....here's the thing. I like honesty, I really do. It's one of my requirements for a potential relationship, but this...this is different. She is recently divorced(finalized two years ago) Since then she's.... been involved with 4 men. 1. First one was her ex-husband, who was cheating on her in the relationship, so she cheated with her on his girlfriend(or in his case, multiple) 2. Two guys she was involved with at her job. Both had girlfriends as well. 3. At a dinner, one of her closest friend's boyfriends sat next to her and starting blatantly flirting with her. She said that his girlfriend was sitting right there and to go sit with her, but she didn't actively try to stop him, as he continued. 4. She was sleeping with a co-worker's boyfriend when she moved away, and it happened over a year. When I asked why did it stop, she said that they both agreed that it wasn't right and they quit it, shortly after he moved in with his long-distance girlfriend(I don't know why, but that doesn't sound like the right answer.) Help guys. I really like this girl, but when she was honest with me, I wish she hadn't been. Things haven't been the same. Please tell me, why am I feeling this way? What's wrong with me? Is this fair? She was honest, so why does it bother me? I think it bothers you because you are afraid she will do it to you. I can't blame you for feeling like this. She has a big problem. I think she likes the attention men give her. I think she told you so you would appreciate the honesty and that you then are supposed to think since she told you that she was a cheater & she wouldn't do this to you. She said that to probably throw you off the trail of what she's doing. She probably thinks being honest will make it easy to pull the wool over your eyes while cheating on you. You deserve better than a serial cheater. She's not worth it.
Author Natsu21 Posted August 20, 2014 Author Posted August 20, 2014 Oka, so we talked about things so far... She said she's a different person now.... I remember my ex said the same thing and I still got cheated on. We're long distance btw, 700 miles between us. (when we met and started talking, she had a couple of guys she was switching between, both had gf's, and she kept them on the side) Then she said she gave them up and wanted to focus on me. unfortunately, we were supposed to meet again next month, but we were fighting a lot so she decided to "delay" the trip for another 5 months. We already went 7 months without seeing each other and the month before we do she cancels it as "punishment" for me. Needless to say, I told her that she either makes it for next month like we planned or I walk away. She says it's set in stone and she's not changing her mind, she feels wronged because I asked her about her past and why she did what she did, and she couldn't give me an answer. Just that "It just happened. I didn't wake up and say 'Oh I'm gonna get with a cheating man' I just did it." Which again, started more arguments, and it's getting worse. Names were called...lots of em. What do I do now?
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