Author Supernatural Posted August 19, 2014 Author Posted August 19, 2014 SN says: I have always been honest with her about my feelings on being ditched, and her never truly showing up. She somehow always turns it on me. The greatest girl in the world says (with my interpretation in parens): "I need someone in my corner, not someone who pressures me. (for not showing up) Patience is huge for me. (especially after I ditch you, or treat you like ****, which, by the way, I will again) "You have to let go of the past; (**** you and your disappointment) you can't hold that against me." (I do what I want. **** you) etc. (apparently, there's more where all this came from) There is always something going on. (Indeed) Ya... Thanks for that. She is really hypocritical and doesn't make sense. I know this. If she doesn't care about me and continued to always bail and not treat me well, why would she say "I know you're the guy I will one day end up being with" "I want to be the person you deserve" and other things along those lines?
Author Supernatural Posted August 20, 2014 Author Posted August 20, 2014 Ya... Thanks for that. She is really hypocritical and doesn't make sense. I know this. If she doesn't care about me and continued to always bail and not treat me well, why would she say "I know you're the guy I will one day end up being with" "I want to be the person you deserve" and other things along those lines? Thoughts? My options... 1) Don't text her back. Leave it open, come back another year. Or wait until she starts pursuing me harder to see interest level. 2) Text her and say "This week is no good, maybe another time" 3)Call her after filming tomorrow and plan a date and take the big risk...
Lernaean_Hydra Posted August 20, 2014 Posted August 20, 2014 If she doesn't care about me and continued to always bail and not treat me well, why would she say "I know you're the guy I will one day end up being with" "I want to be the person you deserve" and other things along those lines? Because she's feeding you enough lines so that you will continue to feed her ego? I hate to break it to you but I don't care how high of a pedestal you have this chick on, I damn sure don't view her in the same way and can see her behavior for the self-serving, nonsense that it is. Either that or she kinda likes you but only enough to choose at the end of the day once she's done having her fun with hotter, more exciting guys. She's keeping you on the backburner for sure but she definitely doesn't love or even like you nearly as much as you do her. Thoughts? My options... 1) Don't text her back. Leave it open, come back another year. Or wait until she starts pursuing me harder to see interest level. 2) Text her and say "This week is no good, maybe another time" 3)Call her after filming tomorrow and plan a date and take the big risk... 1) why would you come back to this girl "another year"? Why are you so pathetic that you're willing to wait months or even years for some kind of an enthusiastic response from her? I promise you, she is neither a divine entity nor your soul mate. Stop waiting around. 2) Why put it in her hands once again and leave things up in the air? If this week is no good for you, give her a concrete time that is and if she doesn't follow through this time cut her loose. 3) This is THE BEST option. Take 'the big risk' and if she flakes, cancels, doesn't seem excited or makes and excuse to reschedule, for god's sake, CUT HER OFF FOR GOOD!!! 1
mightycpa Posted August 20, 2014 Posted August 20, 2014 So always have mild interest? There is no magic formula. There is no Svengali secret. Results cannot be guaranteed. People are different, and pretense won't work forever. It would be a lot better if you would pick up on the clues that women will give you. Consider making a new guy friend. You both like basketball, nachos and tacos. You click. Would you get all excited and pester him for his attention, even if the man-chemistry was there? Let's hope not. And what if there wasn't that click, but you liked and admired this man regardless. Would you push yourself on him? Again, let's hope not. It's really not that different when you meet women. Just be you. You'll get (and I assume you're getting) the feedback you need. If something seems to be universally unappreciated, then there is a social clue you're missing. Find a book. I'm sure it has been written about. You don't have to put on a mask.
Author Supernatural Posted August 20, 2014 Author Posted August 20, 2014 Either that or she kinda likes you but only enough to choose at the end of the day once she's done having her fun with hotter, more exciting guys. She's keeping you on the backburner for sure but she definitely doesn't love or even likeyou nearly as much as you do her. Zing. She always did message me at night. Like right before bed. 2am. Call me from the club saying "I keep thinking about you". You're right... She had a blast with other guys... Then came back to me to fill her ego back up. #sonofabitch I think I'm just going to lose her number and forever move on. Even if she texts me. I'm not going to respond. #deletingnumber
Author Supernatural Posted August 20, 2014 Author Posted August 20, 2014 I used to have feelings for a girl much like this one you have. She would hang out with me, stay the night at my house even, and then disappear for weeks at a time. She wouldn't answer my calls, and she wouldn't call back. Then, one day, she would always pop back in my life like nothing ever happened. It would be the same deal, hang out, maybe stay the night, then disappear. I remember once she called and I told her I was seeing someone, and she started talking about how I was the guy she wanted to marry someday, and all kinds of other crap. That's what it was, crap. In the end, it was all a game. It's weird. What does a person gain from doing this? It's kind of sick. Never telling someone "look, I'm not interested." But playing with them from a distance. Mentally it's really messed. It has literally ****ed me up in terms of dating, in terms of trusting women.
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