Guitarisgood Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 She just wanted to be friends so I played it off and have continued to be as I normally am; jolly and open to everyone including her. The thing is she is part of my social circle so I overhear the chatter of the girls on whether me and her will ever be ok with each other. We were never official so it's not like it was a proper break up. The thing is post 'the talk' I have not messaged her or contacted her in any way. If I bump into her I treat her like any other friend. I guess the only difference now is that I treat university like a job. I only go in when I have to and purely to study and not hang around with these friends like I use to. Lets just say I am now switching on finally and getting my life on track. Surely I do not have to keep in contact with her? Or initiate anything? I am content with getting on with my life and other woman I am meeting instead. Rumors spread and I am tired of dealing with it. Were she wanting to talk to me again I'd promptly reply like I would any other friend but otherwise, leave sleeping dogs to lie.
preraph Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 You do what you have to do. It's rare that someone can handle having an ex around as a friend right after a breakup. Maybe down the road. I'm talking to one of mine again only via email never in person but I didn't for 10 years. I had to wait until I could handle it. Too many emotions, all kinds, conflicting emotions. No reason to subject yourself to scrambling your brain just so some of her friends think the matter is resolved. I admire those people who can go nc and stay nc. I tend to make lifelong acquaintances of my ex-bfs because there was a reason I liked them to begin with and we have a lot in common I just don't have with everyone on the planet. But I don't try to see them except maybe once every 10 years and I haven't reslept with one. I think you know how to keep your cool and just stay casual, from what you've said. Any of her friends comes around fishing, it can only be either because one is hoping it's really over and she can move in, which makes her a hyena, or because she's fishing for info to report back to the ex. I have a male friend of an ex who has been fishing me for info for 30 years. I finally got really tired of it because I think he was causing some drama and I never knew exactly what was being said. So I am keeping my info close to my chest now. But I'm still friendly, just not forthcoming. It's good as any.
Assasda Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 How should that come accross as butthurt man? I dont get it. I get that youre just venting
Author Guitarisgood Posted August 19, 2014 Author Posted August 19, 2014 I get that youre just venting Nah mate, not venting. Just wanted opinions. I guess I'm a pretty impressionable person and can read my friends and how they act around me. As such I've picked up some tension abouts with the girl. It's just I've always been a peaceful person and not use to these kind of situations. Thanks Preraph, good to know it's not over the top.
Assasda Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 Nah mate, not venting. Just wanted opinions. I guess I'm a pretty impressionable person and can read my friends and how they act around me. As such I've picked up some tension abouts with the girl. It's just I've always been a peaceful person and not use to these kind of situations. Thanks Preraph, good to know it's not over the top. Youre your own man, you live your own life, why would anyone question you. People nowadays can be so friend-centric. who cares
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