ToastedHat Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Short and quick. Title is pretty self explanatory, I'm in this phase with an ex girlfriend myself since we talked about possibly getting back together after coming back into contact recently, at first I could see she was attracted, but I was late to act upon it since I had a lot on my mind at the time. To elaborate she contacted me, I responded back positively and did everything pretty much correct my end, after two months or so we came across to the breakup where she said "I'd never say no to getting back together as I know we have really good chemistry, but I can't say yes if I don't love you anymore either, I want it to be for the right reasons if we ever go there again" but it's been like a month since she said that. I've made little to no progress, mainly because I've not really made any effort to win her back so far, but conversation has typically been positive. Any advice?
FortunateSon Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 It sounds like you are on the back burner for her, an option. Cut off contact with her and make her do the heavy lifting...if she really wants you back, she will have to be the one to initiate and make it happen. In the meantime, start moving forward like she is not coming back. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 To stop trying to win her back and live your life. It's up to her to try to win you back, not the other way around. The fact that you want to pitch someone who has already rejected you is a big reason why you are in this fix in the first place. Stop being in contact, stop trying to plot and ploy and move forward with your life. Make her run after you if she chooses, not the other way around. And if she doesn't, you're that much further along in finding someone who does value you. 2
d0nnivain Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Why do you want to go backwards in life? You may think you two have chemistry but she already said she doesn't love you. Take her at her word. You can't make her fall back in love with you. If all the problems that broke you apart aren't fixed there is no sense in trying to rekindle something that is broken. 1
travelbug1996 Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 It doesn't sound like you want her back. Do you? How do you feel about her?
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