YellowClaw Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Before you take my question the wrong way, let me explain. But first, it is very nice to meet everyone here. I needed some great advice and stumbled upon this forum. So today was the beginning of the semester. Got into my Biology class and it was nearly full with few places to sit. While going a around to find a seat I saw this beautiful girl. I asked if she'd mind me sitting next to her, she replied "not at all." Now it's my 3rd year in college so I have a pretty good radar for new people, turns out she was one of them. We exchanged a couple of words, but not enough to be called a conversation. I wasn't even able to get her name. I got to my second class, turns out she had the same class. She saw me, walked over, and sat by me this time. As far as I know, she knows NOBODY. We have 2 classes with each other. We're majoring in the same thing. Again... she knows nobody. How can I become THAT guy who she's most comfortable with amongst all the other students (strangers)? I'm fairly shy with the opening up part, but when the gears start going, they go. What can I bring to talk about besides "school."
sid3 Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Given the circumstances from what you've shared I'd say you're on the fast track to the new friendzone. 1
Author YellowClaw Posted August 18, 2014 Author Posted August 18, 2014 Given the circumstances from what you've shared I'd say you're on the fast track to the new friendzone. Why is that?
DazedandConfused8 Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Before you take my question the wrong way, let me explain. But first, it is very nice to meet everyone here. I needed some great advice and stumbled upon this forum. So today was the beginning of the semester. Got into my Biology class and it was nearly full with few places to sit. While going a around to find a seat I saw this beautiful girl. I asked if she'd mind me sitting next to her, she replied "not at all." Now it's my 3rd year in college so I have a pretty good radar for new people, turns out she was one of them. We exchanged a couple of words, but not enough to be called a conversation. I wasn't even able to get her name. I got to my second class, turns out she had the same class. She saw me, walked over, and sat by me this time. As far as I know, she knows NOBODY. We have 2 classes with each other. We're majoring in the same thing. Again... she knows nobody. How can I become THAT guy who she's most comfortable with amongst all the other students (strangers)? I'm fairly shy with the opening up part, but when the gears start going, they go. What can I bring to talk about besides "school." If she's new to the city, offer to show her around: show her the good bars, restaurants, scenic places, etc. If she's new to the school, do the same thing around campus. 1
Author YellowClaw Posted August 18, 2014 Author Posted August 18, 2014 If she's new to the city, offer to show her around: show her the good bars, restaurants, scenic places, etc. If she's new to the school, do the same thing around campus. Good ideas!
d0nnivain Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Be friendly but do get her outside of the classroom as soon as possible for a walk etc. Invite her to a party or even to grab a coke / coffee / redbull after class. Ask her Qs about herself but don't be too nosy & do be interested in the answers. 1
Author YellowClaw Posted August 18, 2014 Author Posted August 18, 2014 Be friendly but do get her outside of the classroom as soon as possible for a walk etc. Invite her to a party or even to grab a coke / coffee / redbull after class. Ask her Qs about herself but don't be too nosy & do be interested in the answers. Would it seem "awkward" for a guy (me) to randomly ask her out for some coffee? I mean we really haven't talked much to get get to know each other. Or could that be my chance to do so? Just a "Hey, *insert name*. You wanna go grab a cup of coffee?"
preraph Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 Just ask her to go get a soda after class. Usually who you meet first of semester ends up being your crowd. You can always tell her you don't know many people yet this year and Wanna go get a coffee or something at the student union or whatever it's called there. 1
d0nnivain Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 Just a "Hey, *insert name*. You wanna go grab a cup of coffee?" Perfect. As class is ending & you are gathering you things say that or "I'm headed to [the cool place to get coffee], wanna join me?" 1
Author YellowClaw Posted August 19, 2014 Author Posted August 19, 2014 Perfect. As class is ending & you are gathering you things say that or "I'm headed to [the cool place to get coffee], wanna join me?" ^^^ YES Starbucks seems to be the popular choice where i live lol
Assasda Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 From your post, it seems like you want to be friends with her. I'm gonna be brash and say that its not gonna work, because youre intentions are a little selfish. I see you putting yourself in the friendzone, the her hating you ater you declare your love for her. I hope I'm wrong though. .... but if all you want to do is to be friends, be clear 1
Author YellowClaw Posted August 19, 2014 Author Posted August 19, 2014 From your post, it seems like you want to be friends with her. I'm gonna be brash and say that its not gonna work, because youre intentions are a little selfish. I see you putting yourself in the friendzone, the her hating you ater you declare your love for her. I hope I'm wrong though. .... but if all you want to do is to be friends, be clear Sorry I wasn't clear enough. I DO want to, with no rush, possibly, maybe, hopefully.... start a relationship. The reason why I'm wanting to make the most of this situation, is because I'm thinking its a good chance for the two of us to build a strong foundation?
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