He wants ME to come up with an invite for a second date?

[HappyLove]

I don't know how you keep doing it, dating these guys, but more power to you!

[BluEyeL]

Him and I exchanged a few words this morning. I told him I got up really tired, I dreamed all night long I was chased by zombies.

 

He goes: It's certainly not me that was chasing you in your dream.

 

LOL

 

Then he called but I missed it and it went to my voice mail. He left a message saying that I needed to pray. My dream indicated that demons are lurking around me and prayers will chase them away.

 

He's officially weird.

Time waster, Gaeta! Do not listen to men here who rant about women, look out for your own interest, not others'. Go get yourself a real man who knows how to court a woman and is not whiny, flaky, weird or wishy washy. Someone who is into you. Someone who will ask you out every week, will treat you like a princess (yes, like a princess), and will eagerly arrange the next date as soon as possible. The more time you spend with the time wasters, the less time available to date men who deserve to be in a relationship with you, and who would greatly appreciate it!

[mightycpa]

How about you both visit the library and jointly come up with a list of 100 things to do on a date?

 

Then both of you can keep a copy, just in case you ever need it again, and not necessarily for each other.

[Monm82]

This is the 21th century. Women should pursue men more.

[GemmaUK]

Gaeta my sweet.

You want a man who can step up.

You have said this yourself.

I don't know what you do for a living but I am aware it's a great job. I am thinking that perhaps you might do better dumbing it down a bit. Give less info if it is on your profile.

 

One date/meet..yeah..I have no issue with doing the asking myself. I have only done this IRL and face to face though to be fair.

 

The second date and to be told you have to ask and arrange that also? Meh!

 

He isn't that into you is my thought...and yes..sounds a bit wierd.

If he is new online also then he could be having so much choice that he's got cocky! Lol!

[MissBee]

What is the deal with this guy !!

 

So after his last comment, I simply replied that he was right, I had asked and I got an answer, he was silent for a couple of hours then text 'have a good dinner sweetheart.

 

Sweetheart??? Where does THAT come from !

 

Ewww....my spidey senses are up about him.

 

Not to say he's a bad guy but for me nope wouldn't work.

[readynow]

Men are the NEW women. I keep running across these posts of men with all this feminine energy that want women to court them and pursue them.

Just be patient and focus completely on your life. If a man is not in your face, DO NOT even think about him.

Ladies please.

 

Exactly this.

 

What's with asking why he hasn't asked you? You shouldn't even be thinking about a guy who isn't thinking about you.

 

You said yourself that you have a lot to offer so really, you shouldn't be doing any pursuing at all. If this goes, far, you're the one that will be playing Mary Poppins with all your dreams of relaxing and going on adult holidays thrown out the window for another 13 years. He should be selling himself to you.

 

You've put in plenty effort. I say let this one go, there are plenty more and tons better where he came from.

 

PS: Not bothered about men who have stopped being men all in the name of feminism.

[HappyLove]

Haha, we need a new thread titled, 'Where have all the MEN gone'.

[Amy_D]

So we had the typical first meet. We went for a drink, we both enjoyed our meeting. He gave really nice compliments, walked me to my car and said he'd like to see me again, I said I'd like that as well.

 

He touched base daily, nothing too extended, just perfect.

 

He's a busy man, he works and teaches and has 4 kids. I thought I will let him come up with a second date idea when he has time.

 

Seven days went by and nothing, I felt this needed a little kick.

 

This morning when he text I asked what a girl needed to do to see him again He replied: She needs to schedule a date with me!! I replied in a joking matter: Ok you will have me do your job! and he replied: You asked what a girl needed to do, I answered.

 

Grrr!!! What's that? now what? Do I freakin comply? I forget about it?

 

Wouldn't a man really interested have scheduled a second date by now?

 

I would text him back this answer:

 

"Is this a game?"

 

Because that's what it has turned into.

[Amy_D]

This is the 21th century. Women should pursue men more.

 

I agree it's the 21st Century; that's all I agree with about your statement.

[Gaeta]

You shouldn't even be thinking about a guy who isn't thinking about you.

 

I am going to copy this on the back of my hand so I see it all the time.

[Gaeta]

I don't know what you do for a living but I am aware it's a great job. I am thinking that perhaps you might do better dumbing it down a bit. Give less info if it is on your profile.

 

I don't talk about my work in my profile. In the job section I put management which could mean anything. When we meet I don't give my title and keep it low profile.

[William]

Folks, after this post, let's remain focused on the specifics of the thread starter's interaction and refrain from making this a general gender conflict thread. That's unproductive to addressing and supporting the thread starter in their particular relationship. Thanks!

[BluEyeL]

I don't talk about my work in my profile. In the job section I put management which could mean anything. When we meet I don't give my title and keep it low profile.

I don't think your job has anything to do with the dating issues.

 

You've been dating for a few years. I've been dating for about 1.5 years of my life (married/in the same relatioship before, for all my adult life). You are even more experienced than me.

 

Tell me, in your history, did men that were very interested in you acted the way this man acts? Because in my experience, men who really cared to have a relationship with me, just came through and wanted to see me, never let me wonder. Men who were wishy washy like that had low or moderate interest levels and it NEVER works out. I wasted my time with such people. Good people, mind you, but not into me. Not hating them for not liking me, but not liking myself for wasting my time. If I opened a thread about a guy's behavior, he was not good news.