Mary Oak Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 I saw my ex drive by... she saw me too... we both just stared at each other.... We have seen each other on and off because we work together, so it shouldn't have been a shock. Though we have not seen each other in a long while as I have made a concerted effort not to run into her... Neither of us smiled... or waved... just incrediblely awkard.... and sad....crazy that is what we have become.... I didn't know why she didn't smile or something (we always do)... but for some reason, I felt like a deer trapped in headlights.... i don't know why or what happened but I felt like I had seen a ghost....felt paralyzed It is a really weird feeling that has haunted me through the day.... Oh well...all in a lifetime
True Gent Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 I think that's probably a totally normal response, especially if you haven't seen each other in a while. I've wondered how I'll respond to a scenario such as this. It's highly possible it will happen at some point. If I can do what you did I'll be pleased with myself, you see I think I'd be too tempted to give my ex the middle finger... I'd prefer to be bigger than that, the fact you were both just staring shows that there was obviously something there at one point and yeah, it's a bit weird and sad now I totally get it. Just try not to over think it and continue as you were.
Zapbasket Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 I can relate. I pass my ex all the time as we live just half a mile down the road from each other in a small town. We always turn and stare, but we never smile or wave. My ex told me last October that, "any communication between us feels daunting," so I feel I am giving him what he wants. It sucks, and it hurts every time. If it were in my power to do so, I'd put an end to this not even acknowledging each other, but in the relationship it always was me sticking my neck out; I'm not going to keep doing it now. But, yes, am I tempted to wave or to corner him somewhere and MAKE him face me? Yes. He was and is a coward. But what would it do, really? I get a weird, sad feeling after each such road encounter, too. ((hugs))
Author Mary Oak Posted August 18, 2014 Author Posted August 18, 2014 Today made me realize that I no longer need to know you care. It just makes no difference if you do or don't. You are with her now. And honestly, even if you were not, it doesn't matter. Harsh realization but I believe a healthy one. I do not require your validation. Yet deep in my soul, even this realization hurts.
erklat Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 I am also going back soon to my hometown and I will most likely run into her here and there. If I can't avoid her, is it best not to look in her direction and not acknowledge her at all ?
gj13 Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 Oh this happened to me, i did a double check cause it just caught me off guard and it was a major surprise. He stared straight ahead with this weird and super pissed off expression. Whatever, serves him right.
JDPT Posted August 20, 2014 Posted August 20, 2014 I'm pretty sure I just saw my ex drive by as well, what a terrible way to start my day. However, it's been roughly 1.5 years post BU and although it sparks a bit of interest by way of curiosity I Know better than to allow my emotions dictate my actions. I just need to remain in control of my emotions an all will go well. This was merely a test. I woke up in such a great mood today, I haven't felt like this in a while. I will not allow anyone to ruin my days specially the ex who is utterly irrelevant to me.
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