xilver Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Friday a woman asked me on FB if I was single. I don’t really know her. I went to school with her and we know some of the same people but that was over 20 years ago. I responded and in return find out that she is single. Now I am stuck. I have a strong feeling that she is attracted to me but I can’t figure out why I am so nervous about it. Obviously I am attracted to her but still I don’t know her. There is no reason for this. I don’t want to keep sending her messages. Only one but that would be to see if I can call her. If she says no that would end it but the only reason I want to call her is to ask her out and I don't want to do that through a message. I still can’t believe I feel like this. I talk to other women. Not a lot of them all at once but I always try to keep meeting at least one and some I have been attracted to also. I've had no problem messaging back and forth for a while or even texting back and forth. Things have worked out and I've gotten dates like that. It’s just been a long time since I struggled like this to initiate a date or even a casual conversation with a woman. Am I wrong to want to set up a date so quickly? I just figure I need to find out more about her to either kill this feeling or chase it to the end. I have to do something, anything, because this feeling is driving me nuts.
Strength in Healing Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Tough question my friend. I think it depends on feelings; it's relative. But I think all healthy relationships take time to build, psychologically.
carhill Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Meet up and take it from there. If your sense is right, she'll say yes and you'll both have your answers soon enough. From your post, you sound older (20 years since school) so no sense in dawdling, IMO.
mightycpa Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 I can only think of two reasons why anybody would ask you if you're single. They're asking for themselves, or they are asking for a friend. You might want to write back and simply ask why she wanted to know. That sounds like a pretty good opening to me.
smackie9 Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 She wants you to ask her out for f sakes or she wouldn't have asked if you were single. That right there shows interest....what more do you need? 2
guest569 Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Go ahead and ask, why wait? I dont think it is rushing. It's just a question. 1
Wisecrack Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Always make your intentions clear even if it is to get your point across. Otherwise you may regret it down the track unless you are 100% you don't want to date this chick ever in your lifetime.
Author xilver Posted August 18, 2014 Author Posted August 18, 2014 Cool. I think you all were on the right track. I got tired of this feeling so I just hit her up. I'm waiting to see how she responds. 1
Author xilver Posted August 19, 2014 Author Posted August 19, 2014 The plot has thickened. It's been a few hours and I haven't heard a response. I'm not worried about that though. The thing is about an hour after I sent her the message one of her friends who is also single and I also find attractive but do not know liked about 5 of my pictures. Now I'm wondering if she asked for the other girl, if I'm being tested or maybe they are into some kinky stuff?
Assasda Posted August 19, 2014 Posted August 19, 2014 ^ hahahaha. Ask out both of them. Fill your calendar up for the week. -Im serious
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