hamzawesome Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 How do you show a girl you're confident without seeming arrogant or full of yourself? I can't really tell where the line is. Particularly when flirting with a girl, for example.
Strength in Healing Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 In the end, to cut it all short, this is what you are looking for. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wV2KC50rui0 Notice how they aren't afraid to be goofy? Yet they're being direct, and going for the gold. THAT'S confidence. And I can attest from when I used to do it before I had my current serious gf, it certainly works. Again and again.
smackie9 Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 I can't tell you how to act confident, you have to feel confident in order to act confident.
It'sallnewtome Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 It sure is a fine line. The guy I am totally crushing on has it so down. He is confident to speak to me. But he treats women like people and not conquests. He is respectful but he is confident in himself . Cocky and arrogance come across in expectation.. Like: I know she wants me. All women do. Confidence is more .. I want to give this a go as I like her and I believe she could like me too. Invite a girl out and already have a plan in place.. Never fall into.. Where do you want to go... Be confident in your choices but still feel you want to impress her. Cocky is believing anything you do or say is fine. Confidence is believing that you have the goods but still want to put in effort. 1
Author hamzawesome Posted August 18, 2014 Author Posted August 18, 2014 I can't tell you how to act confident, you have to feel confident in order to act confident. I do. I just want to keep myself in check and avoid getting cocky in case I already am.
smackie9 Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 I do. I just want to keep myself in check and avoid getting cocky in case I already am. If you did have any, you wouldn't need to ask us how it do it. being cocky is a cloaking mechanism to hide one's insecurity. 2
Author hamzawesome Posted August 18, 2014 Author Posted August 18, 2014 If you did have any, you wouldn't need to ask us how it do it. being cocky is a cloaking mechanism to hide one's insecurity. If I said, "Whatever, you're attracted to me." Does that sound arrogant? I was doing fine talking to her but I think that might have taken it too far.
mightycpa Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 "I'm attracted to you" is confident. "You're attracted to me" is cocky. Get the difference?
smackie9 Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 If I said, "Whatever, you're attracted to me." Does that sound arrogant? I was doing fine talking to her but I think that might have taken it too far. Depends on the conversation, body language, posture and tone of voice.
Supernatural Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 (edited) In the end, to cut it all short, this is what you are looking for. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wV2KC50rui0 Notice how they aren't afraid to be goofy? Yet they're being direct, and going for the gold. THAT'S confidence. And I can attest from when I used to do it before I had my current serious gf, it certainly works. Again and again. And 9/10 women never went on that first date or answered the call. Or the guy got friend zoned ASAP. Cheesy lines make a girl giggle.. Sure. But even watching the video... We as the audience is even like... mmmm nooo... Lines don't make someone feel anything. Because it's a line... You can hear it in his voice. It's not natural; there is no emotion in it and it's fake. It's like bad acting. This isn't showcasing confidence either. They are simply performing for a reaction. Take away the camera, take away the friends. Let him talk to a girl o his own with no pick up line. I bet he fumbles the ball. Edited August 18, 2014 by Supernatural
Dork Vader Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Confidence and self esteem/worth are a difficult thing to describe in today dating world. Confidence is often confused for arrogance and cockyness. Thus women complain of dating d-bags. If you want a true understanding of confidence then you need to read the book "the six pillars of self esteem" (google it). It is a great book and it explains what self esteem and self worth truly are. It also explains how to build BOTH. With out either you will be a fake who's cocky and arrogant. Confidence is knowing your the best man in the room. Arrogance is not knowing and boasting about your accomplishments to make up for the fact you do not know. They will say I have a Ferrari.. And so on.. Just read up on confidence self esteem and self worth. It's not to say you can't have an expensive sports car AND be confident. The confident man wont boast about his $400,000 sports car. Yhe confident man wont boast about drinking top shelf liquor.. In general The confident man will let everything talk for its self.
Supernatural Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Confidence and self esteem/worth are a difficult thing to describe in today dating world. Confidence is often confused for arrogance and cockyness. Thus women complain of dating d-bags. If you want a true understanding of confidence then you need to read the book "the six pillars of self esteem" (google it). It is a great book and it explains what self esteem and self worth truly are. It also explains how to build BOTH. With out either you will be a fake who's cocky and arrogant. Confidence is knowing your the best man in the room. Arrogance is not knowing and boasting about your accomplishments to make up for the fact you do not know. They will say I have a Ferrari.. And so on.. Just read up on confidence self esteem and self worth. It's not to say you can't have an expensive sports car AND be confident. The confident man wont boast about his $400,000 sports car. Yhe confident man wont boast about drinking top shelf liquor.. In general The confident man will let everything talk for its self. Soooo, my favorite rappers arn't confident? Cash Money Millionares? Young Money? Lil' Money Hussle? Top Dollar? 50 cenT?!!
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