Shudder Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Hello Loveshack. My friend asked me if I can post his issue here on his behalf and is open to and advise you have to give. A few months ago, my friend met this girl and they got talking and even went out for some dinner. According to him, he thought she was acting a bit distant when they were out for dinner so he didn't pursue any further. Then a couple months back they bump into each other randomly at a bar and got talking. He tried to ask her out again but she had a bf at the time. Fast forward to two weeks ago, he was invited to this girls b-day party and went. He hadn't seen her for another couple months since the bar. He told me that she just broke up with her bf and that it wasn't meant to last long. He brought his friends to her party and she had her friends there and it seemed all was fine. Then he said he was out at a club the next night and bumped into her again as he was leaving. She was drunk so he shared cab with her home and made sure she got home ok. This is where things start to get odd. He told me that she tried to kiss him several times before exiting the cab. First two times was only cheek kisses but the last one was a mouth one. I believe my friend was more or less sober that night and remembered and he started texting this girl the next day.. and from what he told me, they were texting almost everyday last week here and there and she agreed to meet him for dinner without hesitation. Just this last weekend they made plans to go out again. She had a friend from out of town visiting so she was entertaining him and called my friend and told him to join them. It ended up just the 3 of them in a club and apparently she was a little drunk (again) but was asking my friend when is he gonna kiss her. He told me he was hesitant as she wasn't sober, but he did make a move shortly after and she didnt object. He also sent her home again that night. The next day they made plans to hang out together and had a picnic. He asked me to post this here because he is confused whether she remembers if they kissed or not. He's confused why she is willing to spend time alone with him if she doesn't remember. none of them have mentioned the kisses to each other. any advise to help out my friend would be great. cheers
Supernatural Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Hello Loveshack. My friend asked me if I can post his issue here on his behalf and is open to and advise you have to give. A few months ago, my friend met this girl and they got talking and even went out for some dinner. According to him, he thought she was acting a bit distant when they were out for dinner so he didn't pursue any further. Then a couple months back they bump into each other randomly at a bar and got talking. He tried to ask her out again but she had a bf at the time. Fast forward to two weeks ago, he was invited to this girls b-day party and went. He hadn't seen her for another couple months since the bar. He told me that she just broke up with her bf and that it wasn't meant to last long. He brought his friends to her party and she had her friends there and it seemed all was fine. Then he said he was out at a club the next night and bumped into her again as he was leaving. She was drunk so he shared cab with her home and made sure she got home ok. This is where things start to get odd. He told me that she tried to kiss him several times before exiting the cab. First two times was only cheek kisses but the last one was a mouth one. I believe my friend was more or less sober that night and remembered and he started texting this girl the next day.. and from what he told me, they were texting almost everyday last week here and there and she agreed to meet him for dinner without hesitation. Just this last weekend they made plans to go out again. She had a friend from out of town visiting so she was entertaining him and called my friend and told him to join them. It ended up just the 3 of them in a club and apparently she was a little drunk (again) but was asking my friend when is he gonna kiss her. He told me he was hesitant as she wasn't sober, but he did make a move shortly after and she didnt object. He also sent her home again that night. The next day they made plans to hang out together and had a picnic. He asked me to post this here because he is confused whether she remembers if they kissed or not. He's confused why she is willing to spend time alone with him if she doesn't remember. none of them have mentioned the kisses to each other. any advise to help out my friend would be great. cheers This girl is looking for attention and he is giving it to her, or she likes him but is intimidated by him. Girls get strange and distant if they are intimidated -- even if they 'reject' you, they aren't in a sense. She kissed him when she was drunk. I'm a firm believer in drunken actions are sober thoughts. Get someone drunk and you will see the real them and their minds truth.
Author Shudder Posted August 18, 2014 Author Posted August 18, 2014 This girl is looking for attention and he is giving it to her, or she likes him but is intimidated by him. Girls get strange and distant if they are intimidated -- even if they 'reject' you, they aren't in a sense. She kissed him when she was drunk. I'm a firm believer in drunken actions are sober thoughts. Get someone drunk and you will see the real them and their minds truth. I agree that alcohol is the truth serum. According to my friend she's not the attention seeking type. when sober she seems a little bit shy and awkward but friendly at the same time. But when drunk everything is just let go
smackie9 Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Tell your friend to just keep asking her out on dates and let things happen on their own.
Supernatural Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 (edited) I agree that alcohol is the truth serum. According to my friend she's not the attention seeking type. when sober she seems a little bit shy and awkward but friendly at the same time. But when drunk everything is just let go This is true. With some girls who never say "no" or don't make it apparently clear they are not interested... There is definitely interest. He just has to always keep his cool. Be a gentleman. Be her knight in shining armor even if that time isn't for awhile and if she is really worth it. But not invest his whole heart, until she is ready. I'm talking to a girl I've known for 4 years and she has had her times of uncertainly because I make her realize certain aspects about herself and it scares her. I challenge her. I intimidate her on some level, I guess. She once told me over a random text one night that "I know that you're the guy I will end up with, I just need to learn about myself and make mistakes to be the girl you deserve. I want to be strong for us." Huge assumption on her part and kind of stupid at the time... But, In my experience of viewing and watching relationships... It's the girl that chooses the guy ultimately. Not the Guy who chooses the girl. If a girl chooses you; she will stick with you to bitter end. And always try to make it work. If the guy always chases girl... He will never actually capture her heart. That's why it's a mans job to focus on his mission in life; that's not a woman. A strong amazing independent woman will find you if you are strong and respectful pursuing your deep life's purpose. If your life's purpose is to find a woman... You will reek of lacking something bigger and greater, thus making you seem desperate. Keep your life rich with other things. Women and dating... It all falls in to place naturally and without worry once you are on your true life's purpose path. I think that's when you meet your soul-mate. This is just my opinion. Edited August 18, 2014 by Supernatural
mightycpa Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 My friend asked me if I can post his issue here on his behalf Ah, the old "asking for my friend" routine. If you say so. My advice? He just needs to find a way to see her before she gets drunk, and kiss her on the mouth then. He'll have his answer in no time.
Supernatural Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Ah, the old "asking for my friend" routine. If you say so. My advice? He just needs to find a way to see her before she gets drunk, and kiss her on the mouth then. He'll have his answer in no time. A friend of mine says good idea. 1
Assasda Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Tell your friend to stop thinking superfluous garbage and to keep on doing what he's doing 1
Recommended Posts