Foolish Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 When are you happiest?? In a relationship or single? My boyfriend of two dumped me about a month ago and at first i was devasted and in denial but now, I'm having the time of my life!!
Thinkalot Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 both ways have their benefits...i am very happy now in a relationship, but i was happy single too. I think for the longhaul I would rather be part of a team, because it brings a lot of love and support. but there can be times in a persons life, where being single can be a wonderful enriching thing, and a great time of personal growth and freedom. So enjoy it!
moimeme Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 Loving someone is a great pleasure. I certainly am quite able to enjoy singlehood and do, but my preference would be to be part of a pair.
EC Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 It depends. I can be really happy by myself and enjoying life. But then when you meet the right person all those things are heightened 110X. My boyfriend of two dumped me about a month ago and at first i was devastated and in denial but now, I'm having the time of my life!! I can understand this as well. At first I was devastated after my ex and i didn't work out and I was a mess. But then I started having the time of my life. I realized I had forgotten about ME and I realized I was with the wrong person for me all along and then it was like a breath of fresh air!
tiki Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 Happier with someone. But I grew ragingly independent while alone. My self confidence sky rocketed.
blind_otter Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 I'm happier in a pair, but the other person is always more miserable.
alphamale Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 Originally posted by Foolish When are you happiest?? In a relationship or single? neither. when i am in a relationship i wanna be single and when single i wanna be in a relationship. grass is always greener on other side of the fence. the funny thing is when i am in a relationship it seems that other women show more interest in me and that is partly why i wanna be single, heh heh heh. then when i am by myself other women don't show as much interest. wierd, i know but it's the truth.
tiki Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale neither. when i am in a relationship i wanna be single and when single i wanna be in a relationship. grass is always greener on other side of the fence. the funny thing is when i am in a relationship it seems that other women show more interest in me and that is partly why i wanna be single, heh heh heh. then when i am by myself other women don't show as much interest. wierd, i know but it's the truth. Go buy a cheap wedding band...you'll get picked up (or laid).
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 I'm happy in the context of the 'pair' I'm a part of now, and it wouldn't be complete without our little 'third' in that pair. All other 'pairs' I've been a part of and 'single times' don't compare to this.
EC Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 neither. when i am in a relationship i wanna be single and when single i wanna be in a relationship. grass is always greener on other side of the fence. the funny thing is when i am in a relationship it seems that other women show more interest in me and that is partly why i wanna be single, heh heh heh. then when i am by myself other women don't show as much interest. weird, i know but it's the truth. Soo true...It's like when your single only bald, fat guys with missing teeth try to ask you out. And your like OMG... But then I am in a relationship and all of a sudden I'm like Aphrodite and I'm getting all this attention. Its so bad.
Skeered Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 I think I can honestly say that both are good...right now being single is good because I'm doing things for myself and my daughter and realizing stuff about me. But on the flip side I love to be with someone. That comfort of having someone to share evenings with and talk to or just be around is very nice.
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 Both are good, but I prefer the relationship.
Naive Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 I can be equally happy or unhappy with someone or without someone.
CurvyGurl Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Both but for different reasons. I enjoy the company of others when they are around but I also enjoy my alone time...
alphamale Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Originally posted by CurvyGurl Both but for different reasons. I enjoy the company of others when they are around but I also enjoy my alone time... Hi CURVYGURL: Yes i agree. I love being with someone or a group wthen in the mood and also luv me privacy when i needs that.
MassiveAtom Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 learning to be single again right now. Definately WAS happier in a pair - if only for all the wrong reasons.
alphamale Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Originally posted by MassiveAtom Definately WAS happier in a pair - if only for all the wrong reasons. join the club MA....
MassiveAtom Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Alpha, I'm already a dues paying member at the "Heart in a Blender " Level.
alphamale Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Originally posted by MassiveAtom Alpha, I'm already a dues paying member at the "Heart in a Blender " Level. yeah MA, well I can top u....I got a lifetime membership!
Sparky Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 I agree with ThinkAlot. Both ways do have their benefits. It all depends on the situation, really. I had a girlfriend for 4 weeks and a day, then we broke up. During that time, I was still in love with someone else, but that's not why we broke up. For me, it's hard to decide. I LOVE to just have someone to snuggle up to in a private, lonly area to, kiss, hug, and *cough* cough* you know , and share your life with. But at the same time, I can't seem to be interested in more than one girl. Right now, there's no one that really amuses me. And I'm having a great time being single!
Anais Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 I need to have a pair to be happy. Even if the person lives 1000’s miles away but you know there is someone who loves you and cares and you love him too.
Author Foolish Posted March 1, 2005 Author Posted March 1, 2005 I just love being single because I love the fact that my life is full, fun and I can be happy without a man in my life And I felt I lost alot of myself in the relationship... it's good to get to know myself again. But, of course, there is no comparing to the feeling of being in love....
Sparky Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Yeah, that's true. There are also downsides to both sides. If you're single, you can get pretty lonely sometimes. But also if you're taken, you can feel trapped, unless you really love this person. Sometimes I feel that I can never be happy being single OR taken. But hey, we're still young, and we have a hell of a lot more years to come.
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