lollipopspot Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 That language of "you owe me a chance"...he feels entitled to you. Take your safety seriously. 1
michellew Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 I agree that it's best to be honest, but I also think you sometimes have to fudge the truth in situations like these. By telling him he came in too strong, it still leaves hope. He'll think he can change or turn it down a notch. He's in denial as well and doesn't want to believe the truth. I have been in a very similar situation and finally had to lie and tell the guy I met someone at the same time and it's now serious so I can't continue to see other people. He understood and figured it was my fault, not his, and didn't waste his time trying to get me to give him another chance.
Author It'sallnewtome Posted August 18, 2014 Author Posted August 18, 2014 I agree that it's best to be honest, but I also think you sometimes have to fudge the truth in situations like these. By telling him he came in too strong, it still leaves hope. He'll think he can change or turn it down a notch. He's in denial as well and doesn't want to believe the truth. I have been in a very similar situation and finally had to lie and tell the guy I met someone at the same time and it's now serious so I can't continue to see other people. He understood and figured it was my fault, not his, and didn't waste his time trying to get me to give him another chance. Yes i see what you mean..
smackie9 Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 And he replied straight away. Fair enough but you seem to think it's ok to lead men on. You went out to dinner with me.You accepted flowers. I think you need to look at yourself. I am new to this and you didn't even give me a chance. I think you owe me a chance. Otherwise you are just being fake like all other women. I was right, crazy total denial. Passive aggressive manipulation...just proves how distorted his perspective on things truly are. He is misogynistic.
smackie9 Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 btw guys like this will never listen to any reasoning...it is already set in his mind he was mistreated and used by another she devil. He thinks all women are bad and are out to mess with him.....he's one f'd up dude.
iiiii Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 And he replied straight away. Fair enough but you seem to think it's ok to lead men on. You went out to dinner with me.You accepted flowers. I think you need to look at yourself. I am new to this and you didn't even give me a chance. I think you owe me a chance. Otherwise you are just being fake like all other women. Going on one date isn't leading someone on. Going on one date is already giving him a chance. You don't owe this man anything. Move on. He's desperate, and he's already trying to use guilt to manipulate you. Making out like you have a relationship (and you "owe" him anything) after one date is a huge, huge red flag. You've given him his polite, honest answer. That was more than you owed him. I'd cut contact immediately. No matter what he says, whether it's hurtful or makes you feel guilty or sorry for him, don't reply or you will just encourage him to keep contacting you.
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