Serious Anxiety before leaving...

[wercahn]

This September I'm going to study abroad in uk and also going to leave her very soon. I'm so scared that it's not going to work out since she said she isn't confident enough to face this.but she'll fly over to meet me next year around March. Is it a bad idea to study abroad now? In fact, I have been looking forward for study abroad many years ago and wan to take it as a challenge and experience a lot of new things. I'm so anxiety now and wonder if there are someone could share the similar experience to me?tq...

[SaltwaterHeart]

I remember that anxiety very well. I will not say that long distance is pleasant, but in my opinion it is way more manageable than some people make it out to be.

 

I met my guy a few months before I was set to go abroad for a full 12 months, 12,000 kilometers away. I was scared stiff I might lose him over it but the job was an amazing opportunity and I had committed to it before I met him. We decided to give it a go anyway because we had fallen hard and are still going strong over two years later. It has not always been easy, but in the end other things like insecurities proved to be more challenging than the actual distance between us.

I remember lurking around here back then and reading something about distance rarely ever being the actual problem in the relationship. It just amplifies the problems that are already there or would have emerged anyway. I really don't remember who wrote it but I have found this to be very true indeed.

 

Make sure you communicate well and often, even if your new life is exciting and waiting to be explored! Maybe save up something if possible and try to cram in a Christmas/winter break at home and see her before she comes over in March? A four-month chunk feels much more doable than a seven-month one. Talking on this board really helps, too.

[wercahn]

Thanks for ur sharing...it means a lot to me. Although I'm not allowed to go back in Christmas but I think i have the courage to face what coming to us...