sarahkm Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 So I'm seeing this guy, we've been on a handful of dates. Nothing more than a quick peck on the lips at the end of the night so far. I am not sure how i feel about him. He seems like a decent person but there might be a lack of chemistry/attraction on my part. But anyways, that's not the issue. The issue is 3 times now, I think, and I've known him for about 5 weeks, I'd get a text in the morning with him telling me he is experiencing morning wood. REALLY? WTF?? I don't understand WHY ON EARTH you'd text somebody that. So wtf is he trying say? He is a male? Everything about him is fine, but these texts are getting really really annoying. Any thoughts? Is he nuts? Dump him?
Keenly Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 Yeah I think that's kind of weird. I mean, I'd probably send a text like that 6 months in implying I wanted to meet up for some sex and then get some breakfast, but definitely not this early. 2
hoping2heal Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 He sounds like he gets bold behind the phone and is trying to take things in a sexual direction, but has no confidence to "go there" in person. I'd be turned off too. 3
sid3 Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 I'm hoping you're trolling, otherwise my social value is skyrocketing right now. How a man could possibly text that to a woman he's barely dating is beyond me. Classless is the first thing that comes to mind. Roles reversed, I wouldn't want to receive text messages from a new female aquantice telling me how wet she was, well not unless if it was this one girl. But that's different.
eleve82 Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 He's probably that kind of unclassy guy. Drop him right away - you wouldn't like him. 1
Ronni_W Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 Everything about him is fine, but these texts are getting really really annoying. Any thoughts? Is he nuts? Dump him? NO...everything about him is NOT fine. He is acting in a sexually inappropriate way with you. He has NOT developed with you any sort of relationship that makes his this (sexual) behaviour "fine". YES...of course dump him! You already are feeling or sensing a "lack of chemistry/attraction". And then he is taking for granted that he can impose his "morning wood" on you through texts? Are you feeling any mental/intellectual or emotional attraction to him?
deathandtaxes Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 Yeah I think that's kind of weird. I mean, I'd probably send a text like that 6 months in implying I wanted to meet up for some sex and then get some breakfast, but definitely not this early. I need to remember this one next time I'm in a relationship that long! OP - eww, just eww. It doesn't sound like you're attracted to him in the first place and then morning wood texts? Come on....how much redder does this flag need to be?
Author sarahkm Posted August 17, 2014 Author Posted August 17, 2014 (edited) yeah, I couldn't believe it. The first time was after our 2nd date, and I just went through the texts in my phone. It's happened 3 times via text and once he brought it up in convo when we were at a bar. It's so WEIRD. I've NEVER encountered anything like this before. The guy is educated, has a career, home, comes from a decent family, so I didn't think this sort of 'classless' act would come from him, much less 3 times!!! I mean, one bad joke, I can overlook, but clearly he doesn't see anything wrong with his texts! ugh! And just to clarify I never egged him on. The first time it happened, my response to him was "wtf". 2nd time the response was "ha". And the last time it happened i said "congrats". Yet he doesn't get it. Edited August 17, 2014 by sarahkm
aprilisi Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Creepy. Especially this early on. I remember talking to this guy, I liked him. We went out several times then out of the blue....penis shot. No sex talk at all. I ended communication. He kept on messaging but eventually got the point.
theexfiance Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 So I'm seeing this guy, we've been on a handful of dates. Nothing more than a quick peck on the lips at the end of the night so far. I am not sure how i feel about him. He seems like a decent person but there might be a lack of chemistry/attraction on my part. But anyways, that's not the issue. The issue is 3 times now, I think, and I've known him for about 5 weeks, I'd get a text in the morning with him telling me he is experiencing morning wood. REALLY? WTF?? I don't understand WHY ON EARTH you'd text somebody that. So wtf is he trying say? He is a male? Everything about him is fine, but these texts are getting really really annoying. Any thoughts? Is he nuts? Dump him? I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that this is not okay...ever. If you're a dude with any sort of class or ability to understand social cues you know NOT to do this. Sex is a physical act between two human beings. See where I'm going with this? A straight up confident dude, even if he's got his quirks, will make his move in person and know when it's appropriate. I was almost married, lived with a girl for 3 years, and never did this. There's literally a million other ways to initiate sex. NEXT!
Supernatural Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 (edited) Well. It doesn't take a thread on a dating website to tell you this is weird or wrong. All you guys have done is peck. So after a handful of dates, sexual chemistry seems quite low or non existent. This would be fine if you had dated for awhile and were really comfortable with one another. But you haven't. Not even close. This guy is hiding behind a phone of what he really wants. And that's just weak; not to mention a little creepy. I would scratch this guy and move on. If he is this way about something such as this... I can only imagine what real issues would be like. *edit* and if he is quite aggressive over text like this and not in person... I doubt he is listening to a word you say when you talk. He's probably having sex with you in his mind. This guy seems gross and weird. Get out! This is something an old creepy dude with bald spots would do. ..... Now I need to go wash my hands and free myself of this really weird situation... Edited August 18, 2014 by Supernatural
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