aprilisi Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 Have known this guy nine years. We first went out 8 years ago. It didn't go too well, my mom was dying and I really wasn't at a good point. I went out with him three times. Then I was a no show at a date because my mom was sick it took a while to get back to him and assuming he was stood up he got upset. This was during the days of myspace and he actually blocked me before he found out why. He also wrote a blog about it saying some things that hurt me. He later apologized when he found out what happened but his juvenile behaviour turned me off and I ended it. But once I got over my anger we have been friends. Not going out and doing things friends but talking, we see each other constantly because we live in the same town. I've found myself very attracted to him lately. More so then when we tried dating. He has changed, is much more mature. I catch him watching me a lot and the other day he hollered at me across walmart to get my attention to ask me a question. He's very easy to talk to and we have alot in common. He is also on my OLD profile alot, he has one too, I'm a subscriber and it tells who visits. And my facebook as well. One night I saw him out late and we talked a long time. I later got up the nerve to text him that I was hungry and asked if he wanted to get something at the waffle house we're both night owls. He messaged me saying he wished he'd got the message before he got home but he was writing at the moment. He is an artist and writer and publishes his own comic books. I haven't asked since. That's been about 3 weeks ago. Should I just leave things as they are or try again?
preraph Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 Oh, that's a tough one. Do you know for sure he does not have a girlfriend or could he have one he just never mentions to you? You have to assume three weeks is plenty of time for him to reciprocate and ask you to do something. Have you been communicating during this time? Or just no contact? I wouldn't ask him to do anything. You asked him, he declined for a good reason, but knowing you wanted to go do something, he should have asked for a raincheck or just asked you out before now if he was interested.
Author aprilisi Posted August 17, 2014 Author Posted August 17, 2014 no, he's been single a while, he's pretty open on facebook about his dating frustrations. And that was my thinking about the 3 way thing. But what if he thought I was just being friendly? Uggghhh....ran into him again today.
deathandtaxes Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 I would try one more time to set something up. If you asking him out to Waffle House was very spur of the moment, I can understand his hesitation. And he could be telling the truth - he got home and didn't want to head out again. You never will know unless you ask. But shoot for something a few days out next time. If he waffles (ha, get it!?) this time, next him.
Zippy2000 Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 Why not give it a chance? I think before you weren`t in a good place. The timing wasn`t right. Why not give it a go? However tread carefully. His feelings may have changed and lost feeling for you a long time ago.
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