Oregon_Dude Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 Howdy LS. Went on a date with a girl recently. We had been chatting via text for a few days, and she would always text me back literally 6 or 7 hours after I texted her. Well, we had a great date Friday night (or so I thought). I texted her the next day letting her know I had a great time, and we should do it again. Lo and behold, she text me back 9 HOURS LATER and said she had a great time too, but she needs to focus on her job search and not dating right now. Point of the thread is this: if someone is taking that many hours to get back to you, it's a bad sign; they're just not that into you. I had a feeling, and my feeling was confirmed. It's a shame, because it was a good connection, but it's rude to leave someone hanging like that. If you get the feeling they're not into you because of this kind of crap... you're probably right.
preraph Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 I don't agree. I think active productive people don't spend all day looking at their smartphones. Why return your text at all if she's not interested?
LoveIsMyReligion Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 I don't agree. I think active productive people don't spend all day looking at their smartphones. Why return your text at all if she's not interested? Did you not read what he wrote? "I need to focus on my job search and not dating", that's pretty black and white to me. Chalk it up as a loss and hit the gym buddy. 1
todreaminblue Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 seems pretty cold to me and direct "i need to concentrate on my job search not dating"i wouldnt personally say this to any guy i was dating if i was concentrating on a job search i wouldnt have gone on the date in the first place.... i would leave her with "Ok ill leave you to it then...i wish you well, hope you find the job you love...... then if she contacts you again you decide if you are happy with dating someone who doesnt seem to care whether she sees you or not..... to me its a kiss off.......deb
sid3 Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 Yeah, agreed. What matters most is how she replied not the numbers of hours it took her to do so.
deathandtaxes Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 I don't agree. I think active productive people don't spend all day looking at their smartphones. Why return your text at all if she's not interested? That's total BS. Active productive people can and will have time to use their phones. If you have ZERO free time whatsoever....life, you're doing it wrong. OP - yeah, that sucks man. Usually a very bad sign when people take that long to get back to you. Always a valuable lesson. 2
rocketman122 Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 seems pretty cold to me and direct "i need to concentrate on my job search not dating"i wouldnt personally say this to any guy i was dating if i was concentrating on a job search i wouldnt have gone on the date in the first place.... i would leave her with "Ok ill leave you to it then...i wish you well, hope you find the job you love...... then if she contacts you again you decide if you are happy with dating someone who doesnt seem to care whether she sees you or not..... to me its a kiss off.......deb wow youre kind. I would text her back "piss off then and stop wasting mens money for a free meal wh*re biatch" simple as that. I don't agree. I think active productive people don't spend all day looking at their smartphones. Why return your text at all if she's not interested? you amish? or do you live in a bubble? active and productive great but you dont look at your phone in your most hectic day at least in 3-4 hours at most? and if you say no, youre a liar. I shoot weddings and find the time to look at my phone quickly and at most 3 hours later. so cut the crap.
Author Oregon_Dude Posted August 17, 2014 Author Posted August 17, 2014 Yeah, definitely annoying and inconsiderate, waiting that long to text back. She probably did just want a couple free drinks. Another dating lesson learned. I deserve better.
Author Oregon_Dude Posted August 17, 2014 Author Posted August 17, 2014 I did wish her best of luck on the job search though.
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