Georgia2014 Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 I was wondering how can I find single local men on Facebook?
MissBee Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 Facebook isn't a dating site...so I don't know. It is weird to me when people purposefully prowl around FB adding people for dating purposes, as in my mind it's not made for that. I understand connecting with people via FB, like mutual friends, say someone commented on a mutual friend's status and you respond to them and get to talking so add each other and it sparks something or I know they have FB discussion groups and such, I guess I get how through conversations there you can add people and it becomes more but aside from that I wouldn't prowl around looking for single men. I have men whom I don't know, have no mutual friends with inboxing me about how they think I'm pretty and can we get to know each other or they add me and I'm like WTF?!! How did you even find my page? Then the idea that they just sit around prowling FB adding random women turns me off and makes them seem desperate and loserish vs the more organic ways of adding someone I mentioned before. That's my take on it but perhaps joining a group on FB will give you access to local single men. Maybe look for groups specific to your area or stuff in your area of interest to you. I've not done this so I have no clue but I imagine that's an option.
d0nnivain Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 I suppose it's possible but it's a BAD idea. You want a certain kind of man based on some of your other posts. You have a past which must be treated delicately and you have some difficulty forming relationships. All of those factors indicate that you will not find a quality person on line. You need to step away from your computer & venture into the real world. Perhaps join a group like Toastmasters. It's designed to improve public speaking but it can do a world of good for people who feel invisible in groups. If you have the money take a Dale Carnegie class like How to Win Friends and Influence People. You may also want to consider therapy to explore how your family dynamic caused or aggravated some of your problems & made you feel isolated.
irc333 Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 I recall one of my Facebook friends that made a post on her wall warning even her Mutual friends from messaging her other friends on HER friends list. She had warned that she would even remove her (obviously male) friends from HER list. So I guess to her even if you're mutual friends its off putting. Facebook isn't a dating site...so I don't know. It is weird to me when people purposefully prowl around FB adding people for dating purposes, as in my mind it's not made for that. I understand connecting with people via FB, like mutual friends, say someone commented on a mutual friend's status and you respond to them and get to talking so add each other and it sparks something or I know they have FB discussion groups and such, I guess I get how through conversations there you can add people and it becomes more but aside from that I wouldn't prowl around looking for single men. I have men whom I don't know, have no mutual friends with inboxing me about how they think I'm pretty and can we get to know each other or they add me and I'm like WTF?!! How did you even find my page? Then the idea that they just sit around prowling FB adding random women turns me off and makes them seem desperate and loserish vs the more organic ways of adding someone I mentioned before. That's my take on it but perhaps joining a group on FB will give you access to local single men. Maybe look for groups specific to your area or stuff in your area of interest to you. I've not done this so I have no clue but I imagine that's an option.
d0nnivain Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 It is weird to me when people purposefully prowl around FB adding people for dating purposes, as in my mind it's not made for that. The term Facebook comes from an old practice where at the start of the school year many colleges would print a catalog with head shots (faces) of all the incoming freshman to help students get to know each other. Upper classmen would then "rate" the freshman based on looks; predominantly it was guys trying to hit on the new girls. I don't know how accurate is it, but if you watch the movie about the making of Facebook, the original idea for the site was to make that catalog available on line & then link the Ivy League schools together so the creators (the brothers who sued Mark Z) could find, interact with and potentially date suitable women.
bastus Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 <p>if you seek total stranger it will probably have high risks , i once getting tricked by some crosdresser guy who wear niqab, lol,it is entirely my fault because i had a "thing" with that kind of clothes.. </p>
BassWalker Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 As the others have said facebook isn't for dating or even meeting new people. The way it is set up now you can't even send a message to someone that is not in your friends list without it going to the person's other folder. I miss when myspace was popular around 2003. It was so easy to network, meet new people, and get dates.
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