Darren2013 Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 Just curious. If you ladies found out that a certain guy was avoiding you because he secretly liked you then would you report him for stalking? I mean wouldn't his avoidance get you suspicious that he may be stalking you by googling you up online?
MissBee Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 Huh? I don't understand. It seems you're leaving something out here as this question doesn't really make sense to me. Have you been stalking someone or has someone reported you for stalking? Where's the question coming from...seems like you're leaving out some important details. But in short, if a man avoided me and I found out he liked me no I would not just randomly out of nowhere assume he is stalking me in secret or Googling me and how could I possibly report him with no evidence of this besides the fact that he likes and avoids me? Why would anyone jump to that conclusion? Please explain the full details behind this question.
BikerAccnt Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 How can some one stalk you, if they are avoiding you? 2
Author Darren2013 Posted August 17, 2014 Author Posted August 17, 2014 Well I have already posted threads earlier about this crush I have on this lady. To make a long story short I am doing my best to avoid her. Unfortunately we work at the same place but to an extent I can keep a certain amount of distance from her at my work station. I do not stalk her but every once in awhile I give into temptation to give her a glancing look for a split second and then look away. So it isn't like I stare at her. Sometimes I catch her looking at me and then I look away. I worry sometimes that even a split second look at her could be considered stalking. She has been on my mind alot for the better part of the past week.
MissBee Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 This is a strange and irrational fear that glancing at someone could be considered stalking and that you could be reported for it, what will they tell the police? There is a man who avoids me but glances at me??... Look up what stalking is legally, maybe that will help you to think more rationally about it. Have you been accused of stalking before or something why you're so sensitive to being reported for it by a mere glance? Have you had crushes before and behaved in inappropriate, stalkerish ways or something?
Author Darren2013 Posted August 17, 2014 Author Posted August 17, 2014 This is a strange and irrational fear that glancing at someone could be considered stalking and that you could be reported for it, what will they tell the police? There is a man who avoids me but glances at me??... Look up what stalking is legally, maybe that will help you to think more rationally about it. Have you been accused of stalking before or something why you're so sensitive to being reported for it by a mere glance? Have you had crushes before and behaved in inappropriate, stalkerish ways or something? No I haven't stalked anyone before. However being that it is the workplace I am much more cautious about concealing my attraction because even something simple like asking a coworker to go get coffee with me on my breaks could be looked at as sexual harassment.
preraph Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 What I'm getting from this is that you consider yourself a stalker but are trying to control yourself. The best way to do that is to make yourself focus on other things. Do not give in to wanting to see her photos on the internet. You are the only one who can control you and keep you out of trouble. There's a lot at stake here, and you need to draw on your strength and just stop that behavior. I have a feeling there's already been some accusations against you for you to ask this question. If so and you feel out of control, you might want to just change jobs. Thing is, you'll just focus on someone else, so you need to learn to control yourself and understand why you are obsessive. For that, you need a psychologist. Please set yourself up for an easier life by taking steps now to sort yourself out.
forgetmenot75 Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 I find your behavior kind of weird. Why are you avoiding her if you ike her? why are you secretly stalking her? those two are behaviors I certainly think of someone who has some emotional disturbance or is awfully insecure. Just go ahead and talk to her. Men re aggressive and competitive and I like those traits very much.
Author Darren2013 Posted August 17, 2014 Author Posted August 17, 2014 What I'm getting from this is that you consider yourself a stalker but are trying to control yourself. The best way to do that is to make yourself focus on other things. Do not give in to wanting to see her photos on the internet. You are the only one who can control you and keep you out of trouble. There's a lot at stake here, and you need to draw on your strength and just stop that behavior. I have a feeling there's already been some accusations against you for you to ask this question. If so and you feel out of control, you might want to just change jobs. Thing is, you'll just focus on someone else, so you need to learn to control yourself and understand why you are obsessive. For that, you need a psychologist. Please set yourself up for an easier life by taking steps now to sort yourself out. I have already made it a point to change shifts so this way I will see less of her. The shift change will start the day after tomorrow. I don't think it will be necessary to leave the company as long as they will let me work more shifts that are the opposite of hers.
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