Bed head, dragon breath, etc. When living with someone: do you clean up upon waking?

[Col1]

I'm single and have never lived with a partner. I wake up every morning with my hair a big mess, gunk in my eye, bed indentations left on my face, horrible breath, etc. Of course I clean up before going out into the world. I just don't clean up the first thing I get out of bed. I may take a half hour or so of "waking up" before hopping into the shower.

 

When you live with a partner, do you clean up immediately after waking? I.E. Mouthwash/brush teeth, shower, hair (or a baseball cap), shave, deodorant and fresh clothes.

[Smilecharmer]

Well, considering that morning sex is awesome, no. We just accept that bed head and natural body odors are a part of the experience and aren't real squeamish about it. He looks and smells wonderful with his naturalness. I don't open mouth kiss him of course because morning breath is the one thing I know isn't fresh on me. Why do you ask?

[Col1]

Why do you ask?

I've never lived with a partner. Curious.

[Smilecharmer]

When you develop a long term relationship with someone else, you appreciate them at their most natural state. To me there is something very raw and intimate about seeing my husband before he puts on his suits for the day all mussed up and smelling like man. Sometimes he just stuffs his head into my armpit and sniffs because he loves my natural odor. I think I stink. He thinks I smell good. I do the same to him. We are weird, I guess. Like I said, the only thing we don't do is breathe on each other. No one has good breath in the morning.

[Shepp]

When you develop a long term relationship with someone else, you appreciate them at their most natural state. To me there is something very raw and intimate about seeing my husband before he puts on his suits for the day all mussed up and smelling like man.

 

I love that about being in a relationship. My fiancés a gorgeous girl and when she steps out the front door she dolls up and turns heads - she looks amazing, but no more beautiful to me than she does first thing in the morning when we're chilling round the house and she's wearing trackies & my hoodie, no make up, damp hair - that's when she's my girl, just mine, not the one that the world gets to see.

 

 

Its a nice place to be, its that cwtchy relationship place - she loves me, bed hair, unshaven, unmatching T-shirt & boardies me. The stripped back, real me

 

 

 

 

On the morning breath front I chew gum pretty much from dawn to dusk anyway, haha, theres always that option if your worried!

[veggirl]

No, I don't. I don't wake up all stinky, though. I mean I am not a mouth-breather so my breath isn't super jank, I put my hair up so it's not all wild when I wake up, etc. My bf sleeps like a monster though and he wakes up all gunky. I get up before him though and am busy getting ready etc so I don't really see him in the AM til we are heading out the door. So I guess that's no help On the weekends, we don't really wake up at the same time but no I don't do anything special to be ready for when he wakes up. If I looked a hot mess, I would spruce myself up a bit but for the most part I don't really do anything.

[Candy_Pants]

We love each other's morning faces. First thing we do is kiss and cuddle, maybe more. Only sometimes is his breath bad. We usually brush before bed.

 

He loves my scent and I love his. Even after he gets off work and is super sweaty bi can't help but want to hold him and kiss him. He smells great. Must be the pheromones.

[Els]

Wow, you have a lot of questions about living together. Is this going to happen in the near future?

 

Nah, we don't clean up immediately. Obviously we do clean up relatively close to the time we wake up (we don't go 5 hours without doing so!), but we'd do that even when we lived alone.

 

I don't understand couples where they absolutely can't allow the other person to see them without makeup/with bed head/etc. The whole point of living together is that you've gotten to the point in your R where you can both really accept each other for who they are. What's the point of living together if you're still afraid to let your partner see something completely normal (ie what you look like when you wake up)?

[LilySandrine]

The only thing me and my bf do in the morning, is we immediately run to the bathroom (separately of course) to use the loo and wash the teeth. I also wash my face cause I hate feeling all night sebum build up on it. Then we come back to bed to fool around, if we feel like it. I absolutely cannot stand mine or his morning breath, it would make me puke if I had to kiss him or have sex without washing the teeth.

[MissBee]

Don't live with my bf but he sleeps over a lot.

 

No, not really. I usually shower before bed so it's not like I'm dirty or smelly upon waking up. If we have sex I clean up after with feminine wipes that I keep in my night stand, so when I wake up I smell fine....so does he.

 

I may have dragon breath but he's never complained. We don't full on make out in the morning anyway, just a peck. Sometimes I get up and brush my teeth or he does so we can lay in bed and actually make out more or usually he gets up for work and I wake up too to say bye. But more often than not we don't...but I don't recall him ever having super gross breath in the morning neither do I and we've had morning sex and there was no teeth brushing or anything prior.

 

I don't fix my hair or anything of the sort. First thing he says when I wake up is good morning and that I look beautiful and I'm like you have to be lying but he says it every morning we wake up together and often comments that he knows I'm actually pretty because he's seen me first thing in the morning and still thinks I look beautiful. He wipes the gunk out of my eyes and I do it to him too. Sooo....that's how it goes. With other boyfriends, when we slept together and woke up together there was never any mad dash to look presentable...that's one comfort of a relationship, being able to be yourself.

Edited August 18, 2014 by MissBee

[acrosstheuniverse]

When I was a teenager and insecure I would dash to the bathroom first thing to put a bit of makeup on, no mascara or blush or anything just a bit of concealer and powder to try and make myself look less gross! It would have been my worst nightmare to let a boyfriend see me first thing so I'd always wake up early before them and dash. My stepmother still won't let my dad see her without makeup and they've been together almost a decade now, at least. We went for a facial and she wouldn't get back in his car afterwards until she'd put makeup back on!

 

Now I'm way less self conscious. My boyfriend and I wake up first thing and snuggle and kiss etc. without even getting out of bed. Bed hair is sexy and his breath doesn't really smell, mine probably does sometimes so I purposefully don't mouth breathe, I would rather we both brush our teeth before deep french kissing but that's about it I never ever have body odour apparently, and he'll often sniff my armpit first thing in the morning because he loves how I smell, he smells my neck and says I smell like 'snuggles' and I have my own scent in the morning that he adores. Even if he has a bit of body odour I love snuggling up in his armpit, it doesn't bother me unless it's really bad, just smells manly haha.

 

I wouldn't want to live with somebody where I was constantly aware of maintaining my appearance first thing in the morning, last thing at night. Before bed I have my hair scraped back, glasses on, my retainer for my teeth (Recently got rid of my braces) and a face fresh with serum and zero makeup. He states I look the most beautiful like that, I think it's what Shepp says... day to day I'm very high maintenance in terms of my appearance, I'm quite a tomboy in that I'm happy in jeans and t shirts sometimes but I'll always have a full face of makeup, a manicure and pedicure, freshly washed hair and a blow dry and some kind of perfume. That's the 'me' everyone sees every day, the 'me' before bed and first thing in the morning is only for my boyfriend, nobody else sees it, and so I think it feels special to him.

 

It's true love when you can snuggle up on the sofa looking like **** and smelling less than box fresh, watching a comedy or a horror and eating popcorn and still be heady with the intoxication of love.