mortensorchid Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 This happened earlier this week which I did not get around to mentioning but it's rather funny. I was on a dating website (which shall remain nameless of course) and I had connected with this man. After the usual chit chat on the site itself, he gave me his cell and I mine. We exchanged a few text messages here and there, over a few days it began to wane. He said he was going to call me, I said "Ok, I'll be here" at the appointed time, no call. The next day I got a call and he left a voice message. Something about it seemed strange, he seemed distracted. I decided not to return the call. The next day he called again (I was busy doing something else) and noticed he left the same distracted text message again. Through the website he wrote me an email the next day saying he wanted to talk to me and why wasn't I answering the call? This sounded desperate to me and I decided to not respond to it. About a week went by, the phone rings and I picked it up. He said "Hi this is (name) from Match. Oh wait, we didn't meet on Match, we met on (other website name), didn't we?" I said "Thank you I'm not interested" and hung up. Crazy.
TigerLilly78 Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 I think it was kind of rude to never return the call even if something didn't seam right a simple text saying im sorry I don't think we would be a good match would have been nice I can now see why some men think women play games sorry OP..just how that post seamed.. 11
cactusgal Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 It was very rude of you to ignore his attempts to contact you. And it was *extremely* rude to hang up on him!!! This isn't high school. 4
irc333 Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 Ah, this is funny, the "other side" of the story. If you read this post, notice she leaves out A LOT of information to purposely not make her the "bad guy/gal". Notice she doesn't even mention what was said in the messages that were left and she doesn't even return his calls? What's up with that? She just makes all these assumptive things up about the guy only to purposely FIND a reason not to date him. She only had to go off "He sounded distracted". That means nothing. This happened earlier this week which I did not get around to mentioning but it's rather funny. I was on a dating website (which shall remain nameless of course) and I had connected with this man. After the usual chit chat on the site itself, he gave me his cell and I mine. We exchanged a few text messages here and there, over a few days it began to wane. He said he was going to call me, I said "Ok, I'll be here" at the appointed time, no call. The next day I got a call and he left a voice message. Something about it seemed strange, he seemed distracted. I decided not to return the call. The next day he called again (I was busy doing something else) and noticed he left the same distracted text message again. Through the website he wrote me an email the next day saying he wanted to talk to me and why wasn't I answering the call? This sounded desperate to me and I decided to not respond to it. About a week went by, the phone rings and I picked it up. He said "Hi this is (name) from Match. Oh wait, we didn't meet on Match, we met on (other website name), didn't we?" I said "Thank you I'm not interested" and hung up. Crazy.
Zeurich Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 It was even before getting to know situation. Who is dating every one registered with all the dating sites with thinking they might find some one special. I don't think it as unfair or cheating. And if you don't like him or if you felt that is not the right person you have right to refuse but this is not the right way of refusing some one. And if you refuse some one because he make a mistake with the name of the web site you met him?how would you feel if he did it to you ? Ask your self?
LuvsTrucks2 Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 I agree with the previous posters, you should have returned his calls and told him that you weren't compatible and wish him the best of luck with his search. At the very least, it gives closure and we all need that.
Joaquin Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 Don't see how this is a disaster, or funny, or that he is crazy. You just decided you didn't want to pursue things and told him so in a fairly abrupt way. Not sure there is anything else going on here. 3
GemmaUK Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 I don't understand what he did that was wrong except maybe miss the first call time. I also don't see any reason why you didn't just reply to him. Why is he crazy OP? 4
rocketman122 Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 This happened earlier this week which I did not get around to mentioning but it's rather funny. I was on a dating website (which shall remain nameless of course) and I had connected with this man. After the usual chit chat on the site itself, he gave me his cell and I mine. We exchanged a few text messages here and there, over a few days it began to wane. He said he was going to call me, I said "Ok, I'll be here" at the appointed time, no call. The next day I got a call and he left a voice message. Something about it seemed strange, he seemed distracted. I decided not to return the call. The next day he called again (I was busy doing something else) and noticed he left the same distracted text message again. Through the website he wrote me an email the next day saying he wanted to talk to me and why wasn't I answering the call? This sounded desperate to me and I decided to not respond to it. About a week went by, the phone rings and I picked it up. He said "Hi this is (name) from Match. Oh wait, we didn't meet on Match, we met on (other website name), didn't we?" I said "Thank you I'm not interested" and hung up. Crazy. you disqualified from the get go. you are very suspicious and dont really give a true chance. you arent patient or understanding. so you get what you give. thats the way it goes.
forgetmenot75 Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 Ummm...i think you were rude and awkward by not returning his calls. I don't get what your point was. Test him?
michellew Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 I don't see the disaster in this post?? Another disastrous online dating experience is me walking out on my date last night while he went outside to smoke. He was crude, disrespectful, obnoxious, cocky, and embarrassing. I couldn't stand another minute. Normally I would have the decency to say goodbye and call it a night, but this sorry excuse for a man truly did not deserve it. It was that terrible.
MissBee Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 I must agree with some of the other posters OP. I read the title and was expecting some highly disastrous episode of some deranged guy you went out with from online.... Yet all you presented was a guy who didn't call when he said he would (fair enough, that's not a good impression), but he calls the next day and sounds "distracted" when he leaves a voicemail, you don't respond to his call, he calls back and you again don't answer because you were doing something and he leaves a "distracted text message" (how does a text sound distracted btw?), so he finally emails and says what's up and you again don't respond and he calls and you answer and say "No thanks" and hung up... Sorry, he doesn't really sound crazy. Eager to speak to you maybe but not crazy and I don't quite get why you never just told him you weren't interested the three previous times instead of ignoring him.
aprilisi Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 Bad that he didn't originally call you when he said he would. But he could have had something important come up. He did call later, he was probably super nervous. Maybe it was nerves and not distraction you heard in his voice. Poor guy. At least he tried to call you back later. Were you trying to punish him for not calling you the first time?
Zippy2000 Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 Im on Match, and I ve been responding to women on there. In fact Match.com is actually affiliated with different sites. I know this now because when I email women on the site I ask them how they are finding "Match" and they say, hold on this isnt Match I m on!! It turns out Match is also under "Psuedo" names!
FitChick Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 As I've pointed out many times on here, you are on more dating websites than you think. Just see who owns the site you are on and find out which other sites they own. It's a good thing in that you get a lot of exposure and better still if you check out the subscription prices and join the cheapest one. You will still be on all the others but cannot access each site individually. Don't need to.
It'sallnewtome Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 Aw he sounds like he was nervous to call.. I am on several dating sites. It's like visiting several bars or clubs...
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