I can't get him out of my head...how do I tell him I still have feelings?

[emily_m]

I'm so confused and want to know what people think I should do.

 

I was seeing a guy for a few months - this ended 6 months ago. I ended it because I didn't feel as though we were on the same page....same age, but I think he still had a lot of maturing to do and we were just at different stages in our lives. We didn't fall out though and have spoken briefly since then, just on friendly terms. We really did like each other a lot at the time, but it just wasn't working.

 

He is a very loveable guy and such a character, and in some ways I wish we could have been friends instead so he'd still have been part of my life. Anyway, I left the area we were living in a couple of weeks ago, and just before I was due to leave I started to feel incredibly sad that I might not see him again (we're both travelling). It was really overwhelming and seemed to just come from nowhere - I didn't realise I still had feelings.

 

We'd been speaking more at the time and said we'd meet for a farewell drink, which then ended up being a bit spare of the moment, but he'd been out and was drunk already, so not really the time for deep and meaningfuls. We hugged and kissed which he initiated...I was a little bit resistant at first as he was drunk and I wasn't. I told him I had a week left there and so if he wanted to meet up properly (when he wasn't drunk) to let me know.

 

He messaged me during that week but never to arrange meeting up. He told me he feels lost at the moment and isn't sure what he's doing with his life. He said he wants to get back on track and is taking a job in another country in the next few weeks. I also may end up working in this country and will just be a few hours away from him.

 

So now I'm confused and don't know what to do because I can't stop thinking about him! I want him in my life. I have no idea whether he feels the same. I want to tell him but think it could make things awkward...but then I guess it would be worth the risk. I don't know what to say, I don't even know if it's a good time as he's obviously got a lot on his plate. And would things just be the same as last time even if he does feel the same. I ended things for a reason, after all. Plus at the moment, we're in different countries.

 

I bumped into one of his girl friends after I'd seen him and apparently he'd messaged her the next day saying 'you'll never guess who I was with last night'. I met her when we were first seeing each other. That gave me the impression that he may still have feelings.

 

I really want to tell him how I feel, I just don't know what to say. I'm not really used to putting myself on the line, I usually just let things happen or miss out. I don't think this is good though and I don't wanna be like that anymore.

 

Advice please peeps! Especially from guys as I suppose you're the ones who mostly do the chasing. How do I approach this?? Simply just say 'I still like you'?

 

Thanks for reading

[d0nnivain]

If the things that caused you to conclude you two weren't on the same page haven't resolved, what's the point of going back? I doubt he matured that much in 6 months.