Theweekend Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 I've been going out with this girl for a few weeks. Kissed, foreplay (she wanted sex but I actually had an headache that day) and texted everyday. When I met her she was really into me, like, REALY. One day she told me about this guy (a friend with benefits/rebound guy because she just came out of a 3 year relationship) she was having sex with him a few weeks before she met me but they got into an argument. So that day she told me that guy contacted her again and confessed his love for her. She told me she didn't want to be with him and told him to talk it over (as he requested) when he got back from holiday (apperently he was abroad). So a few days later, everything was still great between us. But suddenly (the day that guy came back from holiday) she changed. She was vague when trying to meet up and cancled dates. She also suddenly hung out alot with "her friends" in the evening and couldnt text back at night/evening. These are red flags and I suspected her having sex with that guy again, although I gave her the benefit of the doubt. So after a few days of her canceling dates on me, I got pissed off and asked her; "do you still even want to hang out anymore? Or are you just wasting my time?". She told me she liked me but didnt want to be in a relationship since she just (6 - 8 months ago) came out of a 3 year long relationship. She said she was doubting/dont want to hang out any longer because she was afraid to fall for me... She said: maby in the future but now im not ready for a relationship. Well, I called bull**** and got mad. Didn't curse or anything but told her: whatever i aint gonna wait for you, thanks for wasting my time and stringing me along. She applogied and said she was speaking the truth about not being ready and wasnt stringing me along. We got in a argument, it got heated and ended with me sayin: nevermind lets break off contact. I still want her though, should I apologies and just see where it goes? Or should I keep no contact? And what do you guys think about the reason behind her suddenly not wanting to hang out anymore? You think she spoke the truth? Any advice is appriciated
forgetmenot75 Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 (edited) Well, the reason you were so mad is because you think she's with this other guy. that's the honest truth and I think you were right. Bad thing you've lost your temper. You should have acted cool, like "nevermind, your lost" and not "you're wasting my time blah blah" Now, you have no options. Do nothing and try to move on. she's probably with this other guy, and she was clear when she told you she doesn't want to hang out with you, and maybe in a future (yeah, sure! when the other one is not available for her". You're not her first option. Find someone else. Sorry you're hurting. Edited August 17, 2014 by forgetmenot75 4
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