gd1039 Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 I'm stumped... There is a girl I work with who I had gone out for coffee once months ago and after that we still chatted occasionally, but never went out again. Then maybe a month ago we were talking and I suggested we go ice skating that weekend. I saw her that Friday at work but it never came up (I was hesitant that she actually wanted to go, so I figured if she wanted to go she would have brought it up). I had figurered I had expressed enough interest up to this point, and I knew she had my number, so I decided to forget about it, and that if she was interested enough she would call me. So everything was fine and dandy until last week. She has started to hang around me a lot more at work, and everytime we chat we have hilarious conversations, and we seem to have a lot in common. This woman I work with even said to her today "I like gd1039 likes you" and the girl (apparently) replied "yea I think so too" I honestly don't know what to do. I like this girl a lot and I can't figure out if she likes me or not. If there was some girl that I knew liked me, and I wasn't interested in her, I probably wouldn't hang around her much at all. I know I should just call her and ask her to do something again, but I can't keep pursuing this if she isn't intersted...
alphamale Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 Originally posted by gd1039 Then maybe a month ago we were talking and I suggested we go ice skating that weekend. I saw her that Friday at work but it never came up (I was hesitant that she actually wanted to go, so I figured if she wanted to go she would have brought it up). your answer, GD1039, is in the sentence above. Read it over again, esp the last part. When a woman really digs a guy she will make every effort humanly possible to hook up with him. let's look at this situation in reverse, OK??? there is the girl at work who really digs you and you dig her, see? she asks you to go ice skating next wknd. what are you gonna do here? another scenario, another girl at work really digs you but u don't like her. she asks you to go ice skating next wknd. what are you gonna do?
bluechocolate Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 ........after that we still chatted occasionally, but never went out again. Why is it that you never went out again? Who's waiting for whom here? ....and I suggested we go ice skating that weekend. I saw her that Friday at work but it never came up .... You suggested? Did you get an answer? And what do you mean "it never came up"? You sound quite unsure & hesitant so maybe she's getting a vibe that you're either not that interested or too flakey. I think you should be more straight forward. Just ask her out. If she says yes, ask her out again.
Pocky Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 I have to agree with BC. Stop pussy-footing around. Ask her out. Ask a definite question and get a definite answer. Yes or no. Not maybe, not we'll see, not another time. A yes or no. If she says yes, then have a great time. If she says no, then find another woman. Honestly, if you have to play cat and mouse games with her just to get her to go out with you why the hell would you want to date someone like that? Direct your energy towards someone that's not going to make you play games just to take her out on a freaking date.
Author gd1039 Posted February 27, 2005 Author Posted February 27, 2005 alpha - I completely agrred with you, until she started hanging around me more than usual at work. For me at least, if there was some girl I was not interested in and I knew she was interested in me, I would not be hanging around her. It doesn't mean I would ignore her, but I certainly wouldn't make an effort to start a conversation with her. bluechocolate - why we never went out again, I'm really unsure. With the ice skating thing, she kinda glazed over and answer over the phone, and said she would talk to me at work on that friday. Friday came, I had a feeling she didn't want to go, so I decided to let her bring it up. She didn't. I really was fine with just letting this go when I felt that she wasn't interested. By fine, I meant I still liked her but I knew to stop trying. Now, I think she may like me, and I'm changing my own mind. There was also a time, after we didn't go ice skating, that these 2 girls came into our store and were looking at me a lot. Finally they came over and asked me where something was, and after I told them one girl said "Are you so and so's friend gd1039?" I said yea and we had a short convo. I told the girl I like about how her friends came in, almost looking for me, and she acted suprised and said it must have been this one friend she had been talking to me on the phone around. I found that strange.
alphamale Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 Originally posted by gd1039 alpha - I completely agrred with you, until she started hanging around me more than usual at work. she wants friendship with you, GD1039. personally I don't recommend being friends with women but do what u want to.
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