Georgia2014 Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 I got a message on an OLD site from a guy giving me compliments on my looks. Should I respond to a first message like that?
smackie9 Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 I got a message on an OLD site from a guy giving me compliments on my looks. Should I respond to a first message like that? Everyone has their own way of saying hi, and commenting on a photo is quite normal. You have nothing to worry about, just respond if you have an interest in this person. 1
MissBee Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 What exactly did he say? It depends on how he says it and what he says. More importantly, are you interested in him?
Author Georgia2014 Posted August 16, 2014 Author Posted August 16, 2014 Everyone has their own way of saying hi, and commenting on a photo is quite normal. You have nothing to worry about, just respond if you have an interest in this person. Thank you. That does make me feel better. I wasn't sure how normal it was to comment on a person's physical appearance.
Supernatural Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 I got a message on an OLD site from a guy giving me compliments on my looks. Should I respond to a first message like that? No. You're clearly too good for him, to say "Thank You". 1
d0nnivain Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 If you otherwise like the person & the comment wasn't crude, why wouldn't you respond? 3
mikethemechanic Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 If you otherwise like the person & the comment wasn't crude, why wouldn't you respond? because he might have a dw yet makes up profiles on dating websites. I'd think that would a good reason not to respond. At least that comes to my mind.
smackie9 Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 because he might have a dw yet makes up profiles on dating websites. I'd think that would a good reason not to respond. At least that comes to my mind. If you are that paranoid, then there is no reason to be using OLD sites. 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 If it's 'you have beautiful eyes' and some comment on the content of my profile, then absolutely yes. If it's 'great rack' or the like, then no. It makes it clear the sender is interested primarily in a sexual relationship. 3
still_an_Angel Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 Being a foreigner in the country I'm living in, people would generally pick me out of a crowd (due to my looks). Its the same on OLD, some guys would send me messages due to my ethnicity. If the message wasn't rude, you should respond, aren't you on OLD to meet new people? Maybe the guy just found your looks very attractive and wants to meet you.
isisisweeping Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 Is the looks the extent of the comment or does it have details on your profile as well? If it's the former, don't bother. I tried saying thank you before; nothing good comes from it.
preraph Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 Take it for what it's worth. He apparently didn't see anything in common to remark on, so he said he thinks you're attractive. Go to his profile and respond if you like what you read there. Don't if you don't.
Author Georgia2014 Posted August 16, 2014 Author Posted August 16, 2014 No. You're clearly too good for him, to say "Thank You". No that is not it. I just feel like guys give compliments in first messages when they are only after sex.
Author Georgia2014 Posted August 16, 2014 Author Posted August 16, 2014 If you are that paranoid, then there is no reason to be using OLD sites. No I am not paranoid. It's just in my opinion guys only give compliments in first messages when they want sex and don't have anything in common to talk about.
aprilisi Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 Every time a man starts with looks it turns to something sexual. Either later inn the convo or ater during the first meeting. Of course, it could be genuine, just speaking from personal experience
smackie9 Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 (edited) No I am not paranoid. It's just in my opinion guys only give compliments in first messages when they want sex and don't have anything in common to talk about. My post about being paranoid was not directed at you it was directed at mickthemechanic. Anyways why are you here asking for our opinion when you already have it set in your mind that this is all this guy is wanting??? Edited August 16, 2014 by smackie9
mikethemechanic Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 My post about being paranoid was not directed at you it was directed at Anyways why are you here asking for our opinion when you already have it set in your mind that this is all this guy is wanting??? I was replying Donnievan who makes OLD profiles even though she has a DH.
SensitiveTJ Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 If you're this stuck up, take down all your pictures OP. Then you can enjoy your OLD experience.
d0nnivain Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 because he might have a dw yet makes up profiles on dating websites. I'd think that would a good reason not to respond. At least that comes to my mind. How does commenting about looks translate to breaking martial vows / cheating? I don't follow that logic at all. Comments purely about the physical may be an indication that person is superficial or only interested in sex but I don't see the link to infidelity at all. The person could just as easily & imo more likely single & sleazy. Again if it was a compliment & not crude, alone that should not be a problem.
d0nnivain Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 I was replying Donnievan who makes OLD profiles even though she has a DH. Where the heck did you get that idea? I was on OLD for 90 days 10 years ago. I haven't made an OLD profile since. I certainly don't cheat on my husband & I resent your implication that I do. You can't go around posting defamatory lies about people. You owe me & my husband an immediate apology! I asked a Q in another thread about chemistry which I prefaced by saying I wanted to get LS's opinion on my past behavior from 10 years ago -- meeting 3 men from OLD who I didn't feel chemistry with through the site / e-mail / phone calls.
smackie9 Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 I was replying Donnievan who makes OLD profiles even though she has a DH. I don't give a fark if you were replying to Donnievan.
smackie9 Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 Where the heck did you get that idea? I was on OLD for 90 days 10 years ago. I haven't made an OLD profile since. I certainly don't cheat on my husband & I resent your implication that I do. You can't go around posting defamatory lies about people. You owe me & my husband an immediate apology! I asked a Q in another thread about chemistry which I prefaced by saying I wanted to get LS's opinion on my past behavior from 10 years ago -- meeting 3 men from OLD who I didn't feel chemistry with through the site / e-mail / phone calls. Instead of don't feed the bears, don't feed the trolls lol 1
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