Dating a Big Woman

[dichotomy]

Yes I do.I was spoiled by my first love back in college a plus sized (but shorter) girl who rocked my world. From then on ...I was hooked. But also - in my case its a not so easy task to find women I consider big (relatively speaking - there are few women who seem big me -I see more too small ones actually).

 

My wife is ...plus sized - bigger/taller than an average guy... and frankly had no problem (in fact the opposite problem )- getting men while single and even married.

 

Men are easy this way - what ever your body type, age, parts, there is a group of men somewhere - getting hot and bothered over the idea of being with you. Also if you got skills and right attitude - your golden.

Edited August 17, 2014 by dichotomy

[bastus]

<p>why not ?, love works on mysterious way,well, this topic reminds me for the manga that i just read before coming here, the tittle is fujiyama-san wa shinsuki..</p>

[It'sallnewtome]

I think men are attracted to women who are confident .. No matter what size.

 

If you like you, men will like that about you.

I am a size 12 but after 3 kids .. I am not a flat stomach perfect woman.

 

I used to work for an airline. So many perfect women but so much insecurity.

 

I got more attention than my younger and slimmer colleagues and I think it was confidence and being happy with who I am.

[bastus]

<p>why not ?, love works on mysterious way,well, this topic reminds me for the manga that i just read before coming here, the tittle is fujiyama-san wa shishunki..</p>

[jay1983]

OP if I was a big guy, I'd date a big girl. But at 5'11" 185, I'm not very comfortable with bigger girls and I've known so many big guys that don't like big girls which is very hypocritical. I have a really good friend of mine (she very over weight) who's having some serious dating issues with guys that don't want to commit. I know another girl who's maybe 5'4" 200 and she's complaining that only african american men hit on her.

 

Try the dating game out, if it works for you, great, if your having some of these problems.......

Edited August 18, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Anela]

A lot of what he said is true. Many guys do date bigger girl because they feel that big women are easier. "Try pursing bigger women" is also a very common piece of advice to tell a guy who is struggling with women.

 

I've had both male and female posters on this forum suggest that I date overweight women, some go very hard to try to convince me to be interested in them.

 

No woman should date a man who had to be convinced by others to ask her out

 

I've only suggested that you actually pay attention to/get to know women who might not normally be on your radar (and it was offensive when you once said that certain women just don't exist to you).

 

You've said numerous times that you wanted to have parents or others, convince the prettier girls to give men like you a chance, and not overlook you, so think about your last sentence in regards to that. No - no woman should have to date a man that she had to be convinced to go out with.

[thefooloftheyear]

And thats the funny thing about women.....

 

They'll mock(and quickly reject) a guy because he is short or has a little dick(neither of which a guy has any control over or can change), but they demand that guys accept them and their largesse...whch in most cases is a choice..

 

Yep....makes all the sense in the world...

 

And beware of the guys that tell their wives/gf's to stay or get fat...In many cases(not all) a lot of guys say this stuff to prevent other guys from muscling in on their turf.....

 

Either way...be happy in whatever you find your body type..Someone will want you just as you are..

 

TFY

[Anela]

And thats the funny thing about women.....

 

They'll mock(and quickly reject) a guy because he is short or has a little dick(neither of which a guy has any control over or can change), but they demand that guys accept them and their largesse...whch in most cases is a choice..

 

 

I haven't mocked or rejected a man for those reasons...

[TigerLilly78]

And thats the funny thing about women.....

 

They'll mock(and quickly reject) a guy because he is short or has a little dick(neither of which a guy has any control over or can change), but they demand that guys accept them and their largesse...whch in most cases is a choice..

 

Yep....makes all the sense in the world...

 

And beware of the guys that tell their wives/gf's to stay or get fat...In many cases(not all) a lot of guys say this stuff to prevent other guys from muscling in on their turf.....

 

 

 

Either way...be happy in whatever you find your body type..Someone will want you just as you are..

 

TFY

 

 

Ive never mocked anyone so what if its a choice what is it to anyone else? so anyone who chooses to be different should accept being bullied and belittled?

[It'sallnewtome]

What constitutes a big woman?

[somedude81]

I've only suggested that you actually pay attention to/get to know women who might not normally be on your radar (and it was offensive when you once said that certain women just don't exist to you).

 

You've said numerous times that you wanted to have parents or others, convince the prettier girls to give men like you a chance, and not overlook you, so think about your last sentence in regards to that. No - no woman should have to date a man that she had to be convinced to go out with.

 

Thanks for making my point for me Anela

 

Not sure what you are talking about parents or something but everything else matches what I said.

[Airborne]

Arnold Schwarzenegger can manage to impregnate a big woman but you're all too good for one?

[Anela]

Thanks for making my point for me Anela

 

Not sure what you are talking about parents or something but everything else matches what I said.

 

Thanks for making the point of everyone who disagreed with your wanting girls to be convinced/coerced into dating you. I clearly remember you wishing that you knew girls whose parents would tell them to go out with you.

[iiiii]

At the end of the day, men are going to have different beliefs about what constitutes physical beauty, and different men are going to attach a different important to looks versus personality anyway.

 

And at the end of the day it doesn't matter if 99% of men find you attractive - you just need to find one person who adores you, who you adore back.

[Shepp]

So if some guy doesn't want to date you because of your size, move on and find someone that does. Because you could loose weight for him, then get in a car accident, end up wheelchair bound for the rest of your life, and he would dump you for that. Shallow is Shallow.

Bull!

 

No girl wants to be with a man who isn't attracted to her.

And you can't make yourself be attracted to someone when your not.

 

Shallow is not being with someone because of how others will perceive them, and you together. Not not being with someone because your not attracted to them - that's PC gone mad!

If your honest enough about the fact that you personally are attracted to more athletic women - then that's your preference it doesn't make you shallow, just honest, what's the good lying about it? And if certainly doesn't make you more likely to dump your injured wheelchair bound partner - wtf! Wanna talk about stereotyping and being shallow - that's the most stereotyped and shallow comment ive read in the whole darn thread!

 

 

OP there's plenty of guys out there who are find bigger girls attractive - without a doubt!

[Robert]

*****Moderators Note*****

 

In the opening post the thread starter asked "Please share your experiences"

 

If you are not posting from experience and would rather just use this thread to disparage a group of people to make yourself feel better then please accept the infraction and points without complaint, thanks

[insert_name]

From experience, I see plus size women with slim/athletic guys all the time. I never see plus size guys with slim/athletic women though. In fact, I never see guys carrying a lot of weight with any women.

 

It's sad that the whole 'big is beautiful' media propaganda that is currently trying to build self esteem in plus size women and 'normalise' it is also not being targeted at men. What's sauce for the goose is not sauce for the gander in this case.

 

So yeah, the OP should have no problem as she is. Weight is not as big an issue for men as it seems to be for women.

[carhill]

From experience, I see plus size women with slim/athletic guys all the time.

 

In this vein, indeed my exW did improve her position in the weight department (over myself), dating and living with a guy who appears to be quite slim. Her second H (I was third) was also slim, and tall.

 

Most overweight female friends had similar experiences, IME. I can't think of one who isn't married, or was when I last had contact. It simply wasn't an issue, long-term, to their ability to form and maintain healthy interpersonal relationships. My dating experiences were quite varied, weight-wise, but I dated enough women I'd term 'overweight' (my exW was 5'1" and 170lbs when we met, as example of my parameters) to know that their attractiveness to myself or other men (they dated others too) was apparently not an issue, nor did they ever complain about men eschewing them due to weight.

 

That said, this all occurred in a demographic with a surplus of men so perhaps that colors the dynamic. A dearth of supply (of women) flew in the face of demand, in general, so men may have been more flexible in their criteria. IDK. In my case, as stated, I dated all shapes and sizes so didn't trend in one way or another. My prior LTR's had been with more 'slim' women.

[Zeurich]

Lol I wouldnt say an elephant yes im heavyset but ive been told I carry it well, it does alot to ur confidence and im just not sure what to expect the last time I dated 8 yrs ago I wasnt overweight...... so...

I was kidding don't take serious well I have some suggestions if you like how about try to put some weight while dating ? Honestly are you dieting or going to gym or may be I can give you some tips. Regarding men it is hard to explain most of the men even if they are overweight they look for slim woman. I am sure you will be just fine. But try to work out with your weight. IN healthy wise I am saying not in sexy wise:rolleyes:

[Imajerk17]

I personally prefer a woman w curves. Not someone who "let herself go" to become fat, but someone who is curvy and well-toned.

 

I am not alone. My experience is that curvy-athletic women who take care of themselves physically have plenty of suitors. How do I know? Many of them I see out and about have rings on their fingers.

[preraph]

You see big women with men, but they were often thin when they married them. I was thin for all of my youth until after 40, and since then been both fat and thin off and on. I have found that once I was over a certain age, guys would befriend me but weren't interested. I guess I was no longer breeder age or whatever. So age is as big a deterrent as size, best I can tell.

 

But I have to be honest, men don't even look at really big women. I live in a place where there's lots of Hispanics, and they are certainly more tolerant of fat girls, but a lot of them don't believe in birth control, etc.

 

To put it in perspective, I've always noticed when out clubbing or at a concert or anywhere there's a social gathering, all the men are looking at the same two best looking girls in the room and seem oblivious to even the ones a step down. So getting attention when you're big is very remote.

 

If you're young and you have big boobs and some fat but still basically an hour-glass figure, then yes, you can certainly still get men. But I'm not going to lie. Most men totally hate fat chicks.

Edited August 18, 2014 by preraph

[dichotomy]

But from experience - look at the free Pron websites. When a man (or men) looks at these sites, they do so with complete personal preference, privacy, to choose what turns them on and what they desire. They can choose any body image of women to ...ummm.. get themselves off.

 

Now I can't give you percentages of views - but most of these sites have generous sections for BBW and even SBBW women, not to mention older women... and even grannies. And tons of other body types, shapes, parts, nationalities....attitudes - aggressions, dominate, submissive, what have you. Heck men who want to let you have other men while they watch.

 

Again not going to put a percentage to how many men like this or that - ya maybe most men will go for typical skinny blond with big boobs - but I will re-state what I mentioned earlier - based on the example of these pron sites - that if you are a woman - and what ever you got - there IS a group of some men hungry to be with you.

 

Some men are easy and freaky like that. Women you rock that base.

Edited August 18, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[TigerLilly78]

From experience, I see plus size women with slim/athletic guys all the time. I never see plus size guys with slim/athletic women though. In fact, I never see guys carrying a lot of weight with any women.

 

It's sad that the whole 'big is beautiful' media propaganda that is currently trying to build self esteem in plus size women and 'normalise' it is also not being targeted at men. What's sauce for the goose is not sauce for the gander in this case.

 

So yeah, the OP should have no problem as she is. Weight is not as big an issue for men as it seems to be for women.

 

Ive always liked the bigger teddy bear kind of guys how ever they often don't want a plus size girl so I don't think its us always discounting them matter of fact the guy I like now is a bigger guy...

[insert_name]

Ive always liked the bigger teddy bear kind of guys how ever they often don't want a plus size girl so I don't think its us always discounting them matter of fact the guy I like now is a bigger guy...

 

Yep, fair point- I didn't consider that big guys might still have high standards which might account for the lack of large guys you see in public with women (I do hear people saying that some large guys they know still have high standards- which I don't get, you can't hold a woman to better fitness standards than yourself!).

 

Although I think that's the exception, rather than a rule. I imagine if you ran this same thread asking for women's opinions on overweight guys in the dating game then I suspect that the majority of opinions would not be as kind and reassuring as the ones in this thread. There seems to be more variance in what men find attractive so all body types have a market. By contrast men who are short or fat (or heaven forbid, a combination of both) have drastically reduced dating options, regardless of their own standards.