UPDATE: So, he finally has my number after 4 months, why isn't he calling?

[BlueIvy]

Ok, I will try to make this brief...

 

4/5 months ago, a fellow employee who works in a different department made small talk with me, he told me has a kid, asked me about my ethnicity, asked my age,lol. I thought he was just being friendly since he didn't seem flirty or anything.

 

So, later on while I punched out he approached me, while I was with a female co-worker and asked for my number. I was taken aback and told him, "Sorry." He said, "Why, it is because you don't date people at work?" I said I had someone and he said is it like official or whatever and I said yeah or something to that affect, he said ok and kept it moving. But I instantly thought he was cute

 

When we would see each-other, we still said hi to each other but that's it. But then when he was in my work area, he left his coat on top of mine, on back of my chair and said he is going to leave it there and I because there was a lot of chairs he could have left his coat on.

 

So, anyway he gets a new position in the co. so I didn't really see him after and when I did, he didn't go out of his way to say hi.

 

Months later...2 days ago we bump into each other at the employee parking lot, he was with his kid. I said his kid is cute and he said. "Like his father" and he gave me a look like he wanted confirmation from me but I kinda ignored his look.

 

Then we made small talk, so I finally told him I am leaving the co. soon and was offered a job elsewhere. And he said, "Am I going to see you again?"

And then he asked if I had Facebook, I said no but said I Have Instagram instead, he said ok he will take it since I didn't give my number last time. Then I said I will take his # and he asked if I am going to put it to use (light joking questioning tone) and I didn't reply. (I am not mean but IDK how to act w/ guys I think are cute) So, 2 days later I texted him how he is doing, hours later he replies and said he is doing good and sorry for replying late but he was busy with customers.

 

I replied later saying, "It's ok,lol":eek: He since hasn't texted me and it's going on day 2.

 

I thought he liked me or is this an ego thing because I initially rejected him?

[Tbisb74]

Has it occurred to you that he may be as shy and unsure as you are? And do you still have "someone"...?

[BlueIvy]

Has it occurred to you that he may be as shy and unsure as you are? And do you still have "someone"...?

 

No, he seems kinda confident. I forgot to add I saw him at work yesterday he said Hi, we didn't chat since I was leaving work.

 

Well, I still hang out with my ex but we haven't been intimate. I made a thread or 2 about him, he's twice my age. I consider myself single, he apparently thinks we are still together.

[Tbisb74]

No, he seems kinda confident. I forgot to add I saw him at work yesterday he said Hi, we didn't chat since I was leaving work.

Ok....

 

Well, I still hang out with my ex but we haven't been intimate. I made a thread or 2 about him, he's twice my age. I consider myself single, he apparently thinks we are still together.

One, does Mr Potential know this?

Two, you should be completely firm with your ex, break up completely and stop seeing him at all. Do not 'hang out', intimately or otherwise. If you're broken up, then prove it. Don't hang on to the benefits without a commitment. That's very unfair. He obviously still has hopes, and you're feeding them. That's just not nice.

[Moonborn]

You told him you were taken, unless told otherwise in his place I would assume you were still taken and not make any serious move toward you. I would still be lightly flirtatious, but nothing more. Maybe that's what is happening here.

[torturedartist]

Ok, I will try to make this brief...

 

4/5 months ago, a fellow employee who works in a different department made small talk with me, he told me has a kid, asked me about my ethnicity, asked my age,lol. I thought he was just being friendly since he didn't seem flirty or anything.

 

So, later on while I punched out he approached me, while I was with a female co-worker and asked for my number. I was taken aback and told him, "Sorry." He said, "Why, it is because you don't date people at work?" I said I had someone and he said is it like official or whatever and I said yeah or something to that affect, he said ok and kept it moving. But I instantly thought he was cute

 

When we would see each-other, we still said hi to each other but that's it. But then when he was in my work area, he left his coat on top of mine, on back of my chair and said he is going to leave it there and I because there was a lot of chairs he could have left his coat on.

 

So, anyway he gets a new position in the co. so I didn't really see him after and when I did, he didn't go out of his way to say hi.

 

Months later...2 days ago we bump into each other at the employee parking lot, he was with his kid. I said his kid is cute and he said. "Like his father" and he gave me a look like he wanted confirmation from me but I kinda ignored his look.

 

Then we made small talk, so I finally told him I am leaving the co. soon and was offered a job elsewhere. And he said, "Am I going to see you again?"

And then he asked if I had Facebook, I said no but said I Have Instagram instead, he said ok he will take it since I didn't give my number last time. Then I said I will take his # and he asked if I am going to put it to use (light joking questioning tone) and I didn't reply. (I am not mean but IDK how to act w/ guys I think are cute) So, 2 days later I texted him how he is doing, hours later he replies and said he is doing good and sorry for replying late but he was busy with customers.

 

I replied later saying, "It's ok,lol":eek: He since hasn't texted me and it's going on day 2.

 

I thought he liked me or is this an ego thing because I initially rejected him?

 

He sounds like a classical shy guy to me. He's probably terrified of rejection, as the result of some kind of traumatic rejection in his past (what was traumatic rejection to him probably wouldn't be to the majority of the population).

 

He'll hem and haw and kick himself for not having been more proactive in at least getting a date with you. But next time he sees you, he'll do the same thing.

 

He feels like damaged goods in some way, maybe because he has a kid. He believes a woman of your caliber should be looking for a guy who has his life together better than he does.

 

He's put you on a pedestal and placed himself below you. On the plus side, he's probably not a player. He would probably treat you well. All this might seem sweet and refreshing for a while, but you might get tired of his constant refusal to act like a man, as he's doing now.

 

Or, a healthy relationship with a woman might be just what he needs to get his mojo back. In which case you'll have a new set of problems when he starts acting like a typical guy.

 

The majority of posts at this forum are by women who are being mistreated by men who don't value them. From what you're saying, this is a guy who would value you.

 

But, you probably need to make the move. You may have to ask him out, especially if you rejected him once. You might have been playing hard to get by not giving him your phone number, but it really stung him. He's not going to stick his neck out for you again. It's like what George W. said about the whole fooling me once, fooling me twice business. If you're not familiar with that reference, just ignore it.

 

My advice is to ask yourself the question: do I want to have a relationship with a shy guy? If the answer is yes, tell him you like him, straight up. It'll probably make him sh*t his pants. But you'll get to the bottom of the issue. He'll have no choice but to fess up and disclose his feelings for you, though it may take a little while and a whole lot of hemming and hawing, if he likes you.

[torturedartist]

You told him you were taken, unless told otherwise in his place I would assume you were still taken and not make any serious move toward you. I would still be lightly flirtatious, but nothing more. Maybe that's what is happening here.

 

She said she was "taken aback". That doesn't mean she's off the market. It's an idiom meaning she was shocked and surprised.

 

OP, you need to clarify that you're not taken.

[torturedartist]

No, he seems kinda confident. I forgot to add I saw him at work yesterday he said Hi, we didn't chat since I was leaving work.

 

Well, I still hang out with my ex but we haven't been intimate. I made a thread or 2 about him, he's twice my age. I consider myself single, he apparently thinks we are still together.

 

So you still hang out with your ex, making your idiom "taken aback" somewhat literal?

 

I'm not going to tackle the f-ed-upedness of that one tonight.

[BlueIvy]

Has it occurred to you that he may be as shy and unsure as you are? And do you still have "someone"...?

 

Ok....

 

 

One, does Mr Potential know this?

Two, you should be completely firm with your ex, break up completely and stop seeing him at all. Do not 'hang out', intimately or otherwise. If you're broken up, then prove it. Don't hang on to the benefits without a commitment. That's very unfair. He obviously still has hopes, and you're feeding them. That's just not nice.

 

IDK or thinks he remember why I initially rejected him because in the parking lot he mentioned how I didn't give me his number.

 

I am no longer intimate with him and in fact told mentioned the co-worker and how I think he's cute. He probably doesn't take my crush seriously. Well, we did break up...I initiated it. I mean we have a understanding anyway. Actually, he's usually the one who initiates us hanging out anyway. I still like hanging out with him, he's like a confidant so I don't want to not have him in my life and he feels the same. He doesn't have hope, he's twice my age he knew it wasn't going to last and understands and respects that.

 

You told him you were taken, unless told otherwise in his place I would assume you were still taken and not make any serious move toward you. I would still be lightly flirtatious, but nothing more. Maybe that's what is happening here.

 

I think he forgot based on the fact in the parking lot he mentioned I didn't give him my number, as if I rejected him because I wasn't interested.

 

He sounds like a classical shy guy to me. He's probably terrified of rejection, as the result of some kind of traumatic rejection in his past (what was traumatic rejection to him probably wouldn't be to the majority of the population).

 

He'll hem and haw and kick himself for not having been more proactive in at least getting a date with you. But next time he sees you, he'll do the same thing.

 

He feels like damaged goods in some way, maybe because he has a kid. He believes a woman of your caliber should be looking for a guy who has his life together better than he does.

 

He's put you on a pedestal and placed himself below you. On the plus side, he's probably not a player. He would probably treat you well. All this might seem sweet and refreshing for a while, but you might get tired of his constant refusal to act like a man, as he's doing now.

 

Or, a healthy relationship with a woman might be just what he needs to get his mojo back. In which case you'll have a new set of problems when he starts acting like a typical guy.

 

The majority of posts at this forum are by women who are being mistreated by men who don't value them. From what you're saying, this is a guy who would value you.

 

But, you probably need to make the move. You may have to ask him out, especially if you rejected him once. You might have been playing hard to get by not giving him your phone number, but it really stung him. He's not going to stick his neck out for you again. It's like what George W. said about the whole fooling me once, fooling me twice business. If you're not familiar with that reference, just ignore it.

 

My advice is to ask yourself the question: do I want to have a relationship with a shy guy? If the answer is yes, tell him you like him, straight up. It'll probably make him sh*t his pants. But you'll get to the bottom of the issue. He'll have no choice but to fess up and disclose his feelings for you, though it may take a little while and a whole lot of hemming and hawing, if he likes you.

 

The thing is I am not forward at all! And I am traditional in the sense where I feel men should case.

 

I don't feel like he's shy at all since he did ask for number and did initiate conversation with me. At the same time, I don't have bad vibes. I think because he has a young child he probably is looking for something serious even though he is in his 20s.

 

So, how should I approach this? Should I call or text? I am nervous myself,lol.

 

I know I am beautiful and have other good traits about me, but I don't want to come off as desperate...

[BlueIvy]

So you still hang out with your ex, making your idiom "taken aback" somewhat literal?

 

I'm not going to tackle the f-ed-upedness of that one tonight.

 

I do, we are friends. Good lord people, it's possible,lol. My cousin hangs out with her ex, nothing sexual at all. I am not the type of woman to be intimate with multiple men or anything like that.

 

I was taken aback because 1. Most guys just say I am beautiful and don't ask for my number or even ask me out. 2. I initially thought he was just friendly. 3. He asked me while with my female co-worker.

[Tbisb74]

I do, we are friends. Good lord people, it's possible,lol. My cousin hangs out with her ex, nothing sexual at all. I am not the type of woman to be intimate with multiple men or anything like that.

Nobody is suggesting you are. But if as you say, your ex is under the impression you guys are NOT broken up, then you need to be completely fair to him in this. You're investing for friendship. He's investing with a hopeful agenda. It's impossible to be a genuine friend with someone you still have deep feelings for. If you are aware he actually wants more, but you cannot commit to that, then your continued contact with him is not fair.

 

I was taken aback because 1. Most guys just say I am beautiful and don't ask for my number or even ask me out. 2. I initially thought he was just friendly. 3. He asked me while with my female co-worker.

Then, what exactly is stopping YOU from making a move? Why does it always have to be a guy's job? If you want something to happen, make it happen!

[BlueIvy]

Nobody is suggesting you are. But if as you say, your ex is under the impression you guys are NOT broken up, then you need to be completely fair to him in this. You're investing for friendship. He's investing with a hopeful agenda. It's impossible to be a genuine friend with someone you still have deep feelings for. If you are aware he actually wants more, but you cannot commit to that, then your continued contact with him is not fair.

 

 

Then, what exactly is stopping YOU from making a move? Why does it always have to be a guy's job? If you want something to happen, make it happen!

 

Eaiser said than done. Well, he's older and he plays games...I won't get into it...but you're right but this thread ain't about him...

 

Because I wasn't raise like that,lol. So, I still have a traditional mentality in that regard. I guess I'll call him tmw or Tuesday or something just to make chat and see how it goes:eek:.

[Tbisb74]

Eaiser said than done. Well, he's older and he plays games...I won't get into it...but you're right but this thread ain't about him...

It doesn't matter. You mentioned him and you brought him into the equation. His age is irrelevant, as are the games he plays. If you respond you're playing into them too. You need to go No Contact, for your own well-being, benefit and progress. you can't have him snapping at your heels for ever....

And as a previous poster said, if he's still on the scene, even as a shadow, this 'Mr Potential' may be backing off for that reason.

 

Because I wasn't raise like that,lol. So, I still have a traditional mentality in that regard. I guess I'll call him tmw or Tuesday or something just to make chat and see how it goes.

C'mon gurl! Git with the programme! This is 2014!! Just because you were raised in a particular way doesn't mean it's misbehaving to make a move - it's innovative and refreshing!

Ditch older guy as is right, and do what you need to do!!

[ExpatInItaly]

He thinks you're still taken. This is not some big mystery. If you're single again, make it clear. To both men. Why complicate a situation that's actually quite simple?

[BlueIvy]

It doesn't matter. You mentioned him and you brought him into the equation. His age is irrelevant, as are the games he plays. If you respond you're playing into them too. You need to go No Contact, for your own well-being, benefit and progress. you can't have him snapping at your heels for ever....

And as a previous poster said, if he's still on the scene, even as a shadow, this 'Mr Potential' may be backing off for that reason.

 

C'mon gurl! Git with the programme! This is 2014!! Just because you were raised in a particular way doesn't mean it's misbehaving to make a move - it's innovative and refreshing!

Ditch older guy as is right, and do what you need to do!!

 

Ok lol. I'll call or text him and update.

[BlueIvy]

He thinks you're still taken. This is not some big mystery. If you're single again, make it clear. To both men. Why complicate a situation that's actually quite simple?

 

Ok, I'll try to state to him or flirt with him so he knows I'm now single.

 

I guess I'm complicating it because idk if he really likes me? I mean why even give me his # if he felt I was involved. The fact I took his number and texted him shows I'm interested. But maybe it isn't obvious. Also, I'm can be too any analytical at times.

[BlueIvy]

Nobody is suggesting you are. But if as you say, your ex is under the impression you guys are NOT broken up, then you need to be completely fair to him in this. You're investing for friendship. He's investing with a hopeful agenda. It's impossible to be a genuine friend with someone you still have deep feelings for. If you are aware he actually wants more, but you cannot commit to that, then your continued contact with him is not fair.

 

 

Then, what exactly is stopping YOU from making a move? Why does it always have to be a guy's job? If you want something to happen, make it happen!

 

He thinks you're still taken. This is not some big mystery. If you're single again, make it clear. To both men. Why complicate a situation that's actually quite simple?

 

So, today he texted me with a hello beautful this morning. Throughout the day, we made small talk. He did tell me when he first talked to me he didn't think I was interested. I reminded him I had a bf at the time but thought he was cute. He also assumed I was shy and quiet and I said I am not and he said he would like to get to know me better.

 

A red flag to me is so far texting only, it makes me feel like he doesn't want to get to know me in a "serious way". Based on my experience/experience of others, dudes that usually text are looking for 1 thing and try to put in as little effort as possible. Meanwhile a man who is truly interested would call to hear your voice, it's more personal than texting, which is informal...

 

However, he has been respectful so far and I would think him still interested months later means it's not just a fling he's interested in. He also told me he had no father figure which is not a deal breaker, but I grew up in a 2 parent home.

 

I have no expectations or am trying to move quickly. But I am cognizant how a man acts or talks to me..I just don't want B.S. or games or lying, which appears to so common these days.

[Moonborn]

 

A red flag to me is so far texting only, it makes me feel like he doesn't want to get to know me in a "serious way". Based on my experience/experience of others, dudes that usually text are looking for 1 thing and try to put in as little effort as possible. Meanwhile a man who is truly interested would call to hear your voice, it's more personal than texting, which is informal...

 

 

I hate phone calls, so when I am interested in a girl if I can't meet her in person I'd rather text than call her. As in, I won't call unless I absolutely have to. There could be a lot of reasons for him to do the texting only thing, I wouldn't read too much into that...

[Do_The_Herp]

My advice is to ask yourself the question: do I want to have a relationship with a shy guy? If the answer is yes, tell him you like him, straight up. It'll probably make him sh*t his pants. But you'll get to the bottom of the issue. He'll have no choice but to fess up and disclose his feelings for you, though it may take a little while and a whole lot of hemming and hawing, if he likes you.

 

As much of a "tortured artist" that I am myself, I would say to disregard this poster's extreme projections.. Making a LOT of assumptions, when the "shy dude" was the one to start talking to you, right?

 

A shy guy wouldn't leave his coat on yours when it's obvious what he's doing, and probably wouldn't have even asked for your number at all, which I'm wondering if this poster even took note of when he decided to go off on a rant about how all "shy" guys have some sort of severe, profound inferiority complex. I don't buy that this potential love interest is ashamed of his child, either.

 

Besides, the bottom line is, who cares what a person has gone through internally due to traumatic experiences? If they've overcome them, they're an even better person than the starving painter who says that those people have too much baggage to be worth anything to anybody. Bah!

 

OP, the REAL issue is most likely what others have said, and what I believe is the truth as well; You didn't say anything about your more recent single status to this dude, am I right? He literally still thinks that you're in a relationship, right? So why would you expect him to make a move? Do you want to get with a guy who'd be willing to wedge himself in-between a happy couple? I sure as hell wouldn't, if I was a girl.

 

So, the moral of this story would be to let the guy know that you're single and looking to mingle.. Maybe contact him and gently suggest that he ask you out.. "Oh, I was looking to go to X, but I've got nobody to go with, now that I've been single for awhile and all.." Y'know, maybe I'm not that good at coming up with stuff to say, but you get the idea. Do what you girls do to hint at the fact that you want them to ask you out..

 

AT LEAST let him know that you're single now.. Say what you feel needs to be said to let him know that you're available and WANT him to make a move.

 

Good luck!

[BlueIvy]

I hate phone calls, so when I am interested in a girl if I can't meet her in person I'd rather text than call her. As in, I won't call unless I absolutely have to. There could be a lot of reasons for him to do the texting only thing, I wouldn't read too much into that...

 

Ok, I guess. A male cousin, who is in his 30s, older than me said it's a no no for texting because a dude can easily be with his woman while texting you. He also said it's very impersonal. He then went on to say how his now ex would text, come to find out she was talking to another woman.

 

As much of a "tortured artist" that I am myself, I would say to disregard this poster's extreme projections.. Making a LOT of assumptions, when the "shy dude" was the one to start talking to you, right?

 

A shy guy wouldn't leave his coat on yours when it's obvious what he's doing, and probably wouldn't have even asked for your number at all, which I'm wondering if this poster even took note of when he decided to go off on a rant about how all "shy" guys have some sort of severe, profound inferiority complex. I don't buy that this potential love interest is ashamed of his child, either.

 

Besides, the bottom line is, who cares what a person has gone through internally due to traumatic experiences? If they've overcome them, they're an even better person than the starving painter who says that those people have too much baggage to be worth anything to anybody. Bah!

 

OP, the REAL issue is most likely what others have said, and what I believe is the truth as well; You didn't say anything about your more recent single status to this dude, am I right? He literally still thinks that you're in a relationship, right? So why would you expect him to make a move? Do you want to get with a guy who'd be willing to wedge himself in-between a happy couple? I sure as hell wouldn't, if I was a girl.

 

So, the moral of this story would be to let the guy know that you're single and looking to mingle.. Maybe contact him and gently suggest that he ask you out.. "Oh, I was looking to go to X, but I've got nobody to go with, now that I've been single for awhile and all.." Y'know, maybe I'm not that good at coming up with stuff to say, but you get the idea. Do what you girls do to hint at the fact that you want them to ask you out..

 

AT LEAST let him know that you're single now.. Say what you feel needs to be said to let him know that you're available and WANT him to make a move.

 

Good luck!

 

Yes, that's how I know he isn't shy at all! I dealt with a few shy guys and it took them awhile for them to admit that they like me and even then it was subtle.

 

Well, we have been texting still. He is at work so it makes me feel more at ease why we are texting. I have been the one asking the questions, which he said he like because it shows I am interested, but I feel I am the one asking most of the questions and even told him feel free to ask me q's... He dd ask me what type of men I go for, which I stated...

 

So, it makes me feel he isn't trying to get to know me?...he also asked me to send a few pictures:rolleyes:. I asked why and he said something like if I can't be around someone while thinking of them, I can look at your pic and see your beautiful smile. I declined respectfully.

 

I did text maybe we can get coffee whenever he is free this week, no response yet. Even asking that is out of my comfort zone but I feel it's casual...and it's a good way to gauge if we can hold a conversation.

 

I had a date with ths other guy while my ex and he asked me within 1st week to go out and I choose the place. We went for lunch then the movies. It was fun but when he said all men cheat and admitted he cheated on a gf before, it was a dealbreaker. But the point is he was assertive and went after what he wanted. Even with my ex, he gave me his #. I hit him up and within the 1st week we went out on a 1st date to a restaurant and then the beach.

 

While I think he's cute, I am starting to have doubts now about his intentions..

 

 

I forgot to say that when he said he likes that I am not afraid to speak my mind and gave the example of how I rejected him initially...and I mentioned how I had a boyfriend, so I would presume he knows I am available now.

 

Oh, he finally replied but mentioned nothing about the coffee thing, he just asking instead why I don't send pics, if I had a bad experience...

 

Well, looks like nothing will come of this, oh well.

Edited August 4, 2014 by BlueIvy

[BlueIvy]

If you want a recap, this is the thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/488220-so-he-finally-has-my-number-after-4-months-why-isn-t-he-calling

 

So, anyone we did go on a date not too long ago. We talked loads and loads, he was pretty much a open book, talked about his previous relationship...and said he is looking for a relationship and asked what I am looking for. During the end of the date, he did ask if he could kiss me, because according to him I was dropping hints. I declined.

 

The date was apparently good because he suggested us going out next week.

 

One snag, he apparently doesn't have a vehicle. I picked him up and dropped him off, he paid for the date of course.

 

Anyway, we have been communicating day or every other day but he's been MIA for 5 days. Last time we spoke, I mentioned how he wanted to kiss me but I hurt his ego by declining. I was playfully flirting, anyway after than MIA.

 

I would think with pursuing me for awhile & disclosing certain personal info, and suggesting a 2nd date, he really liked me and is not just looking for a fling.

 

Either way I am conflicted, I think he's attractive and has "potential" but I want someone who had a similar upbringing to me and already established. What I ask for is what I possess myself so I feel if he does hit me up and this develops, I would be lowering my standards. For instance, he has no car but I do; it's kind of a turn off to pick him up and drop him off...

[Natsu21]

If you want a recap, this is the thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/488220-so-he-finally-has-my-number-after-4-months-why-isn-t-he-calling

 

So, anyone we did go on a date not too long ago. We talked loads and loads, he was pretty much a open book, talked about his previous relationship...and said he is looking for a relationship and asked what I am looking for. During the end of the date, he did ask if he could kiss me, because according to him I was dropping hints. I declined.

 

The date was apparently good because he suggested us going out next week.

 

One snag, he apparently doesn't have a vehicle. I picked him up and dropped him off, he paid for the date of course.

 

Anyway, we have been communicating day or every other day but he's been MIA for 5 days. Last time we spoke, I mentioned how he wanted to kiss me but I hurt his ego by declining. I was playfully flirting, anyway after than MIA.

 

I would think with pursuing me for awhile & disclosing certain personal info, and suggesting a 2nd date, he really liked me and is not just looking for a fling.

 

Either way I am conflicted, I think he's attractive and has "potential" but I want someone who had a similar upbringing to me and already established. What I ask for is what I possess myself so I feel if he does hit me up and this develops, I would be lowering my standards. For instance, he has no car but I do; it's kind of a turn off to pick him up and drop him off...

 

So him not being well-off is a problem for you, but he's got a great personality. Well this is easy.

 

Drop him. You'll be doing him a favor, trust me. Nats.

[HappyLove]

From what you said here, can't say I blame him. You're not into him really and giving mixed singles. You wish he was something he's not. You dissed his attempt at a kiss. I honestly don't know why you're confused. Anyone with an ounce of self respect would move on as he has.

[Natsu21]

From what you said here, can't say I blame him. You're not into him really and giving mixed singles. You wish he was something he's not. You dissed his attempt at a kiss. I honestly don't know why you're confused. Anyone with an ounce of self respect would move on as he has.

 

Let me put it in more blunt terms.

 

You're an extremely shallow person who got pissed cause dude isn't giving you attention because apparently not having a car is the worst thing ever.

 

It's that simple.

[chimpanA-2-chimpanZ]

You do not date people for their "potential". If you want something you can mold into all your hopes and dreams, buy a house.