newby Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 Are most OW here extremely attractive in looks and personality, with older, uglier, MM with SD?
KissMyTiara Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 Honestly, as far as looks are concerned, I am at least an 8, a 9.5 on a good day. MM is probably a 6.5 or a 7. But in terms of personality, wit, charm, etc., we're on par at about a 9...I think. Why do you ask??
StillHurtin Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 The OW H was involved w/ during our separation wasn't as attractive as I am. My self-esteem isn't exactly high up there but I can honestly say I am more attrative. As for H, yes he is attrative but I am not saying that b/c he is my H. He has been told that several times or I have heard from other's how attractive he is. When H was having his A I was told by many ppl that MM don't just have A's w/ OW that are better lookin than their W's. They are missing something in the M (that they need to talk to the W about, not run to another woman) that they look for in the OW.
LadyRLD Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 I have to admit, my MM was not that attractive. I just thought he was sooooo beautiful........only because wait truth is coming out...........Someone else had him. Made him look 10 times better. Not only did someone else have him but he cheated on her before and she knew about it and still wanted him. So I just felt like he was in demand. Plus he did put on a good front like every girl wanted him. Boy was that sooo not true. If he were single, he would not have been my usual type. Actually, I probably would not have taken a second look at him. That's the honest truth. Oh and by the way I am a perfect 10!!! I figure I better put my own self on the pedestal. It does make me feel better
SummerRae Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 actually, lol, NO, my ex-MM was the least attractive guy I've ever dated, lol. When my cousin saw a pic of him she said "that's your boyfriend, his nose is so big." LOL! Well, it just goes to show you that it was mostly about the inside (well, at least the parts I saw) and the chemistry between us was **explosive** at the best of times. He would know what I was thinking almost always. We just related. On the other hand, I think I'm somewhat attractive. Or at least average. I've never had a problem finding dates, anyways...
StillHurtin Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 When H was having his A the OW's own H came over to visit w/ me about it. I told him that I was suprised that H was attracted to her b/c she wasn't his type. He told me that he was suprised that his W was attracted to H b/c he had a beer gut. H isn't fat, but he does have a small beer gut on him. Of course her H was thinner but the guy is only 24 year old and in good shape. Neither one of us are as thin as when we were married.
lynnered Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 my situation he was/is attractive hes 6'5 270,got a tiny belly his nose is a little big,but I'm the more attractive one now! when we were just friends it was right before i got my braces and i had acne , i was really shy &had low self esteem,but in my eyes he was/is still my ideal man. acne cleared up (acutane)braces were on when A began. ironic i was dating a guy who had a tighter body,more handsome(in my best friends eyes )was really into me &i ended that because of xmm . my therapist seems to think it was a thing of me feeling xmm was on my level where as with the single guy he was well traveled ,educated and really into me i felt i didn't deserve that at the time it scared me. i work out ,i have a nice small tight body ,nice smile pretty face, my self esteem right now is about where it was when i had acne &braces, i know guys find me attractive but I'm still scared to date yet!!!its been almost 4years . his wife is short, overweight ,not a pretty face &5years older then him ,does not work out ,he told me he wasnt attracted to her &after having a body like mine he had no interset,my issue with these jerks ,like my xmm she was good enough for you at some point ?men all pigs !!
9Lives Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 mines was so damm fine. I am too but his wife...she is ugly with a nice body.
erika2610 Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 Well, I'm a 26 relatively attractive girl, and my exMM was 40 years old, fat and balding. But it was about what was on the inside..
Leaf Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 This thread makes me giggle... lol. My MM is really handsome. He is 5'10 160lbs he works out and is yummy! He has dark brown hair and green eyes. His W is like 5'4 and has brown hair.. thats all I know. I am 5'8 and have blond hair (its blond dammit! I paid for it! ...lol!) I think he and I are on par for looks.. he tells me I am the hot one nut I think he is.
newby Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 the reason i started this thread was because a) i thought it was time for something a bit more lighthearted b) i thought it gave us all a chance to big up ourselves c) i suspected it was highly likely that the ow were far more attractive than their mm and i am curious how they manage to get us and what happens when they do, after the initial disbelief that they could get someone as hot as us?? what makes them sooo charming and adorable to us, is it because they have to work extra hard at it, i mean what have they got going for them? they are old, balding, some of them have (sob) ED and lets not forget MARRIED. how do they do it????
newby Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 p.s the original title of this thread was changed somewhat by the moderators... the question is not are most ow and mm attractive, it is are most ow attractive and most mm ugly ha ha
izzybelle Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 i agree with leaf, this thread makes me giggle MM#1 nice face and a body that could easily knock any woman off a chair! i could, and did, love to just lie there and look at him. if i was out someplace and he was around i'd always end up having to listen to the women i was with making comments about his body. of course i always wanted to make a comment about how he looked naked!!! his wife is also very attractive. MM#2 attractive, but more of the kind that i just wanted to feel his arms around me. he's the terribly cuddly type. and his personality was the kicker and what sucked me into the mess. not sure what his wife looks like although i suspect from his comments that she's considerably larger than me!!!! me....hmmmm, i'm never totally happy with what i see in the mirror but i know men find me very attractive. i'm only 5'2" and look younger than i am (i still even get proofed sometimes). i'm in fairly good shape and one of the few women in their 40s who can wear a short mini and get away with it! i still get puzzled when attractive men tell me that they can't believe someone like me would be interested in them...ok probably just a line, but ....
StillHurtin Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 Originally posted by izzybelle ime....hmmmm, i'm never totally happy with what i see in the mirror but i know men find me very attractive. i'm only 5'2" and look younger than i am (i still even get proofed sometimes). i'm in fairly good shape and one of the few women in their 40s who can wear a short mini and get away with it! i still get puzzled when attractive men tell me that they can't believe someone like me would be interested in them...ok probably just a line, but .... I hope I can say the samething in 5 years, lol. I dread turning 40! 30 wasn't bad, but 40, ugh!!!
MsMree Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 6 ft., 210 lbs. - GREAT BODY!! Nice face, dresses like a "geek" sometimes (well, his is a scientist!! lol!) But the main attraction is his southern charm and accent - OMG!! When he calls me "Baby", especially when we are in bed... I need to stop right there 'cause i don't want conspicuous sounds coming from my office - HAHA!! I am 5'5", 140 lbs. - all curves long blonde hair and light brown eyes - alot of people think i look like Hilary Duff - only much older (i said MUCH, right!!) and sexier, baby!! I'm 38. I AM A GODDESS!!! HAHAHAHA!! This question makes me giggle as well. W is a size 18 w/a Mommy haircut and clothes (and BIG BOOBS!!) - but that doesn't matter - i know he loves her and when you love somebody i think you tend to see the person you fell for not the person they've become.
blind_otter Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 Attractiveness is so subjective. Some people like dark looks, some like blonds, some like chunky boys, some like skinny boys.... How does this question make sense? My exBF cheated on me with the nastiest, fat, ugly cows and bar skanks he could find. I have no idea why. Then the chick he cheated on me with when I was pregnant - she looked exactly like me - it was surreal.
newby Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 the reason i started this thread was because a) i thought it was time for something a bit more lighthearted b) i thought it gave us all a chance to big up ourselves c) i suspected it was highly likely that the ow were far more attractive than their mm and i am curious how they manage to get us and what happens when they do, after the initial disbelief that they could get someone as hot as us?? what makes them sooo charming and adorable to us, is it because they have to work extra hard at it, i mean what have they got going for them? they are old, balding, some of them have (sob) ED and lets not forget MARRIED. how do they do it????
MsMree Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 and it is light-hearted (boy, that is appreciated!) And i think you're right on! I do think that these MM try harder - they have nothing to lose!! For me (and i suppose alot of OW) when my MM got me he couldn't believe it and continued to treat me like I was way out of his league - and he still does. This morning I woke-up to the sound of him cleaning-off my car (we got hit last night w/6 in. of snow). I like that type of treatment
lynnered Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Originally posted by newby the reason i started this thread was because a) i thought it was time for something a bit more lighthearted b) i thought it gave us all a chance to big up ourselves c) i suspected it was highly likely that the ow were far more attractive than their mm and i am curious how they manage to get us and what happens when they do, after the initial disbelief that they could get someone as hot as us?? what makes them sooo charming and adorable to us, is it because they have to work extra hard at it, i mean what have they got going for them? they are old, balding, some of them have (sob) ED and lets not forget MARRIED. how do they do it???? i enjoyed it Newby!!!
newby Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 lynnered, i enjoyed it too! msmree i should imagine that kinda treatment is highly addictive!!! i think my mm was shocked that he got me but then it went to his head and made him think HE was the great one!! Everyone, just as I suspected we are all hot with fascinating personalities!
lynnered Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Originally posted by newby lynnered, i enjoyed it too! msmree i should imagine that kinda treatment is highly addictive!!! i think my mm was shocked that he got me but then it went to his head and made him think HE was the great one!! Everyone, just as I suspected we are all hot with fascinating personalities! [/quote hey newby, my xmm this past week has been iming&emailing me like crazy his little porn queen,how he misses me,how hot i am ,nobody ever treated him like i did this is week 5 or 6 nc!! he said can i come over &get a hug? i asked him can i get a boyfriend thats not married? lol he says soon i said then,soon you can see me its driving him crazy!! eventually ill get tired but not seeing him I'm more distanced emotially,he's acting really jealous to it feels kind of nice to let him know how i feel wanting to see someone you love and cant
newby Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 wooo! lynnered!! this is great, you've totally turned the tables!!!! let him keep begging! ha ha, good for you! i hope that happens with my mm too, it must be sooo satisfying
Bubbles Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 lynnered, LMFAO! Ha, ha, ha.....you're cracking me up! I Love It......You give it to him girl! I love to hear that some-one is firm on the NC rule and you're not weak or swaying in your decision You go Baby! I don't care why you're doing it.......I'm really, really, really happy to hear that it is working for you! You've got MY respect! bubbles
newby Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 oh and lynnered, i know you wont but dont crack, you just lap it up, you deserve it!
lynnered Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 i thank you bubbles you are wise !! sorry was bitchey last we spoke(going through nc withdrawal)lol anyway he's been saying he's leaving for how long one day one day so i had him over said you call me when you get a divorce ,well 4weeks into nc he starts sweet emails ims ,I've been a little teasing ,he wants to see me bad not gonna happen!!! he even tried "when i get my tax money i wanna give you some money(never has before)said fine mail it ,all the sudden the @**hole wants to help me out ,how sweet .(ILL let him give me $$dont expect nothing from me ) he is aching for me ,I'm having fun with it i hope he leaves but I'm not holding breathe ,for once with him i have the upper hand ,and he's acting jealous not his business, but i am going to start dating soon!! bubbles you are a very strong woman ,you have my respect too ,i enjoy agreeing &disagreeing with u sometimes LOL
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