WonderKid Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 I met (not IRL) these 2 women online. We were emailing at first. Then we got numbers. I don't take getting the number as much of an accomplishment in this case, because it doesn't mean everything. But the first girl like rarely texts. I don't even come off as clingy. All I text is a good morning and hope you have a goodnight or sleep well kinda thing. She goes to bed by like 10pm. Which I have no problem with. I mean, I'm not knocking her for being busy. But it seems like at her schedule, she has no room for dating. I can't even initiate us to meet up because she rarely texts. The second woman is 31. She texts more than the other one, but still rarely does it. I don't send texts back. I went NC with them. They'll hit me with a text or three. I'm not coming off as clingy, but I'm not trying to be in someone's orbit. We've talked a bunch by now. We should be trying to set something up by now. I made plans for us to meet on the weekend. I haven't heard from her since Thursday morning. O.o Idk. I just think by now it should be some effort shown that "yeah I'm into you" rather than "he's a great person to talk to". I ain't putting no 'girl' friends into my circle. I think I'm just gonna be frank and tell them straight up.
Supernatural Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 Get off text and establish a real connection. I would call and establish a time to meet; at least by calling they can hear your voice and get a better sense of you, and you of them. To them, you're just some guy from the online world. They don't trust you or really care about you it seems. 1
Author WonderKid Posted August 15, 2014 Author Posted August 15, 2014 But that's the other thing. You call dates these days and they send you to voicemail. I feel awkward doing it now--when I used to not feel that way. I agree with you. Because I definitely hate texting. But it's like calling folks is archaic these days.
aprilisi Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 For all that is holy.... Texting, it's not a game. Try an actual phone call. I can imagine they are texting many men if the are OLD. A phone call would help you stand out from the pack. I don't see why people don't get this. 3
FitChick Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 I never text, prefer the human voice, IF I'm interested in the man. Leave a voicemail message proposing two different dates, times and activities. If they don't want to meet, say goodbye and good luck.
Author WonderKid Posted August 16, 2014 Author Posted August 16, 2014 None of them still texted. And I text first to see if they were busy so I could even attempt a call. But never got replies back. I don't do the whole "play hard to get" thing. It's pretty much over.
Westernbuddhist Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 There is a lesson here in that in western culture women have the power in dating. but also they can become disconnected when just dealing with a cold SMS. They cannot hear your voice. When i was young, we had to speak by phone and it raised our emotions. When no emotions are attached, it is really definitely to hook somebody. The only way to ensure a woman is replying to you is to have her thinking about you when you are not there. If they are avoiding catching up with you, they are not at all invested. this means you are in the friend zone. You probably should have physically escalated more and made yourself a valuable commodity to them, while at the same time making yourself scarce. men attract, women chase. When it occurs the other way around, attraction cannot be properly established to satisfy both the man and the woman. Men love life to be simpler. Women love a challenge as it inspires them 1
Author WonderKid Posted August 16, 2014 Author Posted August 16, 2014 Thanks for all the help. But I'm just not into the whole game thing. I believe if you are interested in a person you show it. All the not communicating for 3 and 5 days is silly because we could have used some of that time to plan a date and know more about eachother. Have some fun. I'm on to a new crop. I'm not gonna wait 20 mins for a "lol" or "Yeah" text. When they text me back I'll just say that I have moved on. I am pretty sure they won't lose any sleep over that.
Zippy2000 Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 But that's the other thing. You call dates these days and they send you to voicemail. I feel awkward doing it now--when I used to not feel that way. I agree with you. Because I definitely hate texting. But it's like calling folks is archaic these days. If you call someone and it goes to voicemail say firt time. Then they may have genuinely missed the call or been busy. If you maybe call 2nd or 3rd time and it goes to voicemail then its obvious they dont want to speak to you or establish any form of closer connection. I ve called a few girls and all have picked up bar one who says she is more of a texter, and she communicated that to me. Its time to give up on these 2 if things arent progressing in the next 6 months. 1
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