blackout02 Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 (edited) So I've been seeing this girl recently, its been about 6-7 or so dates. Little less than a month. So still early. But I'm having a hard time figuring this one out. -She replies to all my texts. -She has never flaked on me. -She snapchats and instragams us, holding hands, hugging, etc. to all her friends. -She's told her mom about me. -I've met all her friends. -We cuddle, hold hands, all that nonsense. -She talks about us in a "couple" form. -She's said she's confused about me and doesn't know how she feels about me yet. -She's has trouble trusting guys and has only had one BF her whole life. Now where I'm lost, or how to go about this. I can't kiss her! But everything else has been good. I've only kissed her twice technically and both time it was awkward. First kiss we were tipsy so not counting that. She wears braces and says she's self conscious about them, but I don't know if I buy into that. I obviously like her or I wouldn't be here. I don't know what to do! Could she be really that self conscious about her mouth? Or does it sound like an excuse? Like last night I went to kiss her goodnight, she refused. Said "I fell asleep and my mouth feels disgusting". A while ago she mentioned the friendzone cause she felt confused about me. I'm the first guy she's gone out with since her bad breakup, guy really hurt her. I've been seeing her a lot, maybe I need to give her the gift of missing me and see what happens. Edited August 15, 2014 by blackout02
Gaeta Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 I think after 6-7 dates she had enough time to figure out if she sees you as a romantic prospect or as a friend. I think she is leaning more towards friends. When we're attracted toward a man in a romantic way we want the closeness that brings kissing. I also think you should give her the gift of missing you. 2
Author blackout02 Posted August 15, 2014 Author Posted August 15, 2014 You think I should ask her about it? I don't know how without looking insecure. I just have never had the happen to me before and I don't want to waste my time taking her out, for just friends.
deathandtaxes Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 You can try to kiss her again. If she refuses, ask why not. Mention how important you think it is to a budding relationship, etc. I would be very curious to her answer. After so many dates and nary a kiss, I would think she's just not that into you. Sorry, OP. 1
Author blackout02 Posted August 15, 2014 Author Posted August 15, 2014 (edited) I'm usually pretty good at moving on after being friendzoned or rejected. It really doesn't bother me. Its comes with the territory of dating, you can't win em all. But this girl has been the hardest cookie to crack. I don't want to express my feelings thats usually gets you no where. But I don't want to be strung along. But I just found out that me and the girl Im going after have a mutual friend. This mutual friend worked with her and is a good friend of mine. My friend FB messages her, trying to get the inside scoop on me.. haha.. her idea not mine. She shows me the messages.. They go somewhat like this.. MyFriend: Hey (Girl Im Pursuing)! How you ya been...blah blah... Are you single? I have a friend that I want to introduce you too. GirlImPursing: Blah blah...I am single but I'm talking to this guy..(me) MyFriend: Blah Blah...well hows it going with him? GirlImPursuing: He seems like an awesome guy so far...Still getting to know him. Girl I'm pursuing doesn't know we have the mutual friend. So see what I mean? If she wasn't feeling me, I don't think she would have brought it up that she was seeing me. So I dont know.. Edited August 15, 2014 by blackout02
fred123 Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 I'm usually pretty good at moving on after being friendzoned or rejected. It really doesn't bother me. Its comes with the territory of dating, you can't win em all. But this girl has been the hardest cookie to crack. I don't want to express my feelings thats usually gets you no where. But I don't want to be strung along. But I just found out that me and the girl Im going after have a mutual friend. This mutual friend worked with her and is a good friend of mine. My friend FB messages her, trying to get the inside scoop on me.. haha.. her idea not mine. She shows me the messages.. They go somewhat like this.. MyFriend: Hey (Girl Im Pursuing)! How you ya been...blah blah... Are you single? I have a friend that I want to introduce you too. GirlImPursing: Blah blah...I am single but I'm talking to this guy..(me) MyFriend: Blah Blah...well hows it going with him? GirlImPursuing: He seems like an awesome guy so far...Still getting to know him. Girl I'm pursuing doesn't know we have the mutual friend. So see what I mean? If she wasn't feeling me, I don't think she would have brought it up that she was seeing me. So I dont know.. be careful. i did same and got caught!
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 Hmm that is a tricky one but I think you should stop thinking that it is you because I dont think it is this is something personal to her. It is either the braces or she may well suffer with Halitophobia I have a friend with it and it took them years to tell me and it had a profound impact on his relationships just like you his GF's would question the same and he was so embarrassed to admit to it that he lost relationships over it! x
oberkeat Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 You can try to kiss her again. If she refuses, ask why not. Mention how important you think it is to a budding relationship, etc. I would be very curious to her answer. After so many dates and nary a kiss, I would think she's just not that into you. Sorry, OP. Agreed. One thing you could try next time you're with her is easing into the kiss: When you're holding hands with her, kiss her hand. Then, lean in and kiss her lips. If she turns her head, follow deathandtaxes advice and ask her where this is heading (my guess is nowhere, fast).
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 Get some chewing gums and just very subtly have one and offer her one, if she takes it then wait a few minutes and again subtly try to kiss her... this should show if its brace/breath/mouth related or you! x I really dont think this is you though x
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