Addison312 Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 I also posted this in marriage/cohab...not really sure where it belongs. Last night after my 12 hour shift, my boyfriend of 1.5 years picked an argument with me. We hadn't had a fight for about a month but it seems like he feels that he needs to blow up and let his stress out which results in a 5 hour long ordeal where I'm exhausted, begging him to stop, and he just escalates and tells me everything I've been doing that isn't up to par for him. In return I become quite angry. Last night he said he is sexually, emotionally, and physically bored with me and when I told him it was one of the most hurtful things anyone has ever said to me, he didn't get it. He said "hard truths" always hurt my feelings but he says I need to hear them anyway or else things won't change. Am I just being too sensitive? He also says I was selfish when I made dinner two nights ago because he had asked for a baked potato but I made mashed because it was 90 degrees and I didn't want to use the oven. I feel he makes mountains out of molehills and now he's questioning whether he wants to marry someone like me, he says. How much can someone actually change for their partner? I am very good to him and a loving girlfriend. We are both early 30s. Is this mean behavior?
PegNosePete Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 Yes it is very mean. If someone said they were sexually, emotionally, and physically bored with me then I'd tell them to get the hell out of my house, then. Why would he want to marry you? WTF? Why in the 7 rings of Hades would YOU want to marry HIM if he is going to treat you like this? Dating is the trial period for marriage, sounds like he is failing badly.
Lernaean_Hydra Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 (edited) *DELETED* posting in duplicate thread started by OP instead. Edited August 15, 2014 by Lernaean_Hydra
ExpatInItaly Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 Yes, it is mean. And extremely immature, considering his age. Sounds like he's checked out; I would get rid of him. There are ways to address problems in a relationship; he just showed you he doesn't know how to do so without being an ass. You don't deserve someone who has such little respect for you. Out of curiosity, how was your relationship prior to this blow-out? Did you see any changes in his behaviour toward you?
Zahara Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 You are selfish because you made mashed potato instead of baked potato. He's trying to nitpick and everything about you bothers him. Sounds like he has checked out and possibly waiting for you to make the move to end it.
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