When does sexual chat become cheating?

[hoping2heal]

It's cheating as soon as it becomes "sexual chat" unless your partner knows and condones it. In which case, that is the boundaries you two have defined in your relationship.

[Anela]

I have a friend who experienced this recently, and she felt it went too far with what might be construed as cyber-sex. She felt awful, and put a stop to any more talk of that nature, with the person involved.

[Amy_D]

I've posted on several forums and after a while when you get to know the other people somehow sexual innuendoes creep up or even straight out sexual talk.

 

I'm married and like to talk about my sex with my girlfriends who I've know for years. But if I write about it on a forum and a man answers my questions and I become aroused is that a form of cheating?

 

I think this is a common problem. Marriage can be boring and the unknown strangers on the internet are filled with mystery and intrigue. On one end it is a MMORPG so you're able to free yourself from the restrictions you experience in real life. You can mold yourself into anyone you want the reader to think you are so you feel mysterious yourself. You feel all erotic and clever and put a lot of time and energy into your posts. But like the other posters told you it is fantasy and it's your imagination doing most of the work. Not the writer. So basically, it's self-release.

[brokenangel1]

strangely enough I happen to come past this thread, my wife also suffered from depression some time back and she never wanted to go out(housewife) she had this whole cyber world of her's I never really took notice of, she was on meds for her depression she also like gaming but PlayStation not second life and the other virtual world gamings

 

So she also liked forums and some social networking but not Facebook things like open chats, etc, somehow one week I got suspicious of her behavior I know it could have been the meds so I let it pass anyway things got worse and I went to the cheaters website and purchased some spy kits from them(very expensive) so when it arrived I loaded the usb onto her pc and retrieved all the history and messages to my surprise she was having a very heavy emotional affair leading to a physical one, I confronted her with proof and she just broke down, I found a way to reconcile with her but trust will always be an issue she has never been a social girl and she use to hide this from me like password protected phone and pc that is what made me suspicious

 

all the messages I recovered she even mentioned that she's a lonely girl and she gets aroused at any guys etc, so we went to the counselor and the counselor was pretty good I looked at it from her point of view, she seeked out attention because it was lacking in our relationship, could this be the problem with your relationship Dorothy? Does your husband give you attention? so five years from that emotional affair she found herself at job she's off meds but another problem came up, I won't discuss it on this post.

 

By the way are you physical attracted to your husband?

 

Hope I helped

Edited August 19, 2014 by brokenangel1
I forgot the last sentence

[Amy_D]

I've posted on several forums and after a while when you get to know the other people somehow sexual innuendoes creep up or even straight out sexual talk.

 

I'm married and like to talk about my sex with my girlfriends who I've know for years. But if I write about it on a forum and a man answers my questions and I become aroused is that a form of cheating?

 

No. It isn't cheating if you become aroused. You need to remember when people post on forums they are either bored, lonely, angry or depressed. If you're enjoying your real life you aren't spending any significant time online. The internet is filled with sexualized material. Becoming aroused is normal.

[Anela]

Have you maintained contact with a man, when this has happened? I think it's bad news, if you have.

[William]

Folks, I'm chagrined to report, so people don't respond in a sincere manner any further, it was a bit before moderation caught up a member with seven duplicate accounts posting threads and responding to them with the duplicate accounts. That member is now banned but we were loathe to delete otherwise topical threads where such actions occurred. In that vein, I'll close this one up.