FitChick Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 I wasn't willing to take drugs to block estrogen which feeds the endometriosis. You grow facial hair and get acne because your testosterone is so much higher and out of whack. Don't know if they use the same drugs today. Find a really good herbalist. I had a hysterectomy years later because I had fibroids. Surgery was a breeze.
Els Posted August 18, 2014 Posted August 18, 2014 (edited) I do think sometimes she uses her period to cancel dates. There have been other dates she has cancelled too because of it. But I have dealt with it just as if she were sick and we do try and plan around it. I guess I am coming across as being a bit selfish or an ogre and for that I am sorry. I don't like to be that way but really have never dated a woman that has to stop her life when her period comes along. That's why I came here to ask. And being a guy I have no clue what it is like. She even takes off work due to it some months. It is regular and she always feels sick, moody, bloated, unappealing, etc. I never see her as anything other than beautiful all the time and tell her so. I am worried about her health she hadn't been for a physical or dental appt in over 10 years either but I was able to convince her to go to those. She just keeps stalling on the ob/gyn. And I also don't want to nag her about going. Thanks everyone for their input it is much appreciated. I don't think you're being 'an ogre', especially in the light of her refusal to see a doctor at all. But it's very concerning that you think she is 'using it as an excuse' to cancel dates, especially at 14 months in. Why do you have so little trust in her commitment to your R? Are there other actions on her part that point to this? When I did have periods, in my LTR, I typically made sure not to schedule big days out anytime near them. It did cause some inconvenience but it was better than agreeing and then cancelling. On the rare occasion that I mistimed badly, I did cancel in the case of days where there'd be a lot of physical activity (ie theme parks or day hikes). I would still go for mostly sedentary activities like concerts where there'd also be a bathroom nearby for me to change my pads hourly (as would be required on the 1st-3rd day), but I wouldn't enjoy myself very much. Wow I'd totally forgotten how awful those days were. SO thankful for the invention of BC pills. They do come with a few side effects, but thankfully they were mild for me, and thus so very worth it. If I had such a painful cold that it stopped me going out, caused me to cancel dates and I refused to get it checked out by a doctor, then I think she would have a right to be disappointed in me. Principally, that is true - I wonder why the OP's gf is so averse to getting checked out. But, as I said, there is rarely a magic bullet that completely solves the problem, in the case of painful periods. In this sense, it's more analogous to you getting a cold every month that you can only solve by either taking long-term daily meds with side effects (that can be bad for some people)... or major surgery (that can potentially come with serious complications). She does need to get a checkup but it isn't likely to lead to a miracle easy cure like some people think. Edited August 18, 2014 by Elswyth 1
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