Ms_Kitka Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 Hi, I found an attractive stranger through a mutual friends page and asked to be added. This person did end up adding me, but now Im wondering what the best introduction is. Im thinking "thanks for the add" or "thanks for the friendship" is meh? Am I wrong? Ive written to others "Hi, nice to meet you" on their timeline with no response. This guy seems really cool and I dont want to scare him off. So, especially to the men out there, or women who have luck with this, is it better to write first time on a strangers timeline or send a private message? Whats the best way to introduce myself? I was going to "like" one of his pictures but since I havent even written anything to him yet, I thought it might seem weird and/or distant. Thank you for any suggestions.
MissBee Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 (edited) I've added a mutual friend once because I saw him comment about something I found profound on a friend's page and when I looked at his page I saw he was really into one of my favorite thinkers and had lots of quotes and ideas and thoughts on this person's philosophy. He was also attractive lol...but point is I added him not just for cuteness sake but because I liked the way he thought from his posts and we had common interests so when I requested him my message to him explained how I saw his page (through mutual friend who goes to the same school as me) and why I was adding him (my interest in his thoughts etc) and told him a little about my own interest in the same thing and said hope he didn't mind. He added me and we ended up in a long conversation about different things that was sparked from my initial interest in what he said on my friend's page. I added another guy once in a similar fashion. Well he and I were engaged in a discussion one of my friends started on FB and we were agreeing on the same points and expressing similar thoughts and ideas and after it was all done he sent me a personal message saying he appreciated a woman who could think and reason and from there I added him. So basically all my mutual friends adds have been at least built on some kind of commonality or pre-introduction by way of a discussion so it was fairly easy to message them and bring up a substantive reason as to why I added them and that made it more organic and we already had things to talk about that could lead to other things...but it's harder to imagine if your add is predicated on looks only what you could possibly say besides "I thought you were attractive and I'd love to know more about you" or something. I've never just gone through someone's list and added someone I thought was cute (I always wondered about that though like how do some people find and request me, were they simply idly looking around or what). That said...do you have anything in common with this man that you can bring up in your message? Edited August 15, 2014 by MissBee 1
Author Ms_Kitka Posted August 15, 2014 Author Posted August 15, 2014 Hi, Thank you for replying. We do have some things in common, as I cant add someone if I dont have mutual interests, I get bored real fast lol He does sound for all the major TV studios and plays guitar. Im a music photographer. Theres a band we are both friended to and they just passed through town. I could ask if he went to see them. But would it be best to write on his timeline or send him a pm about it?
todreaminblue Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 I've added a mutual friend once because I saw him comment about something I found profound on a friend's page and when I looked at his page I saw he was really into one of my favorite thinkers and had lots of quotes and ideas and thoughts on this person's philosophy. He was also attractive lol...but point is I added him not just for cuteness sake but because I liked the way he thought from his posts and we had common interests so when I requested him my message to him explained how I saw his page (through mutual friend who goes to the same school as me) and why I was adding him (my interest in his thoughts etc) and told him a little about my own interest in the same thing and said hope he didn't mind. He added me and we ended up in a long conversation about different things that was sparked from my initial interest in what he said on my friend's page. I added another guy once in a similar fashion. Well he and I were engaged in a discussion one of my friends started on FB and we were agreeing on the same points and expressing similar thoughts and ideas and after it was all done he sent me a personal message saying he appreciated a woman who could think and reason and from there I added him. So basically all my mutual friends adds have been at least built on some kind of commonality or pre-introduction by way of a discussion so it was fairly easy to message them and bring up a substantive reason as to why I added them and that made it more organic and we already had things to talk about that could lead to other things...but it's harder to imagine if your add is predicated on looks only what you could possibly say besides "I thought you were attractive and I'd love to know more about you" or something. I've never just gone through someone's list and added someone I thought was cute (I always wondered about that though like how do some people find and request me, were they simply idly looking around or what). That said...do you have anything in common with this man that you can bring up in your message? repeat for emphasis showing interest in what they actually post and what they are interested in...if they dotn post a lot you have a problem i guess....so wait until they post something you are actually interested in.........liking opinions they have or posts they like or philosophies or music even is a perfect introduction perfect step for conversation that is thoughtful and thought inducing....its interesting and can definitely lead to insight on a persons character....and form common interests and bonds.... go miss bee you summed it up perfectly....smilin...deb
Airborne Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 Like his pictures and posts until he decides to do the introducing.
Author Ms_Kitka Posted August 16, 2014 Author Posted August 16, 2014 Thank you Todreaminblue. Yes, he doesnt post a lot. Usually I have the gift of gab, but this one has to make it tough lol Im just going to like his profile pic until he writes something I can comment on to get the ball rolling. He will at least notice that (the pic like I mean). Appreciate the responses, thank you! 1
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