snappytomcat Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 hello all so most of you know my back story,if not im an xbs(don't like the bs label anymore)and my husband had a long distance affair,but we have reconciled,and its been over a year since dday. so I started a new job a few months ago,im a pet groomer,and work at a salon that has doggy daycare,so ive fallen in love with this dog,hes a mastiff mix,and just wonderful,and a couple weeks ago,i met his dad,and we have talked about jakes skin problems,and etc etc,all jake talk. im not a flirt at all,im just a really nice person,and I guess jakes daddy took my niceness as flirting,and he asked me out,i did kindly decline and tole him I was happily married,and he apologized,and I told him no worries. let me just say it did make me feel good,just wanted to share,and there is no ackwardness with jakes dad,at all hes grateful I take care of his dog.do you guys think I should tell hubby,or would thid just be boasting? thanks 1
HereNorThere Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 In the name of transparency, sure. You'd want him to tell you, so you should probably tell him. Good for you! *snap* "still got it" *snap* 4
dichotomy Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 Good for you, and no I would not say anything, unless the guy continues to pursue you. You did nothing wrong. However, I wonder if it was clear to the guy you were married when he asked (or if he was married?) 2
enya46 Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 snappytomcat, I wouldn't tell H about your conversation with jakes's dad. I would keep it for myself as a flattering moment, since that is what it was for you. No reasons to feel guilty about that or to give it more importsnce than it has by telling H. Of course, if you and H tell each other everything, then...why not. I just wouldn't know what tone to use when telling hubby or in what context to tell. It would either come out like: hey, if I wanted, I could have too, but see, I'm different....or it would come out like a sort of test to see if H is jealous. Don't know... You may experience (lucky you!) more such flattering moments in your life, and that's what they are: nice moments, from nice people who are interested in getting to know you and share their time with you. Your answer to Jake's dad was perfect and no harm done. E. 2
A.Moscote Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 Of course, if you and H tell each other everything, then...why not. I just wouldn't know what tone to use when telling hubby or in what context to tell... Maybe with the same tone and context used in the opening thread, just something nice and flattering. It would be a good step to nurture/show how to be open and transparent. Of course, I belief snappytomcat knows better if it would just create tension or unnecessary hurt between both of them. 3
woinlove Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 Maybe with the same tone and context used in the opening thread, just something nice and flattering. It would be a good step to nurture/show how to be open and transparent. Of course, I belief snappytomcat knows better if it would just create tension or unnecessary hurt between both of them. Agree with this. Your post has a nice tone and I'm sure if you decide to, you could share it with your H in a similar way. My H and I share things like this with each other. But I don't know your M or either of you - you're the best judge. Still, if this is the sort of thing you two might not typically share and you'd like to, this seems like a nice, positive event to start with. 1
WasOtherWoman Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 (edited) Awesome . I would tell!! Last year I was at a baseball game with co-workers (totally not something I would normally do, but really kinda had to...). A "youngish" man kept trying to talk to me. Of course, I didn't respond, but it was certainly flattering and I did go home and tell my husband about it. He responded "good for you baby, you still got it". We laughed and that was it. He knew it made me feel good and loved that it happened to me Edited August 15, 2014 by WasOtherWoman edited: typo 1
thummper Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 Ha, ha you little heartbreaker! I told you on an earlier post that I thought you were probably a very attractive woman, and you proved me right!! Wonder how many other guys have also "looked you over?" I said it before: Your husband is a lucky man. 2
Author snappytomcat Posted August 15, 2014 Author Posted August 15, 2014 Good for you, and no I would not say anything, unless the guy continues to pursue you. You did nothing wrong. However, I wonder if it was clear to the guy you were married when he asked (or if he was married?) the man is a little older than me,and my boss said his wife passed away a few years ago,and I don't wear my wedding ring to work,as im washing many cats,and dogs and my hair is a mess,no makeup,ripped jeans,i probably smell like dog,so I never thought this would happen at work,but he did apologize,and he did mention he didn't notice a ring,
Author snappytomcat Posted August 16, 2014 Author Posted August 16, 2014 Ha, ha you little heartbreaker! I told you on an earlier post that I thought you were probably a very attractive woman, and you proved me right!! Wonder how many other guys have also "looked you over?" I said it before: Your husband is a lucky man. thumper,you sure know how to make a girl feel good,thank you 2
Author snappytomcat Posted August 16, 2014 Author Posted August 16, 2014 thank you all for the replies my husband,and I haven spent much time together this week,cause hes been going to my dads everyday to help him build a deck,and hes been getting home kinda late,and we are both tired. he asked me last night if I want to go out for breakfast before work,i said sure,so at breakfast he asked me hows work?anything exciting happen this week?i said no but someone did ask me out at work,and his response was,im surprised it doesn't happen more often cause your beautiful inside,and out,but I could tell that he was a little jealous just didn't want to show it
Hope Shimmers Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 It's that beautiful long hair! (I remember your posts to that thread about guys loving long hair Plus your beautiful personality. I agree - your H is a very lucky guy and he knows it... 2
Author snappytomcat Posted August 16, 2014 Author Posted August 16, 2014 It's that beautiful long hair! (I remember your posts to that thread about guys loving long hair Plus your beautiful personality. I agree - your H is a very lucky guy and he knows it... awww thank you hope,and right back atcha
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