CoolBurn Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 I've been talking to this guy for about two months. Three weeks ago he decided to end it with this girl he had been seeing on and off for the past 7-8 months, although I did not have an effect on the relationship. After they ended it our friendship took a romantic turn, but he claims it's too soon for him and I genuinely understand him. Now the ex is back on the scene after an alleged 'mobbing' that happened to her after apparently her purse was stolen when out with friends. Certainly, our damsel in distress needed saving from out already gone prince. Now he feels bad because he couldn't help her while I'm out here deciding how to react, if I need to react at all. I don't WANT him talking to her but I'm in no position to be demanding or setting rules because I'm not a gf, just a love interest right now. I'm currently maintaining my neutrality saying that these are his battles and that only he can decide who he puts in his life. Lately I've been worrying that I'm being TOO understanding, and that this may turn into a disregard for my feelings from his side in certain situations. Should I be more demanding? Or should I keep my cool and neutrality and just let him choose?
SummerLuvR Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 Be careful of the rebound relationship.... It looks like he is already bouncing around.... I wouldn't get too invested in this guy until he has settled for a while... If you can maintain a friendship without getting too emotional then go ahead... JMHO..... 1
MissBee Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 (edited) Let him choose. You guys aren't yet an item so personally I'd not get caught up with if he is talking to her or not. If he is serious about you he will eventually stop talking to her and focus on you. However, they JUST broke up...he already said he isn't ready, you should expect that all his feelings for her aren't completely gone and he'll understandably be sympathetic towards her since all this happened recently. Just continue thinking of him as a friend and allow things to be casual and allow him to naturally move away from her and be ready to date you. But the biggest problem I see is you setting yourself up to be in a sort of rebound scenario by being ready to date a man who hasn't even been single for a month yet. It's not wise OP. Even as the dumper it takes time to be truly emotionally available to date again. He dated this girl for almost a year...it will take more than 3 weeks of being broken up to absolutely not speak to her or care about her life and be invested in you. Edited August 15, 2014 by MissBee 1
Assasda Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 What you can do is just keep on having fun with him
preraph Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 You just keep going out with other people until he gets his house in order. No reason to put yourself through that. Tell him, well, if you end up really ending it, let me know. Best to stay out of the way until he does.
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