ColoradoSouthpaw Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 Me and my girl were together for roughly 1.5 years. back in March she was going through my emails and saw one I had sent to a female on craigslist. Needless to say, she was very upset and hurt. I apologized profusely. a couple weeks later we went on a long weekend trip to the mountains. Things were great and it was like things were just fine. After we got back she decided that she needed a week of NC. I gave her that. She came back and things were awkward. There was noticeable tension for about two weeks. She then decided she needed another NC week. After that she decided that things were done. She told me to move on because thats what she planned to do. It has been just over a month of NC at this point. I would like to try to reopen communication with her. Is it even possible? If so, how do I go about it?
leoc1973 Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 Find a girl that you don't wanna cheat on. Its called love and you are cheating yourself and her if you are with someone and still wanting to cheat. Everyone should be with someone who is their entire world and the thought of cheating isn't an option. 4
leavesonautumn Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 Why did you want to cheat on her? What was the relationship like before you cheated? What happened between you and this other person? Honestly, you should just let her move on. You broke the trust between you two and finding it again would be very tough. Might even be impossible on her part and the relationship will never be the same again. Focus on yourself and avoid cheating in your next relationship.
Dork Vader Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 Okay so I've been going through a rather hard break up. It is difficult to explain but my ex was a tad promiscuous. I don't believe she physically cheated at any point. But texting and what not was a huge issue. That said.. Even though I was the dumpee (and dumper).. She came back via text messages. I was VERY resistant to the text messages and phone calls. In all honesty if you want her back you're going to have to do a hell of a lot more then just call or text. Example send flowers.. Only do it once if she doesn't respond she is done.
imfine Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 Cheating is never okay but you actually sought out another woman on Craigslist. It's not like a drunken ONS. You went looking to cheat. Please respect her wishes & let her go. 2
mangetout Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 Damage is done PERMANENTLY. Even if you begged and did everything she asks of you, your relationship will never be as good as it use to be. She will never trust you 100 percent and this incident will always come up. I actually applaud her for leaving because she is saving both of you a lot of pain in the long run. Believe me I know. My ex fiancé cheated on me two years ago and it's devastated all the good we had together. It's so sad. Leave her be and learn from this 3
No Limit Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 She's obviously taken a lot of time to think about her actions, and in the end decided she could do better than a guy who cheats on her. Move on, and find someone you're actually attracted to while you're at it.
Lovemesomehim Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 There is nothing left for you to do but to leave her alone. You've already caused enough heartache in her life and trusting you again would be too much for her. She went NC to think the relationship through and decided to leave. Respect her for wanting to protect herself from further hurt. 1
AntonDaems Posted August 17, 2014 Posted August 17, 2014 I don't really believe in what they all say , yes you cheated and it happened , you can learn from your mistakes ... I know a few people that got back togheter where cheating played a huge role in there relationship . but now they back togheter , stronger and better then before ..
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