Crila16 Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 I met my boyfriend in May. We were in Napa with a group of people when we met. He chased and pursued me the entire trip, and would say "you know we're going to end up getting married". He lives in Chicago, I live in NYC. He’s also been divorced 8 years (after a 14 yr marriage) and has 2 children. He has pretty much come to see me in NYC every 2 weeks. Things have been progressing beautifully. We talk or txt almost every day, and all we do is laugh. I actually really like this guy as a person. He makes me feel so happy…not to mention things in the bedroom are amazing. Well he and I have discussed a future. He is divorced 8 years, after a 14 yrs of marriage, and has 2 children with his ex. He wants to have another child, and wants it to be with me (I’m getting older, so it’s not like I have forever). I told him if things keep progressing the way they have, then I would actually move to Chicago, because he can’t leave his kids or his job. He got teared up and said “you’d do that for me?” I said “Of course. If it meant us being together.” Only thing though, if I’m upheaving my life in a year, I don’t want to move without at least an engagement ring on the finger. He agreed and said if things keep progressing the way they have, you’ll have one within 6 months. He is also coming here for 17 days (he has that time off) in September, and wants to bring his kids for the first half of the week. I’ve only spoken to them on the phone, and they want me to be their daddy's girlfriend (so cute). Anyway, his ex took him to court for yet another time, to get child support this past Monday. Thing is, he doesn’t have to pay child support, because they have shared custody. Since she’s always working, he actually has them more than she does. He called me on Saturday, we talked for over an hour, and I asked him if he was nervous about court. He said a little, but he knows she won’t get a dime. Well…we talked about a bunch of stuff, and he again talked about coming to NYC for his 17 days,but just needed to check with his work, so he could give me the exact days (he’s a fireman). He also talked about me coming to Chicago next weekend, because I haven’t been there. He wants me to meet the kids too, but not my first time in Chicago. He wants it to be just us the first time I'm there, so he can show me the sights. Then he told me he really missed me and I said I missed him and couldn’t wait to see him. His court date came on Monday, and I wished him luck. He said they weren’t going to give an answer right away, but he was still nervous. I told him it would be fine, once he got there he wouldn’t be nervous anymore. I haven’t heard from him since. It’s Thursday. I txt yesterday morning to see if everything was ok (he usually says good morning. I didn't get a response. I called…no response. I txt again last night and said “I haven’t heard from you, if you’ve changed your mind about us, that’s fine, but just let me know you’re ok.” No response. I’m so confused and hurt right now. I have no idea what’s going on. I haven’t really heard from him since Saturday, except for the one response to my txt on Monday. He didn't even call me that night to tell me how it went. This is unlike him to not contact me for 5 days. There are pics of us all over his facebook, so I don't think it's another woman...or maybe it is. I don't know. My head hurts.
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