moonlightpath Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 Lately i haven't been feeling like eating much. All I had today was a bit of pasta, water, and coffee. I don't even feel hungry. How has your appetite been? My sleeping schedule has been way off as well. I went to sleep at 2am and woke up at 7am.
music_and_poetry Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 Lol funny I did the opposite. I was always very healthy and active. When the break-up happened all I wanted to do was sit around and eat pizza and ice-cream. Which I did - for about 2 weeks! I gained 5 lbs but I am getting back on track at this point and starting to feel healthy and like myself again 1
Author moonlightpath Posted August 14, 2014 Author Posted August 14, 2014 (edited) Lol funny I did the opposite. I was always very healthy and active. When the break-up happened all I wanted to do was sit around and eat pizza and ice-cream. Which I did - for about 2 weeks! I gained 5 lbs but I am getting back on track at this point and starting to feel healthy and like myself again I just came back from my daily jog. I wasn't even able to finish half of it without breaking down crying Edited August 14, 2014 by moonlightpath typo
OwMyEyeball Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 Loss of appetite is a pretty common symptom of love sickness/a broken heart. I've experienced it a couple of times myself, even when I was physically active and would have thought my body would be craving the calories. Your body should still be getting some food in you so I'd recommend switching over to liquids (smoothies, soups, etc.).They're easier to pack down than solid foods and do the trick for nutrition. Your appetite and sleep cycle will stabilize over time. Don't try to force it. 1
Author moonlightpath Posted August 14, 2014 Author Posted August 14, 2014 Honestly, a part of me doesn't even want to sleep at night. it makes me feel lonely. If that makes sense lol.
ResilienSea Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 Yes I stopped eating and lost 20 pounds without trying. Still only sleep one hour at a time, each time waking and then after A split second... REMEMBERING ... And then feeling like I'm in a horror movie. 1
Author moonlightpath Posted August 14, 2014 Author Posted August 14, 2014 Yes I stopped eating and lost 20 pounds without trying. Still only sleep one hour at a time, each time waking and then after A split second... REMEMBERING ... And then feeling like I'm in a horror movie. How long has it been for you? Lately i find myself getting random flashbacks of things we have done together. Its painful.
ResilienSea Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 A YEAR. I flashback all the time. I went through an awful period where every thought was consumed with what he was doing with his new girlfriend. That's kind of subsided. Ok not really. But I have those kind of flashes more than ones of he and I together.
todreaminblue Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 (edited) whenever i am upset and cant vocalize it .....its too complex.....i don't feel like eating and i don't sleep or both as it progresses without resolution......its inner turmoil i cant control or signify and resolve....so my body ends up knowing that and it starts to mess up...sleep patterns eating patterns then motivation and well being......if ti gets to that point i notify someone ....just has to be one person i trust to talk to let them know i am struggling........because broken heart s can be susceptible to depression, it just takes one real friend to hear you ..........depends on the person...with me it is...i try to do the things i love and when i dont love them anymore..i try to hang with good hearted people who are understanding i try my best not to retreat ..theres an issue needs solving sooner than later....reach otu to friends do the things you love go easy on yourself when you cant manage to be happy go lucky all the time..deb Edited August 14, 2014 by todreaminblue 1
Author moonlightpath Posted August 14, 2014 Author Posted August 14, 2014 Thanks Deb I slept better last night. But I woke up feeling tired still. I feel a little hungry but food tastes flavorless. I feel like the only thing I enjoy consuming is coffee. 1
JDPT Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 totally normal, I used to go days without eating during the first few months post BU. You will eventually get back to your routine and find a balance. 2
Author moonlightpath Posted August 14, 2014 Author Posted August 14, 2014 I hope so. Because I just want to feel normal again. 1
todreaminblue Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 I hope so. Because I just want to feel normal again. i think findimg normal is an elusive artform i havent mastered yet....i just know when i am happy and when i am not i used to think my relationship was normal and strong...it wasnt ...it was me who was trying to force normal and strong through everything until i couldnt fight it anymore...... when breakups happen they change you this is unavoidable especially if you are the dumpee.....and for the most part this is for your betterment so you can move on to bigger and better things......during the transition to bigger and better, you need to take some time for you to say goodbye to what was, how long that is is really not definable...so dont feel strange if it takes longer .......none of us are really normal you know.......we change often, what was "normal" for us needs change, it didnt work the first time so it wont work again we need to reflect and grow .......heal......find ourselves....and then you move on with a resolved heart in knowing you deserve better than just"normal" you deserve more than ordinary ...you deserve extraordinary...because we all are that.......be you....because there is no normal....you are special so be special and theres no one like you in the world...so be good to you.......hugs..deb 1
Author moonlightpath Posted August 14, 2014 Author Posted August 14, 2014 What just kills me is that I have to return to the city we both live in in 10 days. I know I won't unexpectedly run into him. Since we attend different universities and each live on opposite sides of the city. But I'm just scared that once I return I'm not going to even know what to so. He is all I know. I turned him into my best friend and I never tried to make other friends because I thought he was all I needed. Now I'm going back to my uni with almost no friends. I don't feel well at all. I feel anxious throughout the day and I feel down sometimes. Or sometimes I even feel semi ok but then the sadness comes crashing down on me.
todreaminblue Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 What just kills me is that I have to return to the city we both live in in 10 days. I know I won't unexpectedly run into him. Since we attend different universities and each live on opposite sides of the city. But I'm just scared that once I return I'm not going to even know what to so. He is all I know. I turned him into my best friend and I never tried to make other friends because I thought he was all I needed. Now I'm going back to my uni with almost no friends. I don't feel well at all. I feel anxious throughout the day and I feel down sometimes. Or sometimes I even feel semi ok but then the sadness comes crashing down on me. do you dance? what exactly do you feel when you watch this? 1
love1336x Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 I lost eight pounds because of my break up. That was the first month. My eating habits are back to normal now. I like the fact I can fit into my clothes better. 1
Author moonlightpath Posted August 15, 2014 Author Posted August 15, 2014 do you dance? what exactly do you feel when you watch this? I do. But haven't in a while. And I honestly just feel annoyed. I've been very irritable lately.
Polak Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 I turned him into my best friend and I never tried to make other friends because I thought he was all I needed. Now I'm going back to my uni with almost no friends. This happened to me as well back when the ex left me but not to the same extent. Nonetheless I know how you feel and I know it can be weird. For me, I got to spend a lot of time with myself afterwards, and I turned that into a positive experience. So it's all what you make of it. To re-connect with a few of my friends, I apologized to them straight up, explaining that I focused on her as my "only" friend and that I was sorry about ignoring them. Every friend I apologized to told me not to worry about it, as if it never happened! It was great. As for the eating habits... I increased my intake of snacks to an almost constant rate to battle my sad feelings haha. It was rather ridiculous. If I had not been blessed with a killer metabolism I'm sure I would have felt horrible most of the time, but I seemed to be like a garbage disposal, consuming vast quantities of food without any side-effects whatsoever. It'll get better with time! Remember to think positive 1
Author moonlightpath Posted August 15, 2014 Author Posted August 15, 2014 This happened to me as well back when the ex left me but not to the same extent. Nonetheless I know how you feel and I know it can be weird. For me, I got to spend a lot of time with myself afterwards, and I turned that into a positive experience. So it's all what you make of it. To re-connect with a few of my friends, I apologized to them straight up, explaining that I focused on her as my "only" friend and that I was sorry about ignoring them. Every friend I apologized to told me not to worry about it, as if it never happened! It was great. As for the eating habits... I increased my intake of snacks to an almost constant rate to battle my sad feelings haha. It was rather ridiculous. If I had not been blessed with a killer metabolism I'm sure I would have felt horrible most of the time, but I seemed to be like a garbage disposal, consuming vast quantities of food without any side-effects whatsoever. It'll get better with time! Remember to think positive Its hard to make such a bad feeling positive. Lol. But I'm trying.
guest569 Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 I ate hardly anything for a month or two and lost a lot of weight from the stress. Scariest part was when I finally ate something made myself throw up. 7 months on, I am still struggling. I did manage to get my appetite back for a while but now I am back to starving and then having the occasional junk food binge. It sux.. 1
JDPT Posted August 15, 2014 Posted August 15, 2014 Accept and embrace your current mental state. All these emotions that appear to rush you simultaneously is simply part of the process of "purging" what was so deeply engraved in you. Keep in mind that this too shall pass, and that you will slowly but surely breathe again, enjoy life and find happiness and whatever you chose to set your mind to. Surround yourself with people who truly care about you and are in a position where they can provide you with good, solid words of advice. Nothing remains stagnant, absolutely nothing and neither will you. Life goes and so will you, keep that in mind and know that this was simply a bump on the road as you continue on with your journey. 1
Author moonlightpath Posted August 15, 2014 Author Posted August 15, 2014 I ate hardly anything for a month or two and lost a lot of weight from the stress. Scariest part was when I finally ate something made myself throw up. 7 months on, I am still struggling. I did manage to get my appetite back for a while but now I am back to starving and then having the occasional junk food binge. It sux.. I actually feel a bit nauseous right now.A bit shaky as well. Probably because I drank black coffee lol. I feel hungry but food isn't that appitizing.
Author moonlightpath Posted August 15, 2014 Author Posted August 15, 2014 Accept and embrace your current mental state. All these emotions that appear to rush you simultaneously is simply part of the process of "purging" what was so deeply engraved in you. Keep in mind that this too shall pass, and that you will slowly but surely breathe again, enjoy life and find happiness and whatever you chose to set your mind to. Surround yourself with people who truly care about you and are in a position where they can provide you with good, solid words of advice. Nothing remains stagnant, absolutely nothing and neither will you. Life goes and so will you, keep that in mind and know that this was simply a bump on the road as you continue on with your journey. I like to think of this as just a phase. I just want it to be over with. I hate having random flashbacks and dreams. I'm just glad that everyday I feel a little more angry. I would rather feel anger over sadness any day.
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